Poll- Are your FH helping with the wedding plans?

My FH just tells me to give him the bill. He doesn't have any input and it is driving me crazy. He has not helped getting me addresses for his part of the family, so I had to go to his mom. Today he gives me a list of phone #'s to call to get addresses. I ask him, 'Why don't you do it' He tells me, 'That is girl's stuff' He is only concerned about the honeymoon and he didn't even go to the travel agent. He did, go this weekend for the tuxes. And he is complaining that he is stressed with the wedding planning, imagine if he had to call the caterer and set all the appointments for flowers, photo, whatever. Am I the only bride out there that is doing all the planning? Please tell me I am not alone! Is this a bad thing?

Poll- Are your FH helping with the wedding plans?

my fi went to look at places with me at first, I had to push a little with addresses. I even got him to come and register with me. Hes pretty excited, but I think I will be doing everything else.

Poll- Are your FH helping with the wedding plans?

I know my FH is not overally excited when I ask him for his attention..but overall he has been great and very active. I have been doing most of the research for vendors..then last night and the other night we went over everthing together so we can come up with a list of who we want to meet with. We are planning on booking all of our vendors the last week in June, when we fly back to LI.

Complete opposite

Mine gets upset when he isnt included in even the smallest decision!

Complete opposite

My FI Is very involved in everything. We both do diferent parts of the planning

I`ll be lucky if my Fi actually picks out his own tux!

It`s not bothering me yet, but we have just begun the planning! He doesn`t have a preference on flowers, etc., so I`ll be annoying my friends and family with suggestions and help instead.

Poll- Are your FH helping with the wedding plans?

We started planning in February. I do all the research for the vendors, etc. I think it's fun. He'll look at sites and give his opinion. But basically it's all me. He's excited about getting married, I just believe it's a girl thing. Being that we live in North Carolina, we made our trip to LI a couple of weeks ago and booked the priest, photographer and video. He came to every appointment and asked lots of questions and gave his opinion on who he liked or did not like and why. So, I did wish he helped more, but at least he's participating somewhat. What can you do??? :)

We are equally involved, but I'm told we are not the norm . *NM*

Poll- Are your FH helping with the wedding plans?

My Fi is incredibly involved!! He came to see all the vendors with me(except the florist) and he actually made our save the date cards and magnets, and as we speak (or write) he is addressing the invitations! I actually could not do the planning without him, especially since my family does not live here! :-) I have found a wonderful man!

Diva - I'm in the same boat!

I'm not sure if I mind that much that he's not involved. The things he's supposed to do - tux & his wedding ring are going to sneak up behind him & bite him in the ass. We have 2 1/2 mos. to go. I've done most of everything on my own. He did stand at the printer and feed each envelope in. It doesn't bother me that he doesn't help, it bothers me that he doesn't even ask about any of it. It doesn't make him a bad future husband...and I would worry if he was too involved - (my fi is such a guy!) Let's just hope they show up on the right day!!!

He`s been pretty darn helpful...

He helps out a lot with phone calls, faxes, etc., and likes to join me, when he can, on any appointments. I can`t complain at all because he asks what he can do to make the planning easier on me. Anyway, it`s almost done since the wedding is this weekend!!

Poll- Are your FH helping with the wedding plans?

I did all the research on the vendors and then dragged my Fiance to see the ones I narrowed down to. He didn't ask the vendors any questions. However, he has a lot of comments of what he doesn't want afterwards. I don't mind that much because I know he is excited about the day. I sometimes hear him talking to his friends about it and how much fun it is going to be.

Poll- Are your FH helping with the wedding plans?

My fi has been helping out as much as he can even though he's finishing up grad school and works long hours in the city. For the vendors I did much of the research, but he went to every appointment with me and asked the majority of the questions. Getting the addresses was a little bit of a challenge. He wanted to go through his mom's address book as we were printing the envelopes. His mind quickly changed when he saw how easy it was to do the ones for my family from a list. I like doing the artsy crafty things so for the most part I've been doing the favors, programs, etc by myself(although he keeps asking if I want help).

helped mostly with the things that mattered to him...

My husband had no idea how much work was involved. We planned from Boston so he drove me around and met with photographers, reception sites, florists, etc. but he didn`t really care too much about the decisions. I found that certain details did matter, like the menu (had to have baked clams at the cocktail hour) so I finally resorted to asking if a detail mattered to him before asking his opinion. The rest I handled myself, or gave him specific requests to follow up, ie: please check out these limo places while you`re in LI next week. He was pretty good with follow thru, but he was never really enthusiastic about any of it. In the end, I did get some help, like assembling the invitations and folding and assembling favors, but it was because he wanted to help me, not because he enjoyed the task. Maybe if you let your Fi know that it`s even more overwhelming and stressful for you as you feel you are taking on more of the burden and that it would help a bit if he could handle some of the small details like getting addresses from his side of the family.

The big stuff we did together, the little stuff was up to me

We women are so detail oriented, we're best off taking care of the minor points by ourselves:-)