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Soon2BeMrs2006 Posted: Jan 06, 2006 10:24 PM+
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FH and I have been engaged for a year and a half. his parents had wanted to throw us an eparty a few months after but then his mom had been sick. and then it came to the point where it was about a year before our orginal date of 9/10/06 and with bridal shower and wedding gifts from people we didnt want to have people feell pressured to give an engagement gift too. but now with the date change to next may, we're thinking maybe we should have one, but would that be weird since we've been engaged a year and a half?
BlueTulip Posted: Jan 06, 2006 11:01 PM+
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It sounds like you've already had your shower. I usually expect the flow to be engagement party/shower/bachelorette party/wedding. Not that they can't be in a different order, this is just what I am used to. Also, I usually expect and engagement party to be within 6-12 months of engagement. Do what makes sense for your crowd.
Soon2BeMrs2006 Posted: Jan 06, 2006 11:06 PM+
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no didnt, but i know in the future i will.
AlliNMatt06 Posted: Jan 06, 2006 11:18 PM+
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No, I think you should skip it. I think its weird to have an engagment party 1 1/2 after your engagment. That is a long time, and people have already given you gifts.
suven Posted: Jan 06, 2006 11:20 PM+
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At this point, I think you should skip it
N.Y.bride Posted: Jan 07, 2006 07:20 AM+
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You havent had any shower right?
And you wedding is not for a year and a half?
I'd say definately have an E-party! Why not? You had to wait. You didnt have a choice. I can't see any harm in it.
Soon2BeMrs2006 Posted: Jan 07, 2006 10:58 AM+
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Posted by N.Y.bride

You havent had any shower right?
And you wedding is not for a year and a half?
I'd say definately have an E-party! Why not? You had to wait. You didnt have a choice. I can't see any harm in it.



correct i havent had a shower yet, and the wedding was postponed
JennyAl Posted: Jan 07, 2006 11:00 AM+
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we had an engagement party on Jan 05 and our wedding is May 07.....
RomeBride Posted: Jan 07, 2006 12:00 PM+
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Hmmm I've been thinking about this and I keep going back and forth. I think that you should throw the party since your family wants to show their support and since the reason for postponing everything was out of your control. The fact that you've been together for so long is reason enough to celebrate (we've been together for 8 years, I know hehe.)

I think though that if you do have a party it should not be called an enagement party, but rather a celebration or something like that on the invites. To make it even more clear about your desires, I think you should have your family spread the word that gifts are NOT expected due to the circumstances. I think that is the smartest way to handle things. You have come so far in your relationship and you shouldn't SKIP a party just because of what others will think but you do want to handle it carefully. Let us know what you do please.
OctoberPrincess2006 Posted: Jan 07, 2006 12:08 PM+
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A friend of mine at work is having a small intimate dinner at a local resturant with close family, friends and the bridal party as an engagement party, I thought that this was a very nice idea.
BJandDan Posted: Jan 07, 2006 01:02 PM+
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It sounds as if you only postponed having one is because the mom got sick. I don't see any reason why you shouldn't have one. You only get married once :)
hsacks23r Posted: Jan 07, 2006 03:53 PM+
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I say GO FOR IT
2003wedding. Posted: Jan 07, 2006 08:50 PM+
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Posted by BJandDan

It sounds as if you only postponed having one is because the mom got sick. I don't see any reason why you shouldn't have one. You only get married once :)



i agree
i actually had mine way past my engagement--1 1/2 yrs too and 1 year b/f my wedding--longgg engagement!
-like bj&dan said-you only get married once---i really wanted to celebrate and would have regreted not havingone b/c it was so much fun! it's a special time and should be celebrated!!!
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