FH and I hadn't heard about getting gifts for parents til I joined LIW. We were wondering whether they're necessary and whether the gifting mostly occurs if your parents are footing the bill for a large part of the wedding? Is there a 'usual' amount that's spent on these gifts? Thanks a bunch!
ETA: I forgot to mention that we're paying for their parent albums from the photographer. Is that an okay 'gift'?
pinkstar025
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my mom yelled at me yesterday when i mentioned something about a parent gift. HEr and my dad found it completely outragious that we had to buy them a present for OUR wedding.....i still feel bad cause like you said....everyone on here says to do it..
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great question! I think that we might put some pictures together in a really nice frame. Cheesy, I know. But, we can't spend the type of money we'd like to spend on our parents b/c we are paying for the wedding ourselves. We might go all out for them for x-mas.
ETA: to actually delete words that I repeated in one sentence! What is wrond with me today?
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I never heard of it either till a friend I work with told me she's doing that for their parents.
Sorry...we're paying for this jammy myself...and I don't think my dad or his parents are expecting anything.
IMO - I think it's nice...but not necessary.
Jan05Bride
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We didn't. Actually they are getting parent albums and reprints from us. That's a couple of $$$ worth of stuff anyway.
cjik
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I never heard of it before either. Sometimes I get thrown by the number of tips and gifts that seem to be the norm.
That said, I think my parents would yell at us also. We'll get them a nice parent's album, and a framed enlargement, but I don't think we're buying them presents. For one thing, we are paying, and even if they were, I think it would annoy them that we spent money and time on additional gifts right now. It depends on your parents, and what you think they would expect really. You can go the photo route and give them a little extra if you can. They would probably appreciate that a lot.
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you're all good honey...belive me, you're parents are not expecting to receive something from YOU on the most important day of your life!
Albums are a GREAT thought!
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i think it is a nice gesture.. my parents are footing a large part of the wedding bill and fh's parents are contributing a lot as well, we feel we need to thank them properly for doing so, would they expect it? NO, if we told them, would they Yell, YES... so we are giving them albums, and a video, and i am thinking a weekend away somewhere
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I was thinking about getting them embroidered hankies with a poem (personalized for the MOB and FOB)and our wedding date on it. It's nice for them to have some kind of keepsake. We are also getting them a parent album.
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I am glad you posted this b/c we were thinking the same thing. We are paying for the whole wedding ourselves, so we didn't think it was necessary.
That being said, I am getting my mom something from lenox b/c I saw it when I believe it was divabride posted about it and I think it would make my mom's day, but not a thank you gift.
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Posted by pinkstar025
my mom yelled at me yesterday when i mentioned something about a parent gift. HEr and my dad found it completely outragious that we had to buy them a present for OUR wedding.....i still feel bad cause like you said....everyone on here says to do it..
Yeah my parents' said they didn't want us to spend our money -- save your money.
Well I already had an idea -- it was a year later tho -- we brought both sets of parent's 8 ½ x 10 picture frames and when our pictures order was ready (that's why for the lateness) -- we ordered them a smaller version of our wedding portriat to fit into the frames
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Neither of our parents are even attempting to help out. We're paying for everything 100%. We are however giving them parent albums and DVDs. Mostly because they come with our package. We will probably include a nice autumn frame to go along with an 8x10 of the family.
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i agree that its a nice gesture, especially if your parents are helping to pay for the wedding... but definitely not necessary.... we're just doing what a lot of others sound like they did... just ordered a parent album from the photographer for each set of parents... its not too huge an amount that they'll yell at us for spenging money on them, but its a great way to give them a keepsake of the day as a 'thank you' for helping out
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I think it's nice, but not necessary. My parents & future in laws would think we were crazy if we bought them gifts. Considering that we a paying for a 200+ person wedding basically by ourselves it will be pretty hard to swing. I think I may just get them something small and write a heartfelt letter from telling them how much we love & appreciate them.
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as i said before..my mom yelled at us but i forgot we got a parent album in our package for FILs and my folks and also i got the lyrics to the song FH and FMIL are dancing to, and me and my dad to put with an 8x10 when we get them
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If you're paying for the wedding yourselves then it's absolutely not necessary...although perhaps something small and sentimental would be nice.
My parents are paying for our wedding, so we go them VERY nice gifts. I noticed a lot of girls who said their parents told them not to do it---why would you even tell your parents about it before hand?? Obviously a parent would say that (even if they don't mean it)...
FMIL is paying for our RD, so we got her a small gift. FFIL (FH's parents are divorced and both re-married) isn't contributing anything, so we're not getting him a thank you. My parents are paying for both FMIL and FFIL's album, so that will be a 'gift' also...though I think my parents regret doing it for FFIL.
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We also got them the parent albums and gave them 8X10 Mikasa frames at the rehearsal. We also (and by 'we' I mean me) spent a lot more than we usualyy would for the anniversary gift last year. It was an anniversary/thank you weekend away.
May05Bride
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we didn't end up getting our parents anything - we were really 'out of money' towards the end and figured if anyone would understand, it would be them!
We did, however, get them parents album.
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We are just going to give them the parent albums
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Posted by jenniesunshine
FH and I hadn't heard about getting gifts for parents til I joined LIW. We were wondering whether they're necessary and whether the gifting mostly occurs if your parents are footing the bill for a large part of the wedding? Is there a 'usual' amount that's spent on these gifts? Thanks a bunch!
ETA: I forgot to mention that we're paying for their parent albums from the photographer. Is that an okay 'gift'?
I think parents albums are a wonderful gift, especially since you are footing a substantial portion of the bill.
My parents and FHs are contributing (with my parents contributing a good portion) so we will probably get them something additional. I don't think they 'expect' anything though Not necessary, but nice
