opinions needed re: oot/rehersal dinners
FH and i are going back and forth on this topic...
we are NOT having a rehearsal dinner (we are not rehearsing since our ceremony is at our reception location we cant get in plus its a Jewish wedding so typically there is no rehearsal).
We are having an OOT dinner the night before for my fathers family and FMILs family.
We decided NOT to include the bridal party for a few reasons (#1 is money and #2 is bc it is on long island and it would require them to take a hotel room another night since they are in the city and in northern westchester and #3 bc we want to really want to spend time with our OOT guests since we rarely see them).
Now FH is considering a bridal party dinner 2 nights before the wedding (a thurs night) in the city so they can take public transportation there and home. we would not invite them with guests - it would be our 12 BP people and that is it. I personally think it is a waste - we are getting them gifts and paying for the morning after brunch for them. FH thinks they will be insulted or feel left out if there is no dinner.
what do you ladies think??? is a dinner necessary?? i havent been part of a wedding ever so i dont know what the norm is...please help
ps - thanks for reading this novel
UPDATE: i spoke with FH last night and we worked out a budget for the dinner. we are going to do it at a family style restaurant in NYC 2 fridays before the wedding so that it doesnt interfere with anyones work schedule.
thanks for the opinions ladies!
we are NOT having a rehearsal dinner (we are not rehearsing since our ceremony is at our reception location we cant get in plus its a Jewish wedding so typically there is no rehearsal).
We are having an OOT dinner the night before for my fathers family and FMILs family.
We decided NOT to include the bridal party for a few reasons (#1 is money and #2 is bc it is on long island and it would require them to take a hotel room another night since they are in the city and in northern westchester and #3 bc we want to really want to spend time with our OOT guests since we rarely see them).
Now FH is considering a bridal party dinner 2 nights before the wedding (a thurs night) in the city so they can take public transportation there and home. we would not invite them with guests - it would be our 12 BP people and that is it. I personally think it is a waste - we are getting them gifts and paying for the morning after brunch for them. FH thinks they will be insulted or feel left out if there is no dinner.
what do you ladies think??? is a dinner necessary?? i havent been part of a wedding ever so i dont know what the norm is...please help
ps - thanks for reading this novel
UPDATE: i spoke with FH last night and we worked out a budget for the dinner. we are going to do it at a family style restaurant in NYC 2 fridays before the wedding so that it doesnt interfere with anyones work schedule.
thanks for the opinions ladies!
