one of my BMs wants to drive herself (not take the limo)

Kara and Todd Posted: Aug 07, 2007 09:25 AM

one of my BMs wants to drive herself (not take the limo)

Okay, anyone had this happen?'

One my BMs wrote me that she's the designated driver, so she needs her car. I guess she can't drive her date's car or doesn't want him driving hers to the reception.

This is a first.

ETA becaus it wasn't clear, I'm NOT making her take the limo and I'm not upset that she won't be in it. I just assumed like everyone else, she had made the requisite arrangements. FH and I have a classic car, so we won't be with the BP in the limos anyway. Everything sounds far more dramatic 3 days before your wedding than it does 3 weeks before!

update: She's changed her mind.

KSquared Posted: Aug 07, 2007 09:31 AM

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Is there any way she can drop her car off at the hall before the wedding. Or have someone else drive it there for her? That's what most of my bridal party is doing since we won't have the limo after the reception.

Mmnnng Posted: Aug 07, 2007 09:47 AM

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My cousin absolutely refuses to let anyone drive her anywhere! This includes limos for bridal parties! I've learned to deal with it and told her she absoluely must follow the limo so I know she'll be there on time

Chrissywish Posted: Aug 07, 2007 09:57 AM

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i think this is a battle to pick and choose. i would tell her that you would prefer to have all your girls around you that day and that includes having everyone in the limo. the people you chose to be in your bridal party you chose because you wanted their support and them with you (including in the limo) on your wedding day. I would then just tell her if she absolutely must take her own care and cannot figure it out that she has to follow the limo as you don't want stress wondering where and what a missing bridesmaid is doing. I'm sure she knows what is going on in your life, tell her you have enough stress already!!!

Good Luck!!!

And to add...we aren't dealing with a bridesmaid but FFIL doesn't wanna go in the limo with FH, so i told FH whatever then let him drive.

ETA: fixed a word

Kara and Todd Posted: Aug 07, 2007 10:03 AM

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This isn't a battle at all. I had and still have no intention of making her take the limo.

She's going to be with us for pictures beforehand. I guess she'll be following the limo. I just thought she had figured this all out a couple weeks ago - as that's what she told me.

I just love how everyone changes everything at the last minute. Then I called to give my parents and heads up and got yelled at. I'm basically overreacting when all I was doing them is telling them what happened and NOT looking for a solution. Apparently that's not okay. It doesn't need a solution - it is what it is. I am FAR more interested in everyone getting home safely at the end of the night than I am in her being in the limo with everyone else.

I'm done. I'm so done. I just want to be in Italy... 5 more freaking days...

HeatherRose Posted: Aug 07, 2007 10:11 AM

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I'm actually doing this for a friends wedding... and were both in the wedding party.. but everyone is staying over night at a hotel near the hall (Queens) and FH will have to be at work next day very early, and its not feasable to drop a car off the day before, so we would be stuck with no way home... So we are following the limos

cindyandkevin Posted: Aug 07, 2007 10:40 AM

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Awwww Kara!!

It's comical how everyone thinks you're making a big deal about it but you're really not!! And as for your parents, well they're stressed too!!

B22 Posted: Aug 07, 2007 11:38 AM

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cant the date drive to the wedding and she drive home? how drunk is he going to be at the church??

TrueLoveIn2008 Posted: Aug 07, 2007 11:51 AM

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Sorry you're stressed!! My mom would have acted the SAME way, it's funny. Just think about having the time of your life in 4 days!!!

KRISTYRUSSELL Posted: Aug 07, 2007 11:52 AM

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Welcome to the world of being a Bride, last minute things always happen, you handled the situation perfect, no need to get stressed out over something like that, dont let it affect you at all....Well Done
You find out when you get married that there are quite a few strange people out there, family and friends are included in that bunch....Good Luck, everything will be perfect, dont you worry !!!!

As your day fast approaches, little things will occur, just like on your wedding day, just go with the flow and nobody will know the difference....Thats all you can do and your day will be all you ever imagined it to be and so much more....
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ksl268 Posted: Aug 07, 2007 11:54 AM

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Posted by carolinep24

cant the date drive to the wedding and she drive home? how drunk is he going to be at the church??

Good point!

Kara and Todd Posted: Aug 07, 2007 11:56 AM

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Oh, and for the record, I explained to her what we had planned for the limos for the BP and gave her a couple of car options if she wanted to come in the limo. Then I told her I expected everyone in the BP to take the limo, but it's FAR more important that everyone get home safe at the end of the night.

Then I sent her the detailed directions I sent to the photographers in case she drives and gets separated from the limo while following.

She has to do what she has to do. She's spending a lot of money to be in my BP. I can't force her to take the limo. I'll be in a separate car, anyway!

jtgarsik Posted: Aug 07, 2007 03:28 PM

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lol oh man people are funny....how 'bout the fact that at our wedding, my husbands BROTHER (yes, only brother AND BEST MAN) did not take the 45minnute limo ride from the church to the reception because his wife wanted him to go with her to take the kids home & drive back to the reception together. Needless to say DH was hurt. IT MADE ME SO ANGRY!!!! i feel ur annoyance lol no it's not a HUGE deal, it's just the point!!!

stlmn2u Posted: Aug 07, 2007 09:04 PM

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My best friend, her husband and their 2 children who are all in my bridal party will be driving their own car because the kids have to be in a car seat....