my friends just recently got engaged.. (which they should never have in the first place) but all of us were a little sceptical... thye have been together for almost 4 years and he did it cause ' he felt it was time' ..... anyway... she had cheated on him like years ago and last weekend when he was out of town we saw her at a bar at :30 in the a.m. making out with the guy that she used to hook up with... WITH HER RING ON!!!! she is a freakin moron and at the engagement party no one wanted to give them presents cause they said that it wouldnt last.. no one gave speeches.. its really f*ed up... but none of the guys want to say anything to him cause they dont think its their place... all us girls are like 'are you freakin kidding me!!! tell him' but we can say anthing cause he will just get mad!!!! oh what to do what to do???
ChrissynRicky
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If you do decide to confront her or him directly, just be prepared that you might end up losing a friend. If they end going past this 'cheating' issue...and stay together, there will most likely be resentment held towards you.
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Posted by ChrissynRicky
If you do decide to confront her or him directly, just be prepared that you might end up losing a friend. If they end going past this 'cheating' issue...and stay together, there will most likely be resentment held towards you.
oh thats already happened with us...whenever they fight.. its she's a bv*tich this, and she ***** at life that... then when they make up we are still left with a bad taste in our mouths from her and she knows it.. she was one of those girls that was like its either your friends since kindergarden or me.. you choose..
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Posted by ChrissynRicky
If you do decide to confront her or him directly, just be prepared that you might end up losing a friend. If they end going past this 'cheating' issue...and stay together, there will most likely be resentment held towards you.
oh thats already happened with us...whenever they fight.. its she's a bv*tich this, and she ***** at life that... then when they make up we are still left with a bad taste in our mouths from her and she knows it.. she was one of those girls that was like its either your friends since kindergarden or me.. you choose..
Please don't take this the wrong way....but why is she constantly bringing up your name? or is she bringing up all his friends (and your friends obviously) when there's an issue?
I personally wouldn't want my DH's friends in our relationship (business per se)
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no its not just me singled out, but my dh's brother is his best friend since kindergarden...and they are practically attached at the hip.. and he just got married to a great girl, beautiful wedding, ( he was the best man ) and she was a trainwreck that night too .. the problem is our group of friends are all sooooo close and so tight with each other and then all of a sudden she came into the picture and tried to break it up thinking that she was the only person in his life...I jsut want him to be happy and I know and that he wont be with her...
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no its not just me singled out, but my dh's brother is his best friend since kindergarden...and they are practically attached at the hip.. and he just got married to a great girl, beautiful wedding, ( he was the best man ) and she was a trainwreck that night too .. the problem is our group of friends are all sooooo close and so tight with each other and then all of a sudden she came into the picture and tried to break it up thinking that she was the only person in his life...I jsut want him to be happy and I know and that he wont be with her...
OOOOOoohh..now I understand.
Thanks!
You have a tough situation on your hands...good luck on whatever you decide.
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how about an anonymous letter to her?
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I was thinking an anon letter to HIM! Let him decide to confront her or trap her. At least get the wheels turning in his head that she is up to something.
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I agree, someone should tell him. He should know.
Maybe send him an anonymous letter? Can you just speak to him? I would hate to find out later I married a cheater because my friends didnt want to tell me.
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its one thing if the girl cheated on him and they were dating and you didnt wanna tell him, but he's making a lifelong commitment to a girl that hasnt been commited since day 1! you DEFINETELY need to tell him. divorce is too expensive and too messy.
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You should have taken pics and mailed them to him. This way there is no disputing what you saw. She cant deny it, he cant be blind to it, and you cant get blamed for it.
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I would tell him, even if he gets mad. You should have gotten a opic if you have picture phone. what a terrible thing to do, she does not deserve him............
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its one thing if the girl cheated on him and they were dating and you didnt wanna tell him, but he's making a lifelong commitment to a girl that hasnt been commited since day 1! you DEFINETELY need to tell him. divorce is too expensive and too messy.
i agree...if they were dating and not so serious i would say let it be, and see what happens, but if you dont tell him and he finds out you knew, he may feel very betrayed, nevermind the fact that he hes supposed to be marrying her and needs to know what is going on before making that decision
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i think you should tell him or someone should before he marries her. he might get more mad after the fact that everyone knew and no-one told him and he made a fool out of himself. its a tough situation but someone he needs to know. sorry your in the position. spending alot of money on a wedding then a divorce is way to expensive. someone can be saving him tons of money.
then what if she gets pregant then what people are gona second guess who the father is? might make the situation even worse.
