my friends just recently got engaged.. (which they should never have in the first place) but all of us were a little sceptical... thye have been together for almost 4 years and he did it cause ' he felt it was time' ..... anyway... she had cheated on him like years ago and last weekend when he was out of town we saw her at a bar at :30 in the a.m. making out with the guy that she used to hook up with... WITH HER RING ON!!!! she is a freakin moron and at the engagement party no one wanted to give them presents cause they said that it wouldnt last.. no one gave speeches.. its really f*ed up... but none of the guys want to say anything to him cause they dont think its their place... all us girls are like 'are you freakin kidding me!!! tell him' but we can say anthing cause he will just get mad!!!! oh what to do what to do???
ChrissynRicky
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IMHO: i wouldn't say anything...not my place
Brassgirl9
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I would tell him anyway. Even if he gets mad and doesn't listen. He will probably get mad and ask everyone else who will probably tell him what they saw as well. So it's better that he's pissed and knows then let him think everything is ok.
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someone needs to tell him...too bad you didn't have a camera on you at the time...you could have anonymously sent him the pic in the mail. I feel bad for him, but he should definitely know.
LImama
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Does anyone know the girl well enough to confront her with the info?
sandelion23
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omg crazy stuff.
she didn't see you?? maybe tell her you saw her and say that SHE should tell your friend herself?
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If he is your friend and your Loyalty is to him, I would tell him. I always say put yourself in the other person's shoes, I would want to know.
Don't let him make the mistake of marrying this person and then finding out her true colors. If you tell him and he does not listen or goes with it anyway, at least you know you tried.
Sounds to me like she does not deserve him anyway
JMO
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well the problem is none of us can stand her and she knows it so if someone does say anything she will just blow it off i think. i mean she was stupid enough to be doing that with us right there... in the corner though.. but that shows you what at arse she is....
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How do you tell them? Simple, you don't....IMO, in no way is that you place to say anything
ETA: I just wanted to say, if she cheated in the past, maybe he knows what is going on...maybe they have 'an arrangement'....just throwing that out there.......
neener1211
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He should know, as I stated above, but I like what someone else said...she should be telling him...
ali120206
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I think it would be more effective if it came from one of his guy friends!
Does she know that you saw her doing that?
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How can you let someone get married when you know that the fiance is cheating on him.. If it were me I would want someone to tell me!
cammolax23
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no she has no clue that we saw her.. she was hammered... and there was only like 3 of us.. but none of the guys including DH want to say anything ... but they do want him to know.. we dont want to see him get hurt in the long run... they just got engaged maybe 1 month ago... he is too good of a guy,.... and i agree that the boys need to say something, not us girls, but im sure ill be out with her one night and she will be doing something stupid and ill say it thenhaha
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IMHO, someone should tell him. Did he know about it the first time?? All I know is that if my FH cheated on me, I would want to know.
eden
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How horrible, definitely tell the guy, you'll save him the wedding money and the grief in the long run!
Or if you know where she will be, set it up so he can see it for himself. Then nobody will have to say anything, he can see for himself and confront her...
That marriage will not last, you will be doing the poor guy a favor!
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That just happened to my friend. His wife has been cheating on him since day 1,now they've been married less than a year, there's a baby and the paternity is questionable. The divorce is nasty and very sad.
IMO someone needs to tell him. It hurst now but it's nothing like the heartache he'll endure later. She's not going to stop. And I agree it has to come from one of the boys.
LImama
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Also, imagine how embarrassed he will be to find out later AND find out that his friends knew and said nothing!
It's an awful spot for you to be in, I wish you the best!
Let us know how it works out.
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Posted by mrsh2b
That just happened to my friend. His wife has been cheating on him since day 1,now they've been married less than a year, there's a baby and the paternity is questionable. The divorce is nasty and very sad.
IMO someone needs to tell him. It hurst now but it's nothing like the heartache he'll endure later. She's not going to stop. And I agree it has to come from one of the boys.
thats exactly what im afraid of happening... they both live out of town...together..and it only 'happens' when she comes back to NY but she has hit on both DH( which was a whole other story in itself) and his brothers... and all their friends.. I have a feeling that she has been doing this a lot in the past but this is the first time we have caught her.
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I don't care whose place it is.... someone has to tell him. If my friends knew for a fact that my FI was cheating on me and didn't tell me before we got married, I would feel angry and betrayed. I wouldn't hesitate to tell a friend this.
It's his choice if he wants to call it off or not, but he shouldn't be left in the dark when everyone else knows. This is his future and his happiness we're talking about here.
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I'm kinda piggy-backing on someone else's idea but maybe you should confront HER and tell her that she has to tell him.... but maybe you give her an ultimatum that you are going to tell him if she doesn't. That way if they do have some sort or twisted arrangement, she can tell you that and save you from getting involved unnecessarily? I dont know, it stinks either way but it's sooooo much easier to break off a marriage before it happens!
