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Please help! 'simple black dress' - letting the BMs and the MOH choose their own for the wedding

Original post by cluelessbride

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Can you help me forsee any problems with letting all the BMs and the MOH choose any 'simple black dress' that they like to wear for my wedding? I am really tempted to offer them this option since many of them have been BMs before and let's face it, no one ever really wears the BM dresses again.

Let me sum up my wedding so you can get a feel for whether or not it would be weird to not have matching dresses:
Mass at Catholic Church at 2PM on a Saturday in October
Cocktail reception (passed hor's d'ouevres and a few stations, open bar) from 3:30 - 7:30
5BMs and one MOH, about 80 guests (I know - a lot bigger bridal party than I need for 80 guests, but I love them!)
They would all carry the same bouquet, probably dark red roses.
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!

cluelessbride Thread views: 1,923

Re: Please help! 'simple black dress' - letting the BMs and the MOH choose their own for the wedding

Jpsgirl - I love that dress! Who makes it?

Thanks you guys for all of your feedback!!

Sara Thread views: 1,923

Re: Please help! 'simple black dress' - letting the BMs and the MOH choose their own for the wedding

Here are my girls all in different black dresses with matching purple wraps. Hope this helps!

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sn00k4 Thread views: 1,923

Re: Please help! 'simple black dress' - letting the BMs and the MOH choose their own for the wedding

I tried this with my bridesmaids... but it didn't work. I basically had to hold thier hands and pick out a dress for them... it was rediculous!

All I have to say is... GOOD LUCK!

Niecey Thread views: 1,923

Re: Please help! 'simple black dress' - letting the BMs and the MOH choose their own for the wedding

I love bride who let the girls pick out their own dresses and I think that is very cool of you. I think you should set a little more strict guidelines to prevent some mis-interpretation though. I think you should look at Stef's list and judge how important those things are to you before you make a decision. Many people will be bothered and many will not.

I let me BM's pick their own style but I picked color, mfg, and material...I do doubt they can wear them again (may have been too strict) but I think they all picked a dress that flattered them and made them feel good and to me that was more important then uniformity. I have to tell you..I thought them picking their own would make things easier but I still ran into some issues....it is hard to make everyone happy.

Be prepared for family to complain. A lot of people questioned me -how can you let them all wear different dresses (more traditional people)...it's annoying.