Poll: Are you doing garter and bouquet toss?

Jenn04 Posted: Jan 28, 2008 11:13 PM

Poll: Are you doing garter and bouquet toss?

I am all about the garter thing but my FH DOES NOT WANT TO DO IT!

Is it considered tacky?

I always love watching it and always have a good laugh plus my mom is all about it (traditions...etc).

2007 Crescent Bride Posted: Jan 28, 2008 11:14 PM

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I'm not doing any of that. We are an older couple and everyone coming to the wedding is married except for my flower girl.

PreshusSmurf Posted: Jan 28, 2008 11:16 PM

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We had DH remove the garter, but we didn't toss anything.

We did the anniversary dance to give away the bo-k. We didn't give the garter to anyone.

My grandparents are the ones who ended up winning, so it would have been weird to give my grandpa the garter

It was a lot of fun, and one of the surprises I had for DH -- I had 4 garters

ETA: we did it this way because we were both 30 (or close to it), and so many of our friends were already married with children. it seemed silly to have the tossing. also, we didn't want to 'call out' our single friends. i don't necessarily think its antiquated, but i do think it depends on the age of your guests ...

jtgarsik Posted: Jan 28, 2008 11:16 PM

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i tossed my bo-k & DH tossed the garter which is always fun but then instead of having the guy put his hands up a random girls dress(lol) we did something a little different.....we played a fun upbeat frank sinatra song & I danced with the guy that caught the garter & DH danced with the girl that caught the bo-k. it was fun & a little different just another idea to throw out there!

jtgarsik Posted: Jan 28, 2008 11:17 PM

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ps: no i dont think it's tacky...its tradition & people are so used to it..i've personally been the victim of having a random sweaty drunk guy put his hands up my legs so i didn't wanna do that part lol.

MrsS4 Posted: Jan 28, 2008 11:22 PM

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hhahaa-- i never catch it--lol i never wanted it-- but whoever catches either one knows what is involved--

BoxOfRocks Posted: Jan 29, 2008 12:47 AM

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We did the anniversary dance. I'm not a fan of either the bouquet toss or the garter removal.

Bouquet toss: implies that single women's goal should be getting married and that there's something wrong with being single.

Garter removal: I didn't want DH going up my dress in front of my relatives and our friends. When I'm the onlooker of a garter removal, it's awkward.

Amusing story: When I was eight years old, my aunt got married and tossed the bouquet. My family jokingly encouraged me to stand with the women who were going to try to catch it. What ensued was the same kind of chaos that occurs on TV and the movies: women fighting over the flowers as if catching them would actually predict who was getting married next. In the process, someone pushed me over. Way to be klassy, ladies, by knocking over the third grader.

jeffamanda080808 Posted: Jan 29, 2008 12:53 AM

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I must admit I didn't read the other replies.
But FH and I only plan on doing this once. Since we aren't getting married in a church, we agreed that everything else would be 'traditional'. Garter, Bo-K, cake cutting. It is to make both sides of parents happy and because all of that stuff are things we both always wanted at our wedding.

PegaLega Posted: Jan 29, 2008 12:58 AM

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We only did the bok toss, not enough single guys at my wedding that were willing to do it, so we scratched it

nifheim Posted: Jan 29, 2008 07:17 AM

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i have mostly married people arriving at our wedding but the few single people are like - WHAT NO GARTER or bq toss??? So i thought about it and all my friends who are not single are not really 'dancing' people so i figured for them and to break up the wedding a bit we will do the whole thing.

plus it is a way to sneak in some unique songs that are more FH and i and less 'wedding'

DGoldfarb0776 Posted: Jan 29, 2008 07:56 AM

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I have several unmarried people at the wedding so I'm doing it - especially since one of my friends brother is going to be there and he's going to propose on this coming Valentine's Day to his long time gf.

FutureMrs.T Posted: Jan 29, 2008 08:18 AM

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I really DONT want to do it. But I have a feeling my FMIL will not be happy if I dont do it. She is into tradition and wants all those things...I would much rather just dance the night away!

mRm2008 Posted: Jan 29, 2008 08:45 AM

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Doing the whole nine, tacky or not its tradition and a fun time if you make it!!!

LittlePup34 Posted: Jan 29, 2008 08:55 AM

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im doing both also, fh wants to do it

zoe282 Posted: Jan 29, 2008 09:12 AM

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We are doing both. It's tradition for a reason and I in no way think it's tacky. I think it's fun and silly and people enjoy it...and if they don't then they can get over it cause it's a fun thing that only a bride and groom get to take part in. I don't want to regret not doing anything

Browneyesncute Posted: Jan 29, 2008 09:15 AM

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i'm doing it all!

2009wedding Posted: Jan 29, 2008 03:47 PM

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Mt fh and I decide we are doing and want to do the garter and bouquet toss. We both are looking forward to doing it.

Snowflake08 Posted: Jan 29, 2008 03:51 PM

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Posted by 2007 Crescent Bride

I'm not doing any of that. We are an older couple and everyone coming to the wedding is married except for my flower girl.

im not doing any of it either

MayWeddingGrl Posted: Jan 29, 2008 04:23 PM

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I have a bunch of single girlfriends attending the wedding, so it would be fun to do, but FH doesn't have that many single male friends to fight for the garter, so we're just doing the bo-k.

DeeluvsVinny Posted: Jan 29, 2008 04:49 PM

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We're not sure. I'm not a huge fan of it. I just think it's antiquated. I never enjoyed it as a single person. Fh kinda wants to do it. But, I feel like it will take about 30 minutes out of the dancing and we really want as much dancing time as possible.