My fiance and I just received a wedding invitation. My fiance is one of the groomsmen and the groom is in our bridal party as well. I was invited to the girls shower, we hang out with them pretty often, and she knows my full name from x-mas cards, shower thank yous and so on. Me and my fiance also live together..
When the invitation came it said my fiances name and guest........I was quite offended by it.....Am I wrong to feel that way???
stephanielyse
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cindyandkevin
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Yea, that is really weird!! Is there a chance that she didn't send them out, maybe her parents sent them out (if they're paying for the wedding) and they don't know your name?
Still tho, it's wrong. Bad etiquette on her/their part.
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i could initially understand but
1. i am not just his girlfriend and 2. they put guest on the engagment party invite as well
but managed to figure out my name for the shower and thank yous
portjeffbride
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I bet their following the etiquette nazi's orders....
I've read one some odd wedding website that you always put + guest on an invitation to a person who isn't married.....
I read that and thought to myself '$#@t no!'
Sometimes, while writing those things out, people lose their common sense, not to mention their sense of wrong and right....
sorry that happened to you! If it makes you feel better, I'm not too sure my name was on FH's invitation to his brothers wedding either....
EJSD2006
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no you're not wrong i would be offended too.
NICKEITH
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3 websites i found
Address the inner envelope with your friend's name followed by 'and Guest' if the invitation extends to an unknown escort: - Mr. Larson and Guest - Miss Anderson and Guest
If inviting an unmarried couple living together, put names in alphabetical order by last name (the man's name does not automatically go first). Ms. Jennifer Aniston Mr. Bradley Pitt
Two unmarrieds living together as a couple Ms. Sherri Davis Mr. Steven Smith Mr. Michael Davis Mr. Steven Smith
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I know how you feel. A friend of FH's that he's known for about 8 years now and they get together maybe 3 times a year for an islander/ranger game did something similar. I invited him and his FW (was his gf at the time) to a surprise 40th bday that I had for FH last March. He knows we live together and he knows we got engaged in September (two months before they did) They are getting married next month and he sent the invitation as FH's name and guest. I felt like that was rude. Like he wasnt sure who FH would bring...as if he was just dating someone or if he or his FW didnt know my name. After that I was a little insulted. We're not going to the wedding anyway though.
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I would be offended too!
Maybe it's just an oversight? was the addresses mass printed on labels or something? maybe they didnt set up their database correctly and Word did it by default?
maybride75
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i woiuld be offended also. but maybe she just wrote it like that as a habit from writing out the other invites. i dont know just a thoiught . but dont worry bout it. you know you are dear to them so if i were you i wouldnt worry.
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Posted by cindyandkevin
Yea, that is really weird!! Is there a chance that she didn't send them out, maybe her parents sent them out Yeah i am thinking the same thing. Hope she is not a LIW Bride!!!!!!!!She should no better
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I would feel insulted. FH is BM in his friend's wedding in March and he is in our wedding and I barely know his fiance and she put my full name, so it seems a little weird that she didn't put your full name. I wouldn't give it much thought though.
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I would be offended..This past November my FH's friend got married. He's been friends with him for many years (although we don't really hang out with them often). When the invitation came, it didn't even say 'and guest'..it just had his name!! Mind you, we were already engaged at that point and living together!
My FH was so insulted and mad and decided he didn't want to go. I mean even if they couldn't remember my name ( although they could have called my FH or one of the other friends), than put 'and guest'!
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Posted by JAME0801
I would be offended..This past November my FH's friend got married. He's been friends with him for many years (although we don't really hang out with them often). When the invitation came, it didn't even say 'and guest'..it just had his name!! Mind you, we were already engaged at that point and living together!
My FH was so insulted and mad and decided he didn't want to go. I mean even if they couldn't remember my name ( although they could have called my FH or one of the other friends), than put 'and guest'!
see, that's what happened with FH's invitaiton to his brothers wedding.... totally crappy.
I swear sometimes people become really caddy while wedding planning, and things like this erupt.
Kimbalina
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UGH, that would annoy me!!! Sorry that THEY were soo rude!
deirdre730
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not at all....people are crazy!!! It is what it is, Don't sweat it!!!
ant n tilde
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i would be offended - it has happened before - with parties not weddings and i always hate it
BUT
in the bride's defense - sometimes if you get your envelopes addressed they are super strict about it. . . i know a bride who just gave in and told hte lady to just put 'and guest' bc she insisted, none of her friends were engaged and she didnt have a great website like LIW to ask other brides so she just assumed the lady was right ( yeah technically it is proper but it still stinks!
ksl268
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That's insane!! The bride could have called another friend to find out your full name. This happend to me a few years ago and I was totally insulted.
jgl
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honestly i dont know.
I would feel offended
PegaLega
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I dont think you are wrong. BUT let me say this-FHs cousin got married last year (oops 05) and put & guest...let me also say that FH and I were together before they even started dating I was offended and when I said this to my FMIL she said 'etiquette says & guest right?' If their parents helped out they may have told them that wast he right thing to do b/c they dont know
