paying for a wedding and buying a house

heatherfaith Posted: Dec 22, 2005 09:59 PM

paying for a wedding and buying a house

ok if your in the same boat as me. OH MY GOD
Im freaking out I don't know how we are going to afford all this. We are about to close on a house in carle place and paying for our wedding in may. I don't know how we are going to afford this. Plus the house needs so much work. maybe in 2012 we will finish it. lol
just venting.

wendyz06 Posted: Dec 22, 2005 10:01 PM

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Sort of in the same boat. My FH and I really want to buy an apt and since he is paying for both (wedding and new apt) I don't think we can afford both. I am in limbo not sure if I am getting a wedding or an apt or neither - bc I know it won't be both.

BklynItaliana Posted: Dec 22, 2005 10:28 PM

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fh wants to be in that boat.. i'm skeptical...
my grandparents have an apt for us for 2 years rent free.. fh doedn't want to do it..he wants to buy a house.. what would you do???

JennyAl Posted: Dec 22, 2005 10:38 PM

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GODD LUCK!

Soon2BMrsB Posted: Dec 22, 2005 11:10 PM

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I am in the same boat! Loving it & hating it at the same time! We closed on our house in September...FH has been fixing it up on the weekends (major stuff...knocked down a wall, re-sheetrocked, etc). Then we have this wedding in June to pay off. I can't wait to get married & am so excited that we have a house but it is so hard to save money!! Don't worry, you'll get through it...we both will!!

lrs2005 Posted: Dec 22, 2005 11:13 PM

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Posted by BklynItaliana

fh wants to be in that boat.. i'm skeptical...
my grandparents have an apt for us for 2 years rent free.. fh doedn't want to do it..he wants to buy a house.. what would you do???

i think it would depend where the apartment was - if it is with them, I could understand your DFs reluctance, but if it is just an apt. then I would totally take them up on it and save the money for a house.

BklynItaliana Posted: Dec 22, 2005 11:25 PM

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its a detached house.. w/ a rentable w/ a seperate entrance...i don't htinkit's too bad.. it would give us alot of time to save 4 for a house....

xcalystax Posted: Dec 22, 2005 11:50 PM

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We are currently saving for an apartment and a the wedding. We have a certain amount we are saving per month for the down payment and have worked out a spreadsheet with all our vendors and what kind of payment plan we will put them on. I can't wait until October to pay thousands of dollars!

kissy27 Posted: Dec 23, 2005 07:29 AM

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We are in the same boat...We just bought our first home in August & paying for our entire wedding in March...It is definately hard at times, but when you come home & see everything you have accomplished, it is well worth it! You have to be VERY wise with your spending, but I don't mind it!

tracy2246 Posted: Dec 23, 2005 07:47 AM

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we are doing the same and it finally got to the point where I have to just hope everything will fall into place-
I just could not deal with stressing over it anymore. I know that we will have no furniture but that is okay-

nicothy Posted: Dec 23, 2005 08:51 AM

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SAME BOAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ali120206 Posted: Dec 23, 2005 08:58 AM

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We just decided last week that we couldn't swing doing both at the same time. We're going to rent for a year and then buy after the wedding.

But, I feel your stress, my FH was gung ho that was what we were going to do for the longest time.

BernandRob Posted: Dec 23, 2005 09:09 AM

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I know it is scary, we are just taking it day by day and trying our best. We are moving off LI though, just don't want to pay that kind of money for a house.

leese Posted: Dec 23, 2005 09:14 AM

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i have no idea how we are going to pay for the wedding.....the mortgage eats up ALLL our money each month!

andri Posted: Dec 23, 2005 10:49 AM

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Posted by BklynItaliana

fh wants to be in that boat.. i'm skeptical...
my grandparents have an apt for us for 2 years rent free.. fh doedn't want to do it..he wants to buy a house.. what would you do???

I agree with your FH. I wouldn't take the apt either,just too close. I'm sure they are wonderful & all but they would know your every move,especially if they are retired,they have nothing better to do then keep tabs on your life. I don't mean to sound harsh..believe me, I'm in that boat so I'm telling you from experience. On our block its me(DH & our son), next door is my sis(her DH,2 kids), my parents & grandmother next door to her, my aunt & uncle (they have no kids so its like me & sis ARE their kids). It's like having 24 hour security...my sister & I call them all 'Slomin' Shield' They know when someone comes,goes,when ppl are over,etc. All they have to do is look out the window to get an update. My dad use to be really bad,letting himself in(with spare key)..my BIL stopped that short- he has a weird sence of humor,one day he saw my dad was on his way over..letting himself in of course..so my BIL quickly got undressed,draped a towel around himself and acted all normal..my dad was sooo he NEVER opened our doors again without ringing. Thats the downside. But...
it has its plusses too.. they all go to Europe half the year so we don't really see them that often. When they are not in Europe,they are in Florida. If I need something, 'moms' grocery store is open 24/7. We have wonderful babysitters and our kids,although very young- enjoy the freedom of going house to house.

Back to the original question..sure it can be done,we did it. It somehow all falls into place.
You just have to make it a priority. I know ppl that say 'oh,I can't buy a house,its toooo expensive' these same ppl go on trips frequently,buy themselves 'toys' ie. cars,tech stuff. Don't get me wrong..a little Gucci never hurt anyone. I just know I LOVE having my own home and that was our #1 priority.

Jola Posted: Dec 23, 2005 10:55 AM

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I bought my house ONE Month before my wedding... so tell me about it

BklynItaliana Posted: Dec 23, 2005 11:00 AM

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i totally understand what your saying i can't wait to have my own home... i just figured for the first year i can't be that bad.. we'd continue saving for a house the same way we are saving for the wedding and we'd have a very nice down payment(since we don't have to pay rent, or utilities)..its just a temp situation to help us out a bit..that how i'm looking at it...fh is looking at it in the way you just described it ..lol