Ok, why is it she has to complain about the dress I chose. I mean its my wedding right? Her taste is not at all good either. She keeps on complaining that she is short and it wont look right. I mean use your common sense, you get measured and fitted. This is not like going into a regular store and buying something off the rack.
What should I do... I try so hard not to say nething and shes my cousin ERRR!!!
I just feel like blowing up on her cause she has a mentality that she is a princess (shes 25 yrs old) and things should go how she wants it.
What do I do?
AwaitingAugust
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tell her exactly what you wrote here ... but maybe a little nicer and with less head banging
tell her that she should trust you to find a great dress that will be beautiful on everyone, and that ultimately, the dress will be tailored and it'll look great.
gotta put her in her place before she gets outta hand
good luck!
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damn.... lol its so hard. Cause I know it will go in one ear and out the next. Even my FH is pissed and has had it with her lol. I only have her in the wedding because of my mom, and she is the only girl cousin that I kind of talk too.
the only thing that gets me is....she doesnt return calls and always has an excuse that she is busy . LIKE *** my wedding is in 5 months. I really dont have time for BS
Beautifly
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She just told me this like a minute ago
'Im sorry but im not wearing it. I dont like it. You told me that i was not going to and now you change your mind. That is not fair.'
What would you gals say to this? I mean I was looking before but I was not sure about the direction. Now i am and this is ridiculous. Should I really have to put up with this. Im trying to hold my self back because its my moms sisters daughter and I dont want them to have it out.
WHAT TO DO?
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so sorry you have to deal with this BS ...
if she's making your life THIS difficult, maybe your mom can do something about her attitude? if not, tell her that she can always choose not to be in your bridal party after all
best of luck with her ... she sounds pretty awful
Spring143
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not everyones going to be happy-she has to realize that its your day not hers.
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Well I guess its down to that because she said 'Im not wearing it' and I asked ' So do you mean your not in the bridal party'
Her response 'I guess so'
ERRR
Why must things be so difficult. If it was her wedding I would not even question what she chose.
I HATE ATTENTION SEEKING BM'S
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that is the rudest thing ever. she would leave a bridal party bc of the dress?? good riddance. she would make a bad bridesmaid anyway. i'm sure your mom would understand too - you did nothing wrong! all you did was pick a dress you love for YOUR wedding day.
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I cant believe she cant comprehend that a dress is not really her decision at all.. I am kind of stressing about it because I know her mom n mom will prob argue about it. but wutever . I just give up and cannot tolerate this ne longer.
If I were asked to be in a bridal party I would be honored. I wouldnt are if I had to wear a SHEET lol.... (Just saying) It wouldnt make a difference of what the bride put me in. Its just the fact that I was chosen to be apart of an important day.
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I know it *****, and that it may cause some drama, but think of all the drama you just saved yourself for all the other things I'm sure she will find problems with
And, you didn't technically kick her out, she chose not to be part of it. It may **** now, but your bridal party should be there for you. Good riddance
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This is what she just wrote to me:
'well as it is, i don't want to wear the dress however you and all of your bridesmaids love it and you have made your final decision. i believe thats called an impasse. it's cool. it is what it is. like you said, its your wedding and you reserve the right to change your mind. i was under the impression that i was wearing something else and you changed your mind without even asking if i was ok with it which i find unfair. you said u've been trying to call and text me... well i find that ridiculous. my phone is on me 24/7, i have a house phone, e-mail and facebook. honestly i been under alot of stress lately and i don't need anymore. i would've loved to have been in your wedding party but under the circumstances (being the dress), i guess i won't be. i don't like the dress. those types of dresses don't fit me well at all. trust me, i know... i've been in my body for 26 years now. it's cool. no hard feelings. enjoy your wedding. '
I am going up the wall right now
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Posted by Beautifly
This is what she just wrote to me:
'well as it is, i don't want to wear the dress however you and all of your bridesmaids love it and you have made your final decision. i believe thats called an impasse. it's cool. it is what it is. like you said, its your wedding and you reserve the right to change your mind. i was under the impression that i was wearing something else and you changed your mind without even asking if i was ok with it which i find unfair. you said u've been trying to call and text me... well i find that ridiculous. my phone is on me 24/7, i have a house phone, e-mail and facebook. honestly i been under alot of stress lately and i don't need anymore. i would've loved to have been in your wedding party but under the circumstances (being the dress), i guess i won't be. i don't like the dress. those types of dresses don't fit me well at all. trust me, i know... i've been in my body for 26 years now. it's cool. no hard feelings. enjoy your wedding. '
I am going up the wall right now
That's cr*p! I've been in weddings were I did not like the dress. But if you care about someone, then you will **** it up and wear it. Its your wedding and you don't have to please everyone. If that is enough to make her drop out, so be it. Its 'unfair' of her to expect you to change the dress when she is the only one who doesnt like it.
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Her last Response since shes a little brat.
'no texts, and no phone calls. if i'm not comfortable in something, i won't wear it. i'm sorry. i'm glad they like it. no u don't have to make sure with me but it would've been nice to have been asked since i'm the one who would have to wear it. sorry i can't honor the dress you chose, and yes this is my decision because it seems to be your way or no way and thats fine. like you said, its your wedding. i don't know if i will be showing up anywhere or doing anything. you have your friend's, your fam and bobby's fam... so many people... you won't even miss that i'm gone. good night. no need to respond. we both know where we stand'
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ugh! what a crybaby she is! It is your wedding and you get to pick the dress- if all the other girls like it too that's good. Let her complain and if you don't pay attention she might come back.
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I'm just playing devil's advocate here.
Regarding the dress you chose - have any of your girls tried it on yet? It might be the dress you're envisioning as the BM dress you love, but as we all know, with ANY piece of attire, it always looks great on the models in the ads; what matters is how it looks on whoever is wearing it in real life.
I'm not excusing her response...the fact that she'd rather opt out of your bridal party over a piece of clothing means that she doesn't understand what kind of an honor it is to be asked to be part of someone's BP. However, if no one has tried on this dress yet, and no one knows exactly how it looks on real-sized girls and not the models in the ads, then both of you might be overreacting to this dilemma a little too early in the game.
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omg mega biotch.... why do you have to consult make sure anything is ok with her??? thats rude... and her last comment... enjoy your wedding???? thats even worse.... i would deck her the next time i see her
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I can't believe she is basing her involvement in your bridal party around a dress! If she's going to be this dramatic now, you probably have alot more coming your way. Maybe it's a blessing in disguise. You have the right to make your decision and she made hers, just let it be!
Do you mind posting a picture of the dress?
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I would tell her not to worry about the fit of the dress bc obviously there can b alterations made to the dress and the style is completely up to u. She's gonna have to understand that its YOUR wedding and wen she gets married she can make all the decisions that she wants.
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there will always be ppl who have soemthing negative to say. FSIL is the same way. try to ignore it or tell her its your way or no way...ur the princess not her
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Well I guess its down to that because she said 'Im not wearing it' and I asked ' So do you mean your not in the bridal party'
Her response 'I guess so'
ERRR
Why must things be so difficult. If it was her wedding I would not even question what she chose.
