Soooo my future inlaws are not paying a dimee for our wedding, my parents are paying the bulk of it and FH and I are doing the the vendors......FH is not from LI his family is from rural areas and they have no idea about weddings like we have here.............
Today FFIL INFORMED US that 'chrissy' and 'jenna' are coming to the wedding............chrissy and jenna have not received invites nor are they going to. Chrissy and jenna also have boyfriends and one has a son that im sure they assume are coming as well.......
Can anyone help me what to tell FH how to tell FFIL gently that my parents are paying for this wedding its two months away and no they and anyone else who *just feels like coming* are not invited!!?!?!
adelz
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Maybe you can tell FH to tell his parents that you had to lock down the number of guests coming, and you can't change it anymore based on your contract. Also maybe have him say something like how you guys are under a strict budget and you've already confirmed your final list and can no longer update it as you've planned other things around it.
jovigirl414
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Ouch ... Sorry this is happening to you.
Can you try to explain that the guest list has been finalized months ago, and you can't possibly squeeze any more invites in due to your parents' budget?
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Posted by adelz
Maybe you can tell FH to tell his parents that you had to lock down the number of guests coming, and you can't change it anymore based on your contract. Also maybe have him say something like how you guys are under a strict budget and you've already confirmed your final list and can no longer update it as you've planned other things around it.
Thank you these are good ideas!
Tromsugar2b
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Posted by jovigirl414
Ouch ... Sorry this is happening to you.
Can you try to explain that the guest list has been finalized months ago, and you can't possibly squeeze any more invites in due to your parents' budget?
YES i can because we already squeezed in an extra 10 guest for them just this week, not including these people im talking about now!!
jovigirl414
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Maybe also stress that its YOUR parent's budget that you can't squeeze any more guests into ...
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Sorry Chica! I have NO idea WHY inlaws cause SOOO much trouble!!
Tell ur FH u cannot INVITE ppl JUST BECAUSE... U cant invite ppl U dont know b u want the wedding to be between family & frends... that ur not allowed to bring xtra gest to the rh otherwise u will pay... Im sorry but Who the hell DO they think they are to be inviting PPL withought PAYING ANYTHING?!!!!
Tromsugar2b
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Posted by VCanizalez
Sorry Chica! I have NO idea WHY inlaws cause SOOO much trouble!!
Tell ur FH u cannot INVITE ppl JUST BECAUSE... U cant invite ppl U dont know b u want the wedding to be between family & frends... that ur not allowed to bring xtra gest to the rh otherwise u will pay... Im sorry but Who the hell DO they think they are to be inviting PPL withought PAYING ANYTHING?!!!!
boo ya!
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This actually just happend to me - FIL's are not paying at all - my parents are paying for all - she wanted to go over her 50 allotmemt - which is generous of my parents - I think....I told FH to tell her that they are going on our B list - since we are covered with the A list. This way she feels that we havent discarded her wants - but at the same time - she has no clue who REALLY is on the B list or the C list! HTH
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This actually just happend to me - FIL's are not paying at all - my parents are paying for all - she wanted to go over her 50 allotmemt - which is generous of my parents - I think....I told FH to tell her that they are going on our B list - since we are covered with the A list. This way she feels that we havent discarded her wants - but at the same time - she has no clue who REALLY is on the B list or the C list! HTH
hmmmm yea these people have no clue what those lists are their basic philosophy is that they will tell everyone THEY think should come where the reception is and who ever can make it will come ....you know screw a guest list, $$ and the fact that you are not throwing this party!!!!
jgold910
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Eek worse than mine. My fmil doesn't like to go out of her comfort zone. She gave us. Such a hard time we had to go thru white pages to even get their addresses. She has her cousins addresses. 'Somewhere' and will mail them to us. Not email mail!
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Yikes, yeah I would just say the guest list was finalized. You worked very hard to squeeze in those other 10 (you could even make her feel really bad saying you had to pull other people off the list to accommodate her 10!), and you can do more more shifting
