On the Fence Re: RD HELP!

valthom426 Posted: Mar 20, 2009 11:59 AM

On the Fence Re: RD HELP!

Anyone on the fene on whether to have a RD? I'm getting married at the venue so there is really no need but then I have all these OOTs. Which also means more people than I would like to have at a RD but at the same time...ARGHHH!!! What do I do with all of them the night before?

I'm ready to tell FH that he should go have dinner with his family and I'll deal with mine. Since we will be together the night before anyway. What do you think? What are the rest of you doing?

michelle1024 Posted: Mar 20, 2009 12:09 PM

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I see your point, but i have a lot of oot bms that are going to be coming the day before, and i don't spend enough time with them as it is. I think the rd is a good way/relaxed for everyone! Also a good time to give gifts too!

we are prob having our ceremony at the rh so we won't really have a rehearsal, but i just like the idea of an rd

thats just me though, i guess its not completely necessary

and you don't have to invite all oot guests

littlepixie12 Posted: Mar 20, 2009 12:17 PM

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We are on the fence also because well.. we arent even having a reheresal! lol.. the Rh doesnt really provide one and our officiant said it wanst necessary... so thats that.. Im hopnig our DOC will just make everything run smoothly the day of.. we might still have one because its important to FFIL so we will see.. its also where I woudl probably give the BP their gifts too

valthom426 Posted: Mar 20, 2009 12:21 PM

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'and you don't have to invite all oot guests'

You don't know my mother. No control, it's ridiculous. I think she forgets that it all costs $$$. Thanks for the feedback!

vicky1125 Posted: Mar 20, 2009 12:29 PM

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we're not doing a RD either since we're getting married at the hall and dont have a big bridal party but we are taking the OOT to dinner the night before. nothing crazy, just somewhere cheap where the food is good.

AugustBridein09 Posted: Mar 20, 2009 12:33 PM

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I don't want one. LOL We are getting married at our RH so I don't see the point. I just want to relax at the hotel the night before.

sumerbride09 Posted: Mar 20, 2009 12:33 PM

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hmm. we are getting married at the Rh hall and will probably not be able to have rehersal before, BUT we are still going to have a RD. I am going to pair people up there and hopefully tell people what they are doing, etc. you know my one bridezilla moment im allow to have
we will also hand out gifts. we arent haveing OOT people there (doing something later with them) so its just a nice time for FH and I to thank our BP for everything they have done.

PROBM Posted: Mar 20, 2009 01:53 PM

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I am because i dont want my wedding to be just one day i want it to be a wedding weekend. friday night at the rd is where people who never met eachotehr can mingle have some drinks and get ready to have fun with eachother the next night ... i think makes the wedding a lot better ... a lot of weddings have strangers meeting for the first time , dates etc

michelle1024 Posted: Mar 20, 2009 02:08 PM

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Posted by valthom426

'and you don't have to invite all oot guests'

You don't know my mother. No control, it's ridiculous. I think she forgets that it all costs $$$. Thanks for the feedback!

sorry

i wish i could invite all my oot guests too, but its just too expensive

good luck

valthom426 Posted: Mar 20, 2009 05:09 PM

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True, it's nice to spread the time into more than a one day affair. Unfortunately, in my family it also means time to plot against the bride and groom. My father and uncle are famous for tricks and jokes.

Funny that you mention it, one of my cousins hooked up with that daughter of long-time family friends (whom my parents met on their honey) and now they are married with 3 kids! So now it's all one big family.

I think I may call around for pricing and that should throw me off this RD idea.

pa56 Posted: Mar 20, 2009 05:13 PM

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I got married at the reception hall and had no bridal party. Our 'rehearsal dinner' was more of a way for DH's family to get to know my family before the craziness of the wedding day.

His family flew in from Europe, so this was the only time both families would be together in their entirety. We wanted to take advantage of that so we rented a private room at an italian restaurant (in NJ) and had dinner. We also had speeches by my brother and all my cousins put on a funny skit of my and DH. It was more relaxed, and I'm glad we did it.

For those doing a rehearsal dinner and guestbook, I suggest bringing your guestbook to the dinner so the most important people will have signed it. We also gave out gifts to our parents and grandparents that night.

We didn't have any OOT guests, only family. Our families are huge (lots of cousins and Aunts/Uncles) so we ended up with 50 people at this dinner.

Soon2BMrsC09 Posted: Mar 20, 2009 05:17 PM

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We are getting married at the RH as well, we are planning our dinner for friday night before the wedding, will pair people up, and explain whats going on and give out gifts, a good way to spend some time with the people closest to us