OMG! HELP! OPINIONS! VENT!

happychelle Posted: May 04, 2010 09:05 PM

OMG! HELP! OPINIONS! VENT!

edited for lurkers - thanks for your help ladies...im sure it will work out - somehow

20mrsc10 Posted: May 04, 2010 09:07 PM

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i kinda agree that 450 is a bit..heck my bms are complaining about 250..

is there anyway your mom could downgrade it slightly? or just ask them for a lesser amount and cover the difference?

FutureCap Posted: May 04, 2010 09:08 PM

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oooh yikes. This is tough one. Mybe you can encourage your mom to step the shower down a notch to make it more affordable?

halfbaked Posted: May 04, 2010 09:08 PM

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My BMs were complaining about like $30. $450 is a LOT, I wouldn't be happy about it either.

happychelle Posted: May 04, 2010 09:09 PM

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Posted by 20mrsc10

i kinda agree that 450 is a bit..heck my bms are complaining about 250..

is there anyway your mom could downgrade it slightly? or just ask them for a lesser amount and cover the difference?

That would be ideal - and that is what I suggested too! I dont know how they are going to handle this - I almost wish i didnt know about it because I am totally stressed and embarassed that they even asked that amount!!!!!

joctorre Posted: May 04, 2010 09:12 PM

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oooh, I'm so sorry. I'm not sure what I would do. And I know how you feel for being upset about it all around....

Susan2010 Posted: May 04, 2010 09:12 PM

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That is alot. Traditionally I believe it is the job of the bridal party to host the shower, but these days I hear of alot of moms doing it. When I was in my friends wedding, her mom paid for the restaurant and we took care of the invites, favors, decorations and chipped in for a group gift.

Jna2010 Posted: May 04, 2010 09:15 PM

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may be your mom can ask how much they feel comfortable paying and then she can foot the rest?

JAAMS Posted: May 04, 2010 09:18 PM

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Wow...I think $450 is a lot. Can your mom maybe ask them what their budget is and then work with that?

wenR Posted: May 04, 2010 09:19 PM

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ouch!
That is a lot of $$.

I don't know what ur mom has planned but she really should have checked with the BMs.
$450 is a lot of money.

Maybe she can get the venue moved to a less expensive plande or find other ways they can contribute.

SoontobeGallagher Posted: May 04, 2010 09:21 PM

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Oh my Lord!! I would faint if someone asked me for that much money. I do agree with you and the BM's. I'm sorry you have to stress about your own shower.

netsirk10 Posted: May 04, 2010 09:22 PM

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my mom is paying for my shower (mainly because all my bm's are my younger sisters who are in their teens and have no money). but imo i think $450 is a lot of $$$$.

elp6421 Posted: May 04, 2010 09:24 PM

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I am with you $450 is a lot of money to ask!!! I mean that half of a thousand!!!

My mom is not asking for any $$ from my bridesmaids, just their help getting things ready.

MzDaniBaby Posted: May 04, 2010 09:26 PM

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My Bridal shower is being completely funded by my mother along with my god mother's creative and artistic talents and my FMIL contributing the cake. She only asked my BM's to do all the hosting, game and decorating work. The BMs are also getting the favors but they decided to do that on their own. Thats it. Technically your Bm's don't have to contribute anything money wise if they are not able to though it is a nice gesture if they do. $450 is a heck of a lot. Are they also planning a bachelorette night for you too? I think mom should have spoken to them first and ask them what they were working with before making any solid decisions. But in many family tradition Moms do it all on their own.

MrsCM Posted: May 04, 2010 09:28 PM

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I think it's a lot. My girls ended up not contributing that way and honestly, I didn't feel that they had to. It would have been nice not to have it all fall on my mom but it isn't really their responsibility, imo.

Fruitloop Posted: May 04, 2010 10:03 PM

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That's a lot of $$$. I'm sorry you're caught in the middle. Maybe u can try to talk to her about choosing a place that doesn't cost as much (I mean $450 x 7 bridesmaids = more $$$ than my e-party).

I'm pretty sure my parents are paying for my entire shower (my mom still INSISTS on keeping it a surprise so I don't really know). If my mom asked my BMs to pay any $$ it was probably for favors or games. She knows that my cousin (MOH) is in grad school and has a part time job but doesn't make much $$$, my bff (BM) is back in school w/ no job, one of my other BMs just bought a house w/ her bf etc.... so $$$ is tight w/ everyone.

Let your mom know that u appreciate that she is trying to make your shower really special, but it is too much $$$ to ask from everyone.