Please Help-need a list of what the Grooms Family is supposed to do!!!!

Well according to proper edittque (spl) the family with the most money is suppose to pay for the wedding. For example if the Bride is from a middle class family and the Groom is Donald Trumpi. That sort of thing. But traditionally the grooms family host the engagement party, and the reherisal dinner.
The groom himself pays for the wedding licenses, the honey moon, the brides boutque, his tux, the bonqiters (spl) for his family and grooms men.

But in all honestly now a days many of the grooms family may help out with photography, flowers, part of the reception, pay the for officiant, etc... it really depends on what they are willing to do. If you are marring an only child, his parents may be more open to chipping in a lot more.

They have articles about it in most bridal mags. or planning books. They all say something different.

I heard Grooms parents pay for...
The rehersal dinner
Flowers
out of town guests on their side... their hotel & stuff.

Brides parents pay for everything else.

we're not following the usual ettiquette.
FH's family has a lot more money than mine and even though my dad wants to pay for my guests at the reception and half of the vendors I don't want him going into debt and having to take out loans.
So this is how we're paying for the wedding.

FH's parents are covering a little bit more than half the reception (FH have more guests than I do)
I'm covering the remainder of the reception.

FH and my parents are splitting the vendor costs and my parents are paying for my dress.

As for rehearsal dinner, we don't know yet, but we have a long way to go before that decision is made.

Hmmm Kay...the below is from Our Wedding.com
Hope it helps you!

Who Pays for What?

Working out a budget for your wedding is one of the first things that should be done, once the date is set. Will the ceremony be formal, semiformal or informal? A formal wedding, of course, will be the most expensive and the informal, the least. Nothing is set in concrete. Who pays for what? Unlike a decade ago, the lines are no longer rigidly drawn. The burden of paying for the wedding has shifted in recent years from the shoulders of the father of the bride, to include the groom's family. Also, with many couples marrying later and having money of their own, they are sharing in the expenses.

There are no longer any hard and fast rules as to 'Who Pays for What', but a general guideline follows as to the traditional breakdown.


Traditional Breakdown of Expenses

Wedding Gown, Headpiece & Accessories
The Bride's Family

Wedding Ring for Bride
The Groom

Wedding Ring for Groom
The Bride

Wedding Gift for Groom
The Bride

Wedding Gift for Bride
The Groom

Bridesmaid Gifts
The Bride

Groomsmen/Usher Gifts
The Groom

Bride's Bouquet
The Groom

Bridesmaid Bouquets
The Bride's Family

Mother's Corsages
The Groom

Grandmother Corsages
The Bride's Family

Groom's Boutonniere
The Groom

Groomsmen Boutonnieres
The Groom

Usher's Boutonnieres
The Groom

Ceremony/Reception Flowers
The Bride's Family

Altar Baskets/Arches
The Bride's Family

Canopy/Carpet
The Bride's Family

Kneeling Bench/Candleabrahs
The Bride's Family

Rented Items for Wedding
The Bride's Family

Rented Items for Reception
The Bride's Family

Invitations/Announcements
The Bride's Family

Wedding Programs
The Bride's Family

Napkins/Matches/Printed Items
The Bride's Family

Marriage License
The Groom

Medical Visit for Bride
The Bride

Medical Visit for Groom
The Groom

Church Fee
The Bride's Family

Clergyman/Officiant Fee
The Groom

Musician/Soloist
The Bride's Family

Church Janitor
The Bride's Family

Reception Hall Fee
The Bride's Family

Catered Reception/Professional Services
The Bride's Family

Wedding Photography
The Bride's Family

Video Photography
The Bride's Family

Orchestra/Band/DJ
The Bride's Family

Wedding Cake
The Bride's Family

Wedding Favors
The Bride's Family

Groom's Cake
The Groom's Family

Rice Bags
The Bride's Family

Rehearsal Dinner
The Grooms Family

Bridesmaid Luncheon
The Bride

Bachelor Party
Best Man/Groom's Attendants

Wedding Breakfast
The Bride's Family

Bridal Brunch
The Bride's Family

Bridesmaid's Gowns
Bridesmaid's

Maid of Honor Gown
Maid of Honor

Matron of Honor Gown
Matron of Honor

Best Man Formal Wear
Best Man

Usher's Formal Wear
Ushers

Groomsmen's Formal Wear
Groomsmen

Gloves/Ties/Ascots for Attendants
The Groom

Father of Bride Formal Wear
Bride's Family

Father of Groom Formal Wear
Groom's Family

Children's Formal Wear
The Children's Parents

Limousine Service
The Groom

Honeymoon Arrangements
The Groom

Travel Expenses to the Wedding
The Out-of-town Attendant or Family Member

Accommodations for out-of town Guests
The Bride

Gifts for the Couple
Guest, Attendants and Family

Here is Goldi's list of what the Groom's family is supposed to do

1) Show up
2) Smile for pictures