perhaps not a wedding present list ?

Me and FH are living together and its also second time for both of us...we're just having an evening reception back in the UK after getting married in NYC.

How can we diplomatically ask for money instead of having a wedding present list? Is that the done thing? Its just that we've got most of what we need already ?
Someone once mentioned a wedding poem incorporating this idea but I don't know of any?

I am trying to understand - is this for a wedding or shower? If it is for a wedding you don't register - most people in NY don't give gifts at all for a wedding they give cash so really no biggie.

just don't register...it will have the impact you are hoping for

i am not sure there is a diplomatic or etiquette friendly way to ask for money as gifts..

Here's a bunch I found online:

So what do you get
For the bride and groom
Whose house needs things
In every room?
When shopping for a present please don’t be rash
As there is always the option
To just give cash!
We hope you don’t find
Our request to be funny
But we really would appreciate
A gift of money


Friends, as you are well aware we already have most items needed to ‘set up house’. This is the reason for us choosing a wedding wishing well. At the reception there will be a wishing well in which we would love to receive your greeting card and contribution. This will be a great way for us to pool together and buy ourselves something quite luxurious, or to make our honeymoon even better.


This wishing well is here today for family and friends. Take an envelope, make a wish, for the couple, will come true. A token for the couple to help them begin, will be welcomed too. Please take the time to make a wish before the day is through.


Now we are to be Mr & Mrs
We don’t need a wedding list of dishes
We have two kettles, two toasters, two microwaves
We require a house for which we have to save.
If you would like to give us a gift,
A cheque or vouchers would give us a lift
We like to think of it as our ‘wishing well’
Which will be filled with your love, we can tell.


We’ve been together for a few years now;
We have pots and pans and linen and towels;
We have glasses and toasters, really quite a few;
So instead of more gifts, we suggest this to you;
If it doesn’t offend and it won’t send you running;
What we would really appreciate is quite simply money;
We know choosing gifts can be such a pain;
And this way there is no chance of bringing the same


If you was thinking of giving us a gift, to help us on our way.
A gift of cash towards our house, would really make our day.
However, if you prefer to purchase a gift, feel free to surprise us in your own way.


To save you looking, shopping or buying.
Here is an idea, we hope you like trying.
Come to our wedding, to wish us both well.
And bring this small sack, to throw in our wishing well.
Fill it with paper all colours will do, gold is our favourite but silver will do.
Now that we have saved you, all that fuss.
We hope you will come, and celebrate with us.

(bit similar to one above)

To save you looking, shopping or buying.
Here is an idea, we hope you like trying!
Come to our wedding, to wish us both well.
And make some use of our little wishing well.
Just put some money into a card,
Now make a wish…..see that wasn’t hard!
Now that we have saved you, all that fuss.
We hope you will come, and celebrate with us.
Please don’t be offended at this type of request,
As our day will be complete having you as our guest.


We don’t want to offend but we have it all,
All household goods and so much more.
To save you shopping, sit back and rest,
A gift of currency is our request.
Don’t go overboard or rob any banks,
Any little thing will make us smile with thanks.
We supply the wishing well,
No wrapping, an envelop who can tell.
Now that we have saved you all the fuss,
It would be appreciated if you would come
And celebrate with us


More than just kisses so far we’ve shared,
Our home has been made with love and care,
Most things we need we’ve already got,
And in out home we can’t fit a lot!
A wishing well we thought would be great,
(But only if you wish to participate),
A gift of money is placed in the well,
Then make a wish but shhh don’t tell!
Once we’ve replaced the old with the new,
We can look back and say it was thanks to you!
And in return for your kindness, we’re sure,
That one day soon you will get what you wished for.
Please don’t be offended at this type of request,
As our day is complete having you as our guest.

I've seen wedding invitations say something like, 'Please, no boxed gifts', which implies that you should give $$. When I've received invitations that imply that money should be given as a present, it's left a bad taste in my mouth. If you don't register for gifts, you'll most likely receive a check or cash from your guests anyway.
GL!

i guess that depends on everyone's sensibilities in the UK. in NY, it's automatic for most people to give money but not so out-of-state. i don't think there's a polite way by US standards to ask for money

thanks for your help and thoughts with this one...its a bit tricky isn't it , not wanting to offend?