most of you know that one of my BMs dropped out a few months ago because shes in medical school. I was sad, but I understood and just hope shes able to make it to the wedding.
Fast forward, few weeks ago, one of my sister's friends who is invited to the wedding is so excited etc. and i jokingly told my sister oh i should have her as a BM and my sister was like oh you should she'd so do it.
Tonight my sis went to hang out with her and comes back and says how she just jokingly said that she be a BM and her friend got so happy, my sister was like i know its your wedding, but shed make a great replacement BM.
Now granted this girl is a sweetheart, and I have known her for years, and I wouldnt mind having her as a BM, but then again she isnt my friend per say, shes my sister's friend.
So in your opinion would you make her a BM?
Shorty McBride
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no! But I'm sorry, its kinda a tough situation!
IMO, she may be a sweetheart, but just the way you described her made me say no. ... You said she is your SISTER'S friend...you didn't say MY friend.
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no! But I'm sorry, its kinda a tough situation!
IMO, she may be a sweetheart, but just the way you described her made me say no. ... You said she is your SISTER'S friend...you didn't say MY friend.
I agree
Soon2BeMrs2006
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no! But I'm sorry, its kinda a tough situation!
IMO, she may be a sweetheart, but just the way you described her made me say no. ... You said she is your SISTER'S friend...you didn't say MY friend.
yeah well tech. she is my sister's friend
snydl40
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I don't think I would. How big is your BP? I think it's more meant for your close friends and family.
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This is a tough one. I tried putting myself in your situation and still dont know what I would do. I mean if you really need another BM and have no other friend that would be willing to do it, then why not. I do understand that your bridal party is meant to be close friends of yours but when youre desperate your desperate right? hehe. Just my opinion, if she seems like a nice person and is already invited to the wedding and is excitied to be there I say, why not?
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This is a tough one. I tried putting myself in your situation and still dont know what I would do. I mean if you really need another BM and have no other friend that would be willing to do it, then why not. I do understand that your bridal party is meant to be close friends of yours but when youre desperate your desperate right? hehe. Just my opinion, if she seems like a nice person and is already invited to the wedding and is excitied to be there I say, why not?
I have one other close friend i would ask, but shes getting married exactly two months after me and has a lot going on.
4 girls currently
bettybcafe
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This is a tough one. I tried putting myself in your situation and still dont know what I would do. I mean if you really need another BM and have no other friend that would be willing to do it, then why not. I do understand that your bridal party is meant to be close friends of yours but when youre desperate your desperate right? hehe. Just my opinion, if she seems like a nice person and is already invited to the wedding and is excitied to be there I say, why not?
I have one other close friend i would ask, but shes getting married exactly two months after me and has a lot going on.
4 girls currently
I see. Well like I said in my previous post if you NEED the extra girl and feel she will fit the position then go for it. Im sure ur sis wouldnt agree to it if she wasnt good for the part What is your heart telling you?
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This is a tough one. I tried putting myself in your situation and still dont know what I would do. I mean if you really need another BM and have no other friend that would be willing to do it, then why not. I do understand that your bridal party is meant to be close friends of yours but when youre desperate your desperate right? hehe. Just my opinion, if she seems like a nice person and is already invited to the wedding and is excitied to be there I say, why not?
I have one other close friend i would ask, but shes getting married exactly two months after me and has a lot going on.
4 girls currently
I see. Well like I said in my previous post if you NEED the extra girl and feel she will fit the position then go for it. Im sure ur sis wouldnt agree to it if she wasnt good for the part What is your heart telling you?
i'm thinking it over, i mean i could consider her as a sister to me as well.
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I say go for it. .. if you need someone anyway and u get along with the girl and it will make her happy... go for it.. Good luck
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so I started thinking, and why dont you ask your other friend (the one that is getting married) the worst thing is she says no-she may actually like the idea even though its so close to her date. If she says no and you are bent on having 1 more girl, than consider having this girl in the BP. Once all of your other options are gone. I really dont know what I would do in your position.
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so I started thinking, and why dont you ask your other friend (the one that is getting married) the worst thing is she says no-she may actually like the idea even though its so close to her date. If she says no and you are bent on having 1 more girl, than consider having this girl in the BP. Once all of your other options are gone. I really dont know what I would do in your position.
I kinda had already talked to her about it, but she has so much going on right now school wise and new job wise, and I can relate so thats why I didnt ask her.
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This is a tough one. I tried putting myself in your situation and still dont know what I would do. I mean if you really need another BM and have no other friend that would be willing to do it, then why not. I do understand that your bridal party is meant to be close friends of yours but when youre desperate your desperate right? hehe. Just my opinion, if she seems like a nice person and is already invited to the wedding and is excitied to be there I say, why not?
I have one other close friend i would ask, but shes getting married exactly two months after me and has a lot going on.
4 girls currently
I see. Well like I said in my previous post if you NEED the extra girl and feel she will fit the position then go for it. Im sure ur sis wouldnt agree to it if she wasnt good for the part What is your heart telling you?
i'm thinking it over, i mean i could consider her as a sister to me as well.
after saying that you consider her a sister... i think you should definitely go for it!
it's always nice to have someone in your BP who is just as happy and excited as you are!
Positive people make for great bridesmaids
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Posted by bettybcafe
This is a tough one. I tried putting myself in your situation and still dont know what I would do. I mean if you really need another BM and have no other friend that would be willing to do it, then why not. I do understand that your bridal party is meant to be close friends of yours but when youre desperate your desperate right? hehe. Just my opinion, if she seems like a nice person and is already invited to the wedding and is excitied to be there I say, why not?
I have one other close friend i would ask, but shes getting married exactly two months after me and has a lot going on.
4 girls currently
I see. Well like I said in my previous post if you NEED the extra girl and feel she will fit the position then go for it. Im sure ur sis wouldnt agree to it if she wasnt good for the part What is your heart telling you?
i'm thinking it over, i mean i could consider her as a sister to me as well.
after saying that you consider her a sister... i think you should definitely go for it!
it's always nice to have someone in your BP who is just as happy and excited as you are!
Positive people make for great bridesmaids
Exactly!!! If she would be thrilled to be in ur BP then you should def. consider her even tho she wasnt one of ur first choices
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okay here's the way i feel.
your BP is supposed to be the most closest people in YOUR life. in twenty years when you look at your pics, you should look at this people lovingly. if you are not close to her, and she is only your sister's friend mostly, can you honestly say that you will know and be friends with this girl for many years to come?
for me personally, i don't like the idea of just having a 'filler' BM. kind of just evening out the party...i'd rather have an uneven party (which I have) of my closest, dearest friends, than an even one with someone who i'm not close with that much. but that's JMO. go with your gut!
heatherandrichie
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Hmmm, you don't have any cousins to ask? I f not, I would go uneven.
Soon2BeMrs2006
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Hmmm, you don't have any cousins to ask? I f not, I would go uneven.
Right now its still even, but I would have liked to have 5 girls like i originally had. FH didn't ask the 5th guy because he said we'd keep it even.
I have no family here other than my parents and my sister.
My cousin in the Ukraine won't be albe to make it to the wedding
