People not that excited for you

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Posted by springsandra

I totally know what you mean!!!

That's why I am so happy I have you girls to share with -- if I had to rely on the friends I have at home, I'd be sad all the time and think I'm crazy for being as excited about our wedding as I am.

But really, I know I'm not! I'm a normal, happy bride!!! Just like all of you!!

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Just to piggy back on what you wrote Sandra!
Not only is it nice to have a bunch of brides to share with... but also... we can share things with eachother that we can't necessarily share with EVERYONE we know... like pictures of our dress and things like that. I couldn't go around with a pic of my dress and show everyone! Things I have to keep a secret but that you are sooo excited about.. it's nice to have a place to go and post about it amongst other people who are totally interested and can actually know about the little secrets and surprises.

So that's really awesome!!!!

Just something I was actually thinking about this morning.

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Posted by JennyAPH

People that I thought would be super excited for me are the complete opposite.. but suprisingly, people that I never expected to even care have been so great and so supportive. People surprise you, its life, but dont let it get you down, not during this very exciting time for you.

I was very upset about the people i thought didnt care at first but then I realized I was wasting time and energy on it for no reason, all that matters is how excited FH and I are.

Girls in my bridal party couldnt give a sh*t what is going on. I had to order their dresses for them because noone but my MOH showed up... if you asked them they couldnt tell you what my dress looked like, what my wedding colors are, where im registered etc.. they just do not care. I was one of my BM's MOH two years ago and did EVERYTHING with her and for her. We had so much fun, now its my turn and she is no where to be found. I am ok with it tho, wedding planning helps you gain clarity into who your real true friends are and the ones that care. My sister (MOH) has been there for everything and is so excited and I never expected it. I am so happy I was able to see this side of her!

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Bitter Sweet!

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Posted by KerriJohnS

Hahahaha!

Yup! Some people who aren't excited are actually surprising and others who are excited are people I would think wouldn't be.

My grandmother doesn't let me or my mother talk about wedding planning when she's around. Problem is... I don't see my mother that often... so when I do it's like a holiday or something and the grandmother (picture a cross between flowers in the attic and the grandmother on gilmore girls) is around... you get yelled at if you bring it up. My mom always has questions and things she wants to know about...but if we talk about it we get yelled at from the drill sargent! It's sooo ridiculous! Imagine being told what you can and cannot talk about?!?!?!

My grandmother also was ADAMENT about my mother NOT coming dress shopping with me!!! What is that about?!?!? My mother of course came anyway and pretty much was just like 'too bad, I'm going'. My grandmother is STRANGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Now she doesn't want me to go dress shopping with her or my mother. She's a nut job!!!

Then my friend Jackie, who is also a BM... she's sooo not girly at all and I would think she couldn't care less about the wedding... she's all into it. And just always says things like 'whatever you want... it's all for you guys... I'll do whatever, I'll wear whatever'... but most of all she's genuinely EXCITED about the whole thing. I don't think I have a friend who is more excited than she is. Not even my MOH or another BM who is a really long time friend of mine (since we were about 7 or 8... we are 28/29 now!). It's interesting.

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Wow that is so crazy about your grandmother!! At least though your mom still does what she wants and is there for you, which is totally great of her

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Posted by JennyAPH

People that I thought would be super excited for me are the complete opposite.. but suprisingly, people that I never expected to even care have been so great and so supportive. People surprise you, its life, but dont let it get you down, not during this very exciting time for you.

I was very upset about the people i thought didnt care at first but then I realized I was wasting time and energy on it for no reason, all that matters is how excited FH and I are.

Girls in my bridal party couldnt give a sh*t what is going on. I had to order their dresses for them because noone but my MOH showed up... if you asked them they couldnt tell you what my dress looked like, what my wedding colors are, where im registered etc.. they just do not care. I was one of my BM's MOH two years ago and did EVERYTHING with her and for her. We had so much fun, now its my turn and she is no where to be found. I am ok with it tho, wedding planning helps you gain clarity into who your real true friends are and the ones that care. My sister (MOH) has been there for everything and is so excited and I never expected it. I am so happy I was able to see this side of her!

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That's so terrible. I don't understand why people are like this like seriously just show the bride that you care and are truly excited for her. Like yesterday i told my friend my dress is in and she was excited but then asked me if i had it at home and i said no and she just goes OH. My dress is still in but not in my possession...jeez

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Posted by MrsCastanedain09

Gloria,
I feel you 110%! My Mom has been the biggest surprise to me, I think for her it comes down to money and she's never really been to a wedding like mine before. It's a cultural/economic issue. Thank God for LIW!

I love Mirabella's advice, very true. I'm TOTALLY excited that your dress is in! We share this with you...trust, she will be excited to see you in it. It will all come together.

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I think the same with my mom i just think she doesn't understand all the things i am doing like she thinks its a simple process and i am overreacting and making it bigger than what it really is. Thank you for being excited for me

I feel the same. My mom cries over any little thing. So I was expecting to see some tears when I tried on my gown..... not even a drop. All I got was ~ it's beatiful on you... Ohh well. I'm hoping to see some tears at the altar

Awwww My Gloria!!! I'm happy your dress came in!!

Its hard to tell what will make ppl happy!! But the best of all is that your FH is excited and looking forward to being your DH!!

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Posted by KYBride09

I feel the same. My mom cries over any little thing. So I was expecting to see some tears when I tried on my gown..... not even a drop. All I got was ~ it's beatiful on you... Ohh well. I'm hoping to see some tears at the altar

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My mom too. Just said it's pretty and fits you well that's it. Nothing else no excitement nothing.

