So I'm a little bummed because I chose a BM dress color and, up until now, the girls have been completely on board. One of my BM's (who I haven't seen or really spoken to much since this wedding planning stuff started) came to visit me in Philly for my birthday yesterday. I showed her the swatch of the color and could tell by the look on her face that she was disappointed and really didn't want to wear it. All the other girls are completely fine with it and they actually like it. I told my BM that if she really didn't like it we could go back to the drawing board, which I think will be tough now with everyone else on board. In the end, she gave me the sort of half a$s'ed 'Well it's not that bad, it's fine...' Now I just feel so guilty and I know she hates the color. What should I do?
Just to give you an idea, our colors are green and pink - I know a little easter egg-y, but I like them.
Here's the color of the dress:
Here's the color of the dress accents
edited to fix the photo
Aristotelina
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IMO you cant please everyone and once you begin the process of trying is when you start to really lose it.
In all honesty, what if you DO change the color and then someone else doesnt like it? Will you then change it again? Your friends and BMs should just deal with it, because this is YOUR day! One day they will have their own day and you will have to possibly wear a color that you dont like (I know I have, time and time again!) so tell her that your sorry and instead try to offer as much advice on how to make the color flatter her (accessories, makeup, hair, etc)
Good Luck!
egem523
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I think you should not go back to the drawing board for just one person. It is your wedding and she should compromise. Tell her to watch '28 dresses' 'Katherine Heigel said it is there wedding I wear whatever they tell me too.' Maybe it sign from her that she does not want to be really involved. I actually like what you picked very pretty.
DonnaPWhite1124
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This is what Ive noticed in my travels with weddings:
Theres always going to be one BM that isnt fond of the dress/dress color.
dazies1011
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I had some problems and you know what not everyone is going to be happy. Tell her suck it up. Those colors are great! Like I was told when I was having problems that they, people giving me advice, werent happy with something in every wedding they were in and ****** it up. 'Its the brides day not yours.' Keep that in mind.
MaggieLuvsJoe
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You will always have someone who isn't happy with your choices. A couple of my BMs keep asking me if I'm sure I want to do pink dresses, which really ticks me off bc if they know me at all they know I'm a pink girl and I've said it all along. I'm sure your BM will get over it and be happy that she's a part of your bridal party.
I've been in tons of BPs and let me tell you, most of the dresses were gross but I never said a word bc as long as the bride was happy then I was happy.
Don't worry too much about her....it's normal to have a hater or two
sofreakingexcited
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I agree that you can't please everyone and it's your wedding so do what YOU want! BTW I love the color of the dress!
Summertimegal424
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you cant please everyone ...if she really wants to be apart of your special day she will suck it up
B2B 2009
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Just ignore that pesty BM.. Her job as your BM for your wedding is to support the decisions you make not to give you a hard time about them. If you like the colors then thats that.. it'd be different if you had your doubts about the colors and then she gave you her opinion. Stick to your colors!
Autumnbride03
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Don't worry, one of FH's sisters already said to his other sister, 'why are we wearing purple, that's going to look soooo dumb'.
Kristy1226
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You ultimately have to and should to whatever makes YOU and FH happy. This is your day remember and you put so much into planning the wedding. I think she should just go along with whatever you pick out without complaints it is not her day! You should have told her, 'Well when it is your time to do all of this you can pick out the colors you like.' And also you have everyone but her liking the color. I like the green and pink idea!
IrishBrideASmiling
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Its your wedding and if one person does not like it too bad. When it comes her time to get married, im sure you would wear any color she wants you to wear. Go with whatever you like because bottom line is that you cannot make everyone happy.
FutureMrsG
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You cannot please everyone...I think both colors are very pretty. Maybe you could let her choose between the two so she feels she has some control over the decision making process.
TaraVinny
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i say that it is your wedding and you should pick the color. i know you want to please the BMs but it is ultimately your choice.
Jamnike
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you cant make everyone happy and its your wedding.....she agreed to be a BM.....so really, it doesnt matter...youll cause more problems by changing things. i could s ee maybe if it was like 2 or 3 girls, but if its a girl who has been MIA all this time, dont stress over it
MEMEJOR
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if u love... tough to them... u cant make eveyone happy
lilpiggy742
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i agree with mostly everyone, its ultimately your decision, if she doesnt like the dress, she doesnt have to wear it again. I think its a nice color-its not puke green or anything hahaha
longislandlibrarian
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it's your decision.. you will never please everyone!
melcc83
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its to bad she doesnt like like it but think about it this way thats only one person that doesnt like it. Its YOUR wedding day not hers. Yes its nice to try to make everyone happy but thats not always going to happen. Im trying to please all my bridesmaids but if everyonhe else exept one person like the dress i would say sorry bt to bad
KARA16
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IT YOUR WEDDING... NOT HERS. IF SHE IS CLOSE TO YOU & CARES ABOUT YOU SHE WOULD WEAR IT WITH NO IF'S, AND'S, OR BUT'S. THE COLORS ARE BEAUTIFUL BY THE WAY. YOU MADE A GREAT CHOICE!!!!
