Please help me settle an argument...

Summer05 Posted: Jun 19, 2005 09:36 PM

Please help me settle an argument...

Please help settle an argument for me.

During the first dance, do the bride and groom dance for the entire song, or only for part of the song and then others join in?

Thanks!

marymoon Posted: Jun 19, 2005 09:37 PM

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I've seen it done both ways

CalJoe0124 Posted: Jun 19, 2005 09:37 PM

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I have to say I don't think there is a winner with this debate
It is really all about your preference, I have seen the first dance done both ways so do what makes you and FH happy!

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Jun 19, 2005 09:38 PM

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it's your preference.

paezano Posted: Jun 19, 2005 09:43 PM

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to me-the first dance is the most important- and my soon to be husband and i will enjoy that time alone in the spotlight-but you have to do what makes you happy!

David'sbride Posted: Jun 19, 2005 09:45 PM

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Posted by paezano

to me-the first dance is the most important- and my soon to be husband and i will enjoy that time alone in the spotlight-but you have to do what makes you happy!

Yes, this is the way we are doing it. I have also seen the dj announce all of the married couples please join... 'the more married couples the more years of happiness'. I haven't seen that done in a few years though. That was more popular when most of my friends were getting married over ten years ago.

06NovBride Posted: Jun 19, 2005 09:50 PM

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I've only gone to weddings where the rest of the reception joined in, but when we went to talk with the DJ he said the first dance is the only dance you will get to be alone and have the spotlight entirely on you...so he suggested we dance alone and maybe do a second slow dance where everyone can join in. HTH

tonia1001 Posted: Jun 19, 2005 09:53 PM

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Posted by marymoon

I've seen it done both ways

I've also seen it done both ways!

troutster Posted: Jun 19, 2005 11:04 PM

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It can be done either way.

junebride! Posted: Jun 19, 2005 11:22 PM

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Whatever makes it special for the two of you...we are dancing a song by ourselves and then another song for people to join us....

Jennie0898 Posted: Jun 19, 2005 11:23 PM

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I think it really comes down to whatever you prefer doing.

busybee705 Posted: Jun 19, 2005 11:34 PM

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I'd like to dance w/ FH for 1/2 of the song and have everyone join in for the other half.

BriBri529 Posted: Jun 20, 2005 12:07 AM

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Whatever the couple prefers

LovelyChas Posted: Jun 20, 2005 12:29 AM

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All of the ones I've been to the first dance is only the husband and wife...then the song after that is the one everyone joins in. But its really up to you and your FH :)

Summer05 Posted: Jun 20, 2005 10:39 AM

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Thanks for all of your input! FH says we should only dance 1/2 of the song, and I think that we should dance the whole song.

nov04LIbride Posted: Jun 20, 2005 10:40 AM

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We did not want everyone watching us dance, so we had everyone join in about 1/2 way through. I think as a guest it gets boring watching the bride/groom, bride/dad, groom/mom, etc.

RedHead Posted: Jun 20, 2005 10:43 AM

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Posted by nov04LIbride

We did not want everyone watching us dance, so we had everyone join in about 1/2 way through. I think as a guest it gets boring watching the bride/groom, bride/dad, groom/mom, etc.

while i do not think it is boring...we also didn't feel comfortable having everyone watch us the entire song so we also had the BO come in 1/2 through

tourist Posted: Jun 20, 2005 10:43 AM

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Posted by nov04LIbride

We did not want everyone watching us dance, so we had everyone join in about 1/2 way through. I think as a guest it gets boring watching the bride/groom, bride/dad, groom/mom, etc.

we tried to have everyone join in , but the band forgot to annouce it!
I felt like that song went on FOREVER!
We didn' 'have parent dances though, so that was the only thing the guests realy had to sit through.

May2004 Posted: Jun 20, 2005 10:47 AM

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Posted by troutster

It can be done either way.

I agree.

I had it done where only for part of the song and then others join in.

But then after the cake we had our 'spot-light' dance and that was just the 2 of us.