FMIL is starting already! She told me the other day that I need to go to the Hilton to look at the suites for me and my girls to get ready in and for FH and I to stay in the night of the wedding. I told her I would get it done this week. Well, at 9am she leaves me a voicemail at work saying she called and spoke to them and I can go down there after work today to tour the rooms and pick out which one I want. And if she didn't hear from me by 9:30 she would call me back. OMG! No, I can't go there after work today. I'll go there when I have time. Sorry, but I work all day. And I am planning a wedding, yes me, not you!!
Maybe next she'll tell me when I can sleep and eat!
leafgirl
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Sounds like she is just being helpful and maybe you should set some ground rules
MrsB2BE
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I agree - Before things get worse you need to talk to her and make sure there is an understanding. I can tell she has a controlling mentality and you don't want that!!
cookiemonster
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i totally learned the hard way that you need to nip that behavior in the bud as soon as you see it starting. she may think she's just being helpful but it's actually coming off as annoying and controlling. if you get along with her, channel her helpful-ness into other areas and try to include her in things that don't affect your schedule. if not, tell her straight up that you are taking care of this - and you DON'T need to report back to her afterwards either!!
Aug07OFCbride
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Is there any nice way for you to explain to her that you really appreciate all of her help but that things are so chaotic right now, that youre just trying to do things at your own pace. I don't know how youd exactly say it but it sounds like shes just really trying to help and doesnt realize its bothering you.
diva7531
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Yup, nip this in the bud, call her back and let her know you will swing by the hotel when you have the chance and let her know when you have. With work and all the planning, your schedule is hectic, thank you for the help, but you can schedule your own appts!
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Sounds like she is just being helpful and maybe you should set some ground rules
I agree. Just let her know you appreciate what she is doing for you, but tonight just won't work.......
SuzArtie69
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Sounds like FMIL needs a talking too, set her straight now before it gets way out of hand. Simply explain that she can't make plans for you, because she simply doesn't know your schedule.
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Posted by kokopelia
Sounds like she is just being helpful and maybe you should set some ground rules
I agree. Just let her know you appreciate what she is doing for you, but tonight just won't work.......
I agree. However I will say that if i had someone setting up appointments for me and making those types of calls related to the hotel stuff i think i would have been happy to not have been dealing with it myself. I kinda like having the ground work done and then just being told where to show up. Granted its important that it does fit itno your schedule.
