Please tell me how does the Shower thing work does the MOH

really take care of everything all by herself. I mean if you give her a list of who you want to invite or around when it is a good time to do it. Wouldn't that eliminate the element of suprise.

Tell me how does this work

Hi! I happened to have a take charge MOH who took care of mostly everything with the help of my mother and my bridesmaids. My shower was amazing and they totally surprised me! The only thing I gave my MOH was a guest list other than that I left it up to her!

I did not give her a time as to when is good to have it. That may give away the surprise! Good luck!

Traditionally, the MOH & the bridesmaids make the shower but I think a lot of times the mother of the bride &/or the groom help out also.

When they ask, you should only need to provide a guest list. Most people are obvious but they wouldn't want to exclude someone by mistake. The rest of it should be without your input.

Your FH will probably be asked to suggest alternate plans so that you will be surprised at the shower. Even if you figure it out - you will be overwhelmed.