Parents paying for your wedding

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FH and I are paying for the entire wedding ourselves. I wish we were getting some help but my mom paid for her own wedding so she always said she wasn't going to pay for mine. Lol However, she paid for our entire engagement party so that was very generous of my parents. My FH always thought his parents would help but so far they have not offered a dime and we have been engaged for 9 months already and have had the RH booked since May so I'm thinking we are not getting anything from them. You girls are soooo lucky!

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My parents are paying for the RH which is the most LOL we have to pay for Dj, photo/video, limos flowers etc..

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I don't think it's unrealistic at all.. especially if they have it. But my parents don't have much and they are paying for the hall and letting us live in the apt in their house to save $ while FH's parents do squat..and while they play the 'don't have any $' card..they have not offered a dime nor given an engagement gift since we got engaged in Dec. of '08. My advice to you is plan your budget so that no one is helping and if they do, it is a nice surprise because I learned real fast that it' can't be expected and it can be very upsetting waiting and hoping for help

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Do you have a good relationships with them? I think you can totally say something... Just sit down and ask how much they think they will be able to contribute to the wedding. I ran into that issue with my dad. He didn't tell me he was paying for anything but then I just had a conversation with him about it and he told me he could contribute $x amount. I would say to just be upfront and honest about your situation and see what they say. Can't hurt!!!!

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FH and I are paying for everything, we paid for our own engagement party, we are paying for our own RH all vendors my dress everything. My MOH and bmaids will handle the shower. (Bc they r awesome).

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hmm I guess I would just sit them down and talk to them, maybe tell them your financial situation and if they would be willing to help you out at all....my parents offered to pay for the RH and my dress/accessories and invites.

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We are paying for the wedding ourselves. I honestly wouldn't have expected my mother to pay and I am an only child too. It's nice if they can do it but it is not something that should be expected. When all is said and done what decisions we make about our wedding do not have to be run by other people because it is our money. So in that regard I am glad we are paying ourselves. My mother did surprise me in buying my dress and she is throwing a shower so. She doing what she can and I am grateful.

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FH and I r paying for our wedding...actually FH is paying for most of it. If u're the only child, I really don't see why ur parents wouldn't want to contribute with ur wedding but just so there is no doubts, u should approach in a humble way to both of ur parents and ask them if they would like to help out...good luck!

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FH and i are paying for our wedding but both sets of parents are paying for guest that we normally wouldn't have invited - FIL's have offered to help but FH really wants to do it on our own b/c he really believes that we can - although i tell him that this is going to set us back years from buying a place - but whatever, he just wants to know that we're capable of doing it

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I would say my parents are covering 2/3 and FHs parents are covering 1/3.

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We are paying for everything ourselves.