I am having a really hard time with my mom... my dad died many years ago, and she is upset (to the point of not speaking to me) b/c I am not putting my father's name on the invitation. FH & I are paying for most of the wedding ourselves. His parents are divorced, his mom is remarried, (and his dad is bitter about it), so there would be so many names on the invites it would look weird...not to mention that I think it is kind of morbid to mention my father on the invite. I have every intention of honoring my father at my wedding, and have previously told my mom the ideas I have.
She is making me feel terrible and has disagreed with so many things I have chosen just b/c they are not the way she would have done it.
Am I being unreasonable to stand my ground on this issue??
shelby34
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I think you need to honor your dad in the way you feel most fitting for you. That is a very personal thing and I think you should do what you feel in your heart is the best way to mention your dad and remember him on that day.
donegal419
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I also agree with you that putting your father's name on the invitation is a little inappropriate since he's passed. However, there is wording that I've seen for situations like this:
You could have Mrs. John Smith & FH's parents info.... request the honour of your presence blahblahblah.
that way, your mom 's name is on there but it does kind of mention your dad, but not in an awkward way. but , i guess this only works if your mom is still a widow and didn't remarry, so she would still be Mrs. John Smith.
I hope this helps and I am sure you will find a beautiful way to honor your Dad on your special day.
autumn
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I don't think you are being unreasonable at all.
agreed
October Bliss
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A wedding cannot be hosted by a deceased person. IMHO, the best way to compromise with your mom is to list her as Mrs. John Smith instead of Mrs. Mary Smith on the invite. That way your father is recognized without being morbid.
