Please Help Bridesmaid Trouble!

Bowlinchic300 Posted: Jun 08, 2010 08:05 PM

Please Help Bridesmaid Trouble!

Hey guys I have all my plans set for my wedding and I have told all my bridesmaids how much hair and makeup is going to cost. All of the girls were okay with the cost. Now all of a sudden one of my bridesmaids who are getting married next year(which this only just happend) is saying that she thinks it is rediculous how much money it is. She is saying that I should be paying for all of that not her. I don't know what to do. I am such an easy going bride as it was I let all the girls pick out their own dresses as long as it stayed within what I wanted. I also spent alot of money on each of them for the bridesmaid gifts. Please let me know if your bridesmaids or you paid for the hair and make-up to get done? Thank you SOOOOOO Much!

Jna2010 Posted: Jun 08, 2010 08:16 PM

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i cant take rudeness from people! if she didnt like it she shouldnt have agreed to it from the beginning!!

i mean yes it is a nice gesture if you can and are able to pay for their hair and make up but certainly not required by any means.

maybe tell her youll pay for hers but you wont be able to get her a gift for having her a part of your day. or you can give her some cheaper hair and make up options?

hope it works out!

BRIDE62610 Posted: Jun 08, 2010 08:22 PM

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Well the best question to ask is.....are you making them get it done? Or is optional? If you are making them do it, then I'd lean more towards saying you are more obligated to pay, but if it's HER choice, then it's her bill. Either way, you decide whether or not you pay, it's YOUR wedding :)

She MAY be singing a different tune when it's her wedding ;)

FutureMrsG Posted: Jun 08, 2010 08:48 PM

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I did not pay for my girls to get their hair and make up done but I did not ask them to use my girls either. In the end all but one person used my girls but the person who did not looked amazing (she always does so I did not worry).

rendel Posted: Jun 08, 2010 09:12 PM

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She can pay for her own, there is always one that gives a hard time!!!!!!!!!

MongieToBe Posted: Jun 08, 2010 09:16 PM

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Posted by BRIDE62610

Well the best question to ask is.....are you making them get it done? Or is optional? If you are making them do it, then I'd lean more towards saying you are more obligated to pay, but if it's HER choice, then it's her bill. Either way, you decide whether or not you pay, it's YOUR wedding :)

She MAY be singing a different tune when it's her wedding ;)

ita.

aquag12283 Posted: Jun 08, 2010 09:34 PM

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I think you are being more than fair. Im am in my friends wedding in July and Im paying for my own hair and make-up as I did when I was in my friends wedding 3 years ago. She is being unreasonable. Tell her she doesnt have to get her hair and make-up but if she wants it done she will have to pay for it herself

Soon2BMrsAlini Posted: Jun 08, 2010 11:04 PM

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Nope, I'm not paying for hair/makeup. I have a serious budget and can't afford to. I will pay the tips though. One of my bm is coming from Florida and wants to do her own makeup, which is fine with me. It's def not your obligation to pay any of that...she'll see that when it's her turn.

blu6385 Posted: Jun 09, 2010 08:37 AM

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my girls paid for thier hair and makeup if they got it done but i also did not make them i told them they can do what the want.

Panamasweet Posted: Jun 09, 2010 08:50 AM

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I am paying for my girls make up only because I want my girl to do everyone. In the begining I told them they didnt have to get it done but then after thinking about it i wanted everyone to have their make up done so my pictures looked uniform. I am not paying for their hair.

I think if everyone agreed that the price you gave them was reasonable it its terrible that she has something to say now. She is going to see how terrible she is being when its her turn to get married. I would tell her you agreed to this and i think to change your mind now is rude.

runnerbride1023 Posted: Jun 09, 2010 10:10 AM

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I am paying for their hair and make up only b/c I want it done.

jmgoncal Posted: Jun 09, 2010 10:20 AM

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Posted by BRIDE62610

Well the best question to ask is.....are you making them get it done? Or is optional? If you are making them do it, then I'd lean more towards saying you are more obligated to pay, but if it's HER choice, then it's her bill. Either way, you decide whether or not you pay, it's YOUR wedding :)

She MAY be singing a different tune when it's her wedding ;)

ITA

dancer14007 Posted: Jun 09, 2010 10:26 AM

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As part of their gifts, I'm paying to have my bridesmaids' makeup done. They're paying for their hair. I couldn't afford to pay for both. But I also ordered them bracelets and had their names engraved on them. I think your friend is acting horrible!

JessNicole7EM Posted: Jun 09, 2010 10:37 AM

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I'm not paying for their hair or makeup..

but they're also not obligated to get it professionally done.. it's their choice.

dctead Posted: Jun 09, 2010 10:48 AM

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I am paying for hair if they choose to have it done.. but not make up..

Moonmist09 Posted: Jun 09, 2010 10:57 AM

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BM pay for thei own hair & makeup.
if they don't want to use your people, then they can have it done somewhere else, but i'm not paying for it!

itbroi805 Posted: Jun 09, 2010 11:17 AM

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I'm paying for their hair because I am requiring that it gets pulled back. I haven't quoted out makeup yet, but if it's affordable, I may pay for it too for them all. If it's not affordable, I will offer that they can pay for their own makeup to be done if they want.

If you require that her makeup gets done, then I think it's fair that you pay. If you don't care, then tell her OK, then don't get your makeup done!

TMO

julesrbf Posted: Jun 09, 2010 11:19 AM

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No, you are certainly not 'required' to pay for anyone else's hair and makeup. I did not. I told my girls as long as they were wearing makeup and their hair looked nice, I was happy. If they wanted to get theirs done by my girl, they could.

It is not your responsibility to pay for any of the BM's stuff ... that is part of the deal when they accept being in your BP. Esp if she already agreed to pay for it and is now backstepping.

Thats-What-She-Said Posted: Jun 09, 2010 11:20 AM

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My bridesmaids will be paying for themselves. THIS IS STANDARD!!!! However, I am not forcing them to get their hair and makeup done. If they want to do it themselves I am ok with that. It can become an expensive proposition and I understand that not all of my bridesmaids are financially stable. BUT REMEMBER IT IS STANDARD THAT A BRIDESMAID PAY FOR THEMSELVES.