Please help me I need some support

BellaEyes Posted: Oct 10, 2006 07:45 PM

Please help me I need some support

With my wedding day fast approaching I feel SOO anxious. Not about marrying my love of my life but my family.. they are really stressing me.. I am so worried and nervous.. I was supposed to get ready at my mom's boyfriends house but now I am seeing that it will not be as calm as I need it that morning... very sensitive issue..

What should I do?

eden Posted: Oct 10, 2006 07:47 PM

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it's not too late to rethink the idea!

I was gonna get ready at my sister's place half an hour away from the ceremony site but decided to book a hotel a few months before the wedding date 'cus I just knew it would be too much of a hassle!

sfmullen Posted: Oct 10, 2006 07:56 PM

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what will not be calming? Do you want to go somewhere else but afraid to hurt your mothers feelings?

D's Girl Posted: Oct 10, 2006 07:58 PM

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I would suggest getting a hotel room and maybe staying there with a few of your BM's the night before

You will be calm and it may keep your mind off of whatever is bothering you.

Tria1110 Posted: Oct 10, 2006 08:16 PM

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Do what is best for you! Only you know what will keep you calm on your big day. Don't be bullied or feel bad. Otherwise you will regret it.

NY031978 Posted: Oct 10, 2006 08:16 PM

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im getting a hotel the night b4...getting make up and hair done there.......then off to my parents to get dressed and do some pics! To much stress on my mom for the day of....and if shes stressed i will be as well!

So do that get a room w. your MOH and stay there!

sr081906 Posted: Oct 10, 2006 08:22 PM

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Are you getting married at a church or at your hall?

If you are getting married at your hall, maybe you could get ready in the bridal suite.

Just a thought.

I had my hair and MU done in the bridal suite as well as getting dressed.

curiousgeorge Posted: Oct 10, 2006 09:29 PM

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Maybe you can make it a cute girly theme. Invite your MOH and your mom and a few of your BM's to have a sleepover with you the night before at a nice hotel. Just an idea!! Good luck with everything. Relax! Everything will fall into place and your day is going to be perfect! Your in love!!! Your getting married

LuvMyAlfonse Posted: Oct 10, 2006 09:43 PM

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Family, family, family

I agree with most of the girls, if you can afford it, book a hotel. It's relaxing, you can order up a breakfast platter and mimosas and relax before your big day...

And everytime your feeling stressed, give a big head to toe stretch, like hang in the doorway and just stretch your whole body, it's instant relaxation. You keep your mind on your stretch and then you think about how good it feels afterwards! Problems disappear if only for a short while...

BellaEyes Posted: Oct 10, 2006 10:22 PM

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Thanks girls.. well where should I begin.. there is ALOT of DRAMA going on within my own family not to mention my FH's. My mom and her Bf of 6 years (who I consider a father I never had and who I chose to walk down the aisle with me and my mom) .... is drinking a lot lately.. and the two of them constantly bicker and fight.. I can't be around that, especially if they are going to do this the morning or night before my wedding day. SO. I think I may do as many of you girls mentioned and get a hotel room the night before and get ready there ..

I don't want to have to deal with any negative drama the morning of or the night before, ie., drinking and B.S. ETC...

I can't take their S*** anymore.. I am ready to disown people

leenie75 Posted: Oct 10, 2006 10:25 PM

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You definitely need a hotel room....just to relax a little. Hang in there...I know how that situation can be.

BellaEyes Posted: Oct 10, 2006 10:31 PM

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Posted by leenie75

You definitely need a hotel room....just to relax a little. Hang in there...I know how that situation can be.

Yes, I agree.. I will look into these arrangements this weekend. I do not need this added stress

DanNette Posted: Oct 10, 2006 11:10 PM

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I like the hotel idea! Keep the number of people with you before the ceremony down to a minimum, only your close girlfriends and fam that you know you can lean on.

PegaLega Posted: Oct 10, 2006 11:45 PM

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If you think that it will start your day off wrong maybe book a hotel room for you to get ready at instead. It might make it a little easier on you if you have a little bit more privacy to get ready.

sfmullen Posted: Oct 11, 2006 12:43 AM

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You need more than a hotel room! I think you need to find a hotel with a spa and just get pampered all day before your wedding!

portjeffbride Posted: Oct 11, 2006 09:35 PM

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I feel compelled to share some wisdom we received during pre-cana last weekend. (Pre-cana is basically pre-marital counseling for Catholics...)

You are marrying the one you love.. You are choosing to dedicate yourselves to each other for the rest of your lives. While you both love your families, they are NOT a part of the union. The only other possible members of this union are children. It's time to set boundries so your families do not smother you both or strain your marriage.

If you didn't have to worry about anyone else, what would you WANT to do?

You can be firm, yet still be polite and loving to your family....

good luck!

AlBaBride Posted: Oct 11, 2006 09:37 PM

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You don't need added stress on your wedding day...if your mom's BF's house is going to cause you anxiety, get ready somewhere else...I think getting a hotel room w/your bridesmaids is a great idea! Good luck...take deep breaths, you're getting married very soon!