They will not come with me to the RH to negotiate and book it! I cannot stand them they are so lazy, and they just do NOT understand all this 'wedding stuff'. They seriously suggested that I just go to justice of the peace, seriously? I am the type of girl who has always thought about her wedding day. They also don't trust that I understand the responsibilites of being in a 30k dollar contract. UH HELLO?! Who went to college? NOT YOU! Who's going to school to be a doctor? DEFINITELY NOT YOU. They even keep trying the exscuse that they dont have the money to put down right now, the funniest part - THEY ARENT EVEN PAYING. When are they going to learn that I am smart and responsible? I get all A's for God's sake, and in classes like Physical Chemistry and Quantum Physics!
I dont mean to sound like a major biotch, its just that I havent asked them for a DOLLAR. I pay for my own schooling which is EXSPENSIVE, and FH and I are paying for everythingggggg! My mom told me should would buy me a Vera Wang dress when I got engaged, now? She wont even take a 15 minute ride to a reception hall.
vent over. please dont think poorly of me! does anyone else struggle with their parents like this?
jackieee
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I'm sorry they are being difficult
If she's not paying, why do you need her there? You just want her to see the place and give input? If so, just you go and book it, and then another time when she can you should go with her.
Sorry
jackieee
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I also wnated to add, I went to all these places by myself and negoiated myself and with FH. My mom only came to try on dresses.
A2012MOB
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Maybe they dont like your FH. If they were happy about the marriage, money or not they would be there for you.
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Maybe they dont like your FH. If they were happy about the marriage, money or not they would be there for you.
I think that's a terrible assumption. Sometimes people can be happy about things, but they don't know how to show it. Sometimes people are just difficult. I think its a bad idea to read into this situation in this way, you could seriously hurt someone's feelings.
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I think parents are just being parents sometimes. They mean well and are looking out for our best interest. They want to make sure that we don't throw ourselves in a financial mess. Sometimes the younger you are, the more opinionated parents can be. Honestly, I think I could be 60yrs old and my parents will still be worried as to what I do or the choices I may make. I'm sure your parents are happy you are getting married, but just want you to realize the financial aspect of planning a wedding, which I'm sure you already know. But you know how it is sometimes, they'll just have to keep beating the point over and over and over. lol. Let them talk- they are just being concerned and loving parents. Most of the time I find myself just yeahing my parents. I listen, but ultimately I make the final decision.
Once everyone cools down, just have a sit down and talk about whatever concerns you have.
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Im sorry that you have to go through this. My parents live TN, and have only been up here once in the 5 years I have lived in NYC. FH's parents 'help' by bringing up the fact that my family doesn't have a lot of money at negotiations (and at the same time mentioning THEY could afford this). FH has been with through everything though, and it makes it feel more the starting of our life together than ever before.
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why can't you go negotiate alone? you're obviously smart and extremely capable, you can handle them
oh, and ps:
i would and i ALWAYS have for the 20 places i've been to, but this is the place I know I want, and my dad is big, Italian, and intimidating! lol, and Russo's is a big Italian place, so I need him to make that connection with Mr. Russo. Then I dont have to play the role of bridezilla, just sweet innocent bride lol
Don't stress too much! Mr. Russo is really nice and personable, you'll be able to handle it on your own!! I know FH and I did fine, and we were nervous about negotiating. It almost felt TOO easy! Good luck :)
