Parents name on invites - vent

Original post by starhead

Nov 25, 2002 02:41 PM

My FSIL who is also a BM asked what my invite wording was going to be, and she seemed surprised that no parents names would be included.

We're 27 and paying for the whole thing, so therefore aren't we the hosts of the wedding? Why should their names be on it? I could understand if either parents were giving us any money. It just seems like she thinks her parents names should be on it and i don't think its any of her business if they're not. Is this just me or is she right?

christy Posted: Nov 25, 2002 08:07 PM

Re: Parents name on invites - vent

My FH and I are 25, we are paying for EVERYTHING ourselves. We just created our invites and we DID NOT include any parent names on the invite. We are the hosts of our wedding. You are absolutely correct. It should have your name and your husbands name...dont feel bad about it either!

shamma Posted: Nov 25, 2002 08:11 PM

Re: Parents name on invites - vent

Does your FI think there will be a problem if his parents name is not on the invite?? Its up to you and FI whose name goes on the invite and you should not be made to feel bad about your decision

Happy planning

ss2002 Posted: Nov 25, 2002 08:51 PM

Re: Parents name on invites - vent

We paid for the wedding/reception ourselves. Our invites read:

With a love and respect
for the completeness
we shall gain as a couple,
and with the blessings of our parents,

etc. etc.

Even though they didn't contribute financially, we felt the love, support, guidance, etc. they offered needed to be acknowledged.

mv1003 Posted: Nov 26, 2002 03:48 PM

Re: Parents name on invites - vent

I'm almost in a similar situation....
My Mom is paying for the reception and we're paying for everything else- and I mean EVERYTHING. His parents have offered NO money, even after we've asked for assistance. (They also had new doors put on their house this past weekend- I'm p.o'd- but that's another vent) anyway.... I wasn't going to put my Mom's name on the invite just so FH won't wonder why we're not putting his parents names on and I won't have to say b/c they didn't help us in any way! (Not much support either) Is that wrong? Should I put my Mom's name on there? She wouldn't be insulted- ah, maybe she would.

Betty Posted: Nov 26, 2002 03:49 PM

Re: Parents name on invites - vent

Do whatever makes you happiest!!!!!!

Sassy Posted: Nov 26, 2002 03:53 PM

Re: Parents name on invites - vent

FH and I are paying for everything, except for photography and my wedidng dress, courtesy of my sisters. We are saying ME and FH together with our families blessings. And that's it !!!!!

DO what you want !!! It's your money and more importantly, your wedding !!!!!!