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Posted by EmiNoa628

Awwww My Gloria!!! I'm happy your dress came in!!

Its hard to tell what will make ppl happy!! But the best of all is that your FH is excited and looking forward to being your DH!!

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Aww thank you for being happy for me .Yup when he told me that i got all teary eyed because that was the first time he said something like that

I know its hard. Some people are more excited then others. My sister and mother have been helpful. My fiance has been helpful too, but he did not want a large wedding and we are having one so he get frustrated about the planning. Most of my BM's are not involved in the planning. Some have asked are you done yet? Also, its hard because we are paying for most of the wedding by ourselfs and some of my BM's had unlimited budgets because their parents paid for everything so I don't think they understand. So i have been doing most of the planning myself I don't bother asking anymore

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Posted by las1

I know its hard. Some people are more excited then others. My sister and mother have been helpful. My fiance has been helpful too, but he did not want a large wedding and we are having one so he get frustrated about the planning. Most of my BM's are not involved in the planning. Some have asked are you done yet? Also, its hard because we are paying for most of the wedding by ourselfs and some of my BM's had unlimited budgets because their parents paid for everything so I don't think they understand. So i have been doing most of the planning myself I don't bother asking anymore

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The entire planning part i asked no one because when the planning first started no one seemed to care. So now i just tell them bits and pieces and they still don't care. So frustrating, i guess what can you do if people won't be happy for you.

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Posted by xosweetiexo

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Posted by GRod2Be

Exactly you just want them to be happy and to ooo and aaah over the things you buy or do, not worry about money that is your job to worry about the money not theirs lol.

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LOL yeaaaaaa I know what you mean, it happens to me all the time

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I can't stand that or they tell you don't buy anything else. Seriously just let me buy what i want it's my wedding!!

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omg this is so true. everyone is like why are u getting this or why are u getting that. my response is you had your wedding right ? so then let me have mine. your wedding is ur time to shine and you should have everything you want.

this site is great for making people feel good and go through things with you. i am happy i joined.

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Posted by KYBride09

I feel the same. My mom cries over any little thing. So I was expecting to see some tears when I tried on my gown..... not even a drop. All I got was ~ it's beatiful on you... Ohh well. I'm hoping to see some tears at the altar

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My mom too. Just said it's pretty and fits you well that's it. Nothing else no excitement nothing.

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I got to the point that I asked her if she didn't want me to get married. Big mistake! I wanted to hear her say ' of course I do' instead I got ' you the one that knows' I'm happy for you either way... WT....??
Then she has days where she can't stop talking about the details... so weird -

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Posted by KYBride09

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Posted by GRod2Be

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Posted by KYBride09

I feel the same. My mom cries over any little thing. So I was expecting to see some tears when I tried on my gown..... not even a drop. All I got was ~ it's beatiful on you... Ohh well. I'm hoping to see some tears at the altar

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My mom too. Just said it's pretty and fits you well that's it. Nothing else no excitement nothing.

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I got to the point that I asked her if she didn't want me to get married. Big mistake! I wanted to hear her say ' of course I do' instead I got ' you the one that knows' I'm happy for you either way... WT....??
Then she has days where she can't stop talking about the details... so weird -

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Omg same here i actually got into a huge fight with her and told her that since she is the only close family that i have that she needs to be excited for 3 people meaning herself, my dad who passed away and my grandmother who passed away. She says to me oh you expect me to jump and down and be happy i said Yes why not i'm your only daughter. She is still the same acting like she doesnt care.

Aww Gloria we'll all be your cheer squad!!! I'm so happy for you that your dress came!!

Now about your Mom have you ruled out other possiblity's for her bland reactions..maybe she might be a little sad to be losing you as a daughter if you live with her...or maybe she is just a little sad that your Dad will not get to see it. I'm sure your Mommy wants to be super happy for you maybe you should sit her and down and explain

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Posted by KYBride09

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Posted by KYBride09

I feel the same. My mom cries over any little thing. So I was expecting to see some tears when I tried on my gown..... not even a drop. All I got was ~ it's beatiful on you... Ohh well. I'm hoping to see some tears at the altar

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My mom too. Just said it's pretty and fits you well that's it. Nothing else no excitement nothing.

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I got to the point that I asked her if she didn't want me to get married. Big mistake! I wanted to hear her say ' of course I do' instead I got ' you the one that knows' I'm happy for you either way... WT....??
Then she has days where she can't stop talking about the details... so weird -

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Omg same here i actually got into a huge fight with her and told her that since she is the only close family that i have that she needs to be excited for 3 people meaning herself, my dad who passed away and my grandmother who passed away. She says to me oh you expect me to jump and down and be happy i said Yes why not i'm your only daughter. She is still the same acting like she doesnt care.

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Maybe she's like that because of your Grandma and Dad not being there??

I know how you feel. Even worse is fake excitment..... I have just accepted that no one is ever going to be as excited as me, so I have given up! I sent an email with my CP's to my BM and the ONE that replied simply said 'oh that will be pretty' not even an exclamation at the end LOL
I mean geesh would a smiley face had killed her?!


it's cool we are all excited for one another if that helps, right?!

I agree 100%....and it completely su**s!!! One of my BM has been 100% M.I.A and I havent even spoken to her since my shower on May16th!!!! I have called her AT LEAST 14 times, but still no response. At this point, I feel like she doesnt want to be involved and maybe i should say something and she can just go on her merry way....


I have learned that the only ones that matter are you and FH and screw everyone else!!! That is the best way to look at it!!