Opinion Please Venting!!!

jneandry Posted: Dec 27, 2006 01:21 PM

Opinion Please Venting!!!

Ok girls dont mind me but I have to vent!

the other day I asked my stepsister to email me addresses for her aunts and uncle. She emailed me those along with addresses for her in laws. I explained to her that I was not planning to invite them and left it at that. Today I talked to her online and she was basically demanding that I invite them. That would be an extra 6 people plus I would have to invite my fiances sisters in laws which would be another 6, and I told her I just cant do it. She is totally being rude about it and I am sooo upset. Then my father called me and told me about it as well and he always asks me why I cant just get married where she got married. Our guest list is already way over the limit and budget and I explained to them both nicely that I would have to see the RSVPs before I can invite anymore people. Am I being unreasonable here? the basic thing that I am upset with is that she 'invited them' to my wedding? I just dont get it! Advice please.....

MnM52607 Posted: Dec 27, 2006 01:23 PM

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Definitely not being unreasonable. I'd do the same thing.

Julybride08 Posted: Dec 27, 2006 01:37 PM

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I can't believe some people. This is your wedding not hers. If you don't have the space don't invite them. And if she is mad to bad! This is your day and your $$.

nifheim Posted: Dec 27, 2006 01:39 PM

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I love people
I would ignore her request since you have explained that you have made your choice, you have your list and your sticking with it. If people happen to respond and you have available seats available that you will be more then happy to invite them.

I don't understand how a family can just butt themselves into inviting whoever they want. THANK GOD i don't have that problem.

Good luck!

jneandry Posted: Dec 27, 2006 01:43 PM

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Thanks girls!

Shmar Posted: Dec 27, 2006 01:55 PM

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I totally don't blame you. You're not being rude at all. I've heard sroties like this from my friends and i hate when people invite more than need to be there. There's no need for you to invite your step sisters inlaws to your wedding, especially if you're not close with them. You're paying for it and people should have some compassion for that. Besides, this is your day and you want the place wfilled with your friends and family that you are close to and actually want to spend the day with.

jneandry Posted: Dec 27, 2006 02:01 PM

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Bridex100 Posted: Dec 27, 2006 02:05 PM

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How rude to be so demanding about YOUR wedding!

Space and $ are two different issues.

If I were you, I would just invite them if there is enough space. I'm a non-confrontational person though.

CrazyLove Posted: Dec 27, 2006 02:12 PM

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If you have the extra space, then by all means. Its your wedding not hers!!

Espo22 Posted: Dec 27, 2006 02:17 PM

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Posted by jneandry

Ok girls dont mind me but I have to vent!

the other day I asked my stepsister to email me addresses for her aunts and uncle. She emailed me those along with addresses for her in laws. I explained to her that I was not planning to invite them and left it at that. Today I talked to her online and she was basically demanding that I invite them. That would be an extra 6 people plus I would have to invite my fiances sisters in laws which would be another 6, and I told her I just cant do it. She is totally being rude about it and I am sooo upset. Then my father called me and told me about it as well and he always asks me why I cant just get married where she got married. Our guest list is already way over the limit and budget and I explained to them both nicely that I would have to see the RSVPs before I can invite anymore people. Am I being unreasonable here? the basic thing that I am upset with is that she 'invited them' to my wedding? I just dont get it! Advice please.....

Tell her you have no problem inviting them if she'll put up the money for them, since she is not considerate of your budget...I dont understand what is wrong with some people seriously

Marchbride07 Posted: Dec 27, 2006 02:39 PM

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You are not being unreasonable! Pardon my bluntness but screw that! Everyone is right, its your day, you have the people you want (and bascially afford!) to be there! They are not your family members or friends, so they have to get put on the B list for now.

Kara and Todd Posted: Dec 27, 2006 03:09 PM

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You're not being rude. Tell her NO and leave it at that. It's not her wedding. She has no say regarding who is invited.

LaurenF Posted: Dec 27, 2006 05:32 PM

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If your sister or your father are so insistent on having certain people there, offer them the option of paying for those people.

Autumn08 Posted: Dec 27, 2006 05:38 PM

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No you are not being unreasonable. I don't understand why you would have been expected to do that in the first place.

snydl40 Posted: Dec 27, 2006 07:47 PM

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I would tell her that if she wants them to come, then she can pay for them.

ewickens Posted: Dec 27, 2006 08:36 PM

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The nerve of some people! You have every right to say who and who DOES NOT get invited to your wedding. Tell your step sister to shut her mouth - this is YOUR wedding!

heatherandrichie Posted: Dec 27, 2006 08:37 PM

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Posted by ker21318

I can't believe some people. This is your wedding not hers. If you don't have the space don't invite them. And if she is mad to bad! This is your day and your $$.

ditto

carolinebr Posted: Dec 27, 2006 08:42 PM

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Do you know these inlaws? Like, would they recognize them if you bumped into them?

If not, I would tell her that this is your special day and that you & FH only want people who are very close to you there. Tell her your wedding is a very personal moment and that you are only inviting people in your life who play a meaningful role.

Or tell her to pay for them and put them at the worst table in the house, behind the band or next to the kitchen door. They'll get the hint.