Poll - Calling all brides, newlyweds....

I got the BP thing - but it was 'why is your bridal party so small - don't you have anyone else to put into it' - Ah I'm not putting everyone I met once into my party (I have 4 girls and 4 guys - don't know if I will have a FG or RB yet)

Why do you need to spend so much money for one day. People who put more than a few thousand into wedding are just stupid and selfish - esp. those who are paying for the wedding themselves - I have a girl at work who paid for her own wedding and now they are divorced and she still owes a couple thousand and they don't even have a house
- Are you implying that I will be divorced?

Well if FH doesn't do well (my FH started law school in august) you will be smart and call if off right?

Oh we don't like big churches like yours - they are so impersonal - so I guess that means we will just hate your ceremony. You should get married in a small church just like we did.- FFIL

Everytime someone tells FFIL or FSMIL that they have such a wonderful son and that they love FH - they are rudely told - We have 2 sons -humph- and just turn and walk away! (said to my grandmother and other family members who had not yet met FH's brother - but hello I'm NOT marrying FBIL!

I really didnt get any! only the
'so when are you going to have a baby' one

Oh god-so many when we first got engaged. These were all in the first months. Now everyone has gotten so much better and just tells me to do what I want-it's only one day!

My older sister: 'I don't see why you need a wedding anyway, you live together already. It's stupid, you should just go to city hall. I don't think it's right if you've already lived together'!!!

My younger sister: 'So, is that a designer dress?' (Yes) 'Well how much did that cost?'

My grandma who I love dearly, when she found out I was engaged-keep in mind I'm in graduate school and we have no plans for kids: 'I'm so happy to see you make something of yourself and start a family'

My FH's aunt: 'We always thought (fh's brother) and his girlfriend were way ahead of you, I guess we were wrong....'(they broke up shortly after, and had only been together under a year but were living together-we've been together happily for 3 years)!

My other FH's aunt: 'We'll be glad you're not living in sin anymore', And she was serious!

My future sister-in-law: If you don't get my mom's hair done, I will, she can't go like that! (FMIL wants to do her own hair and I think it's fine)

My mom: 'Well if I can't invite so and so, how come his family has X amount of guests?'
'You're going to make us come all the way down there?'
'You HAVE to have your older sister in the wedding party, she's done more for you than your younger sister (I'm having older sister's daughter in the wedding, and of course she'd done more for me-my younger sister is 18 and I do for her!)'
'You cannot have an open bar, it's to expensive!' (Hello, we're paying for it-and who doesn't have an open bar?)

Not to mention all of the-why aren't you having the wedding here? (I'm only a 7 hour drive from my family!)? It's only one day, why don't you get a cheaper dress, place etc. etc. etc.
And there are so many more!

one of my customers said 'isn't that kind of quick' I guess she's never heard of love at 1st sight

My dad keeps joking that I am getting married so quickly, becasue my brother had a two year engagment, and I am having a ten month one

Maybe becaseu we are in the process of having a house built and we have been together for 10 years. My dad isn't upset that I am getting marreid but just that I only gave him 10 months to get the money that he wants to give me together.

My FSIL told my FH after he asked her to be in BP, that she will go to the shower, but onloy for a little bit, since I will really want to spend the time with my friends.

Okay - maybe she meant the Bachelorette party, not really sure, but she better be at the shower for the whole time, and she better help!!!!

my grandma - 'why are you you registering for China you don't need it'?
Why can't my Grandma be a normal grandma, shes always yelling at me about something ????

my mom - 'I cant deal with your shower as a surprise'

I have a few comments...mostly funny not really mean:
My fiance and I are both 25 but have been told that we look very young...

Our priest: Do you have your parents permission? (he later admitted he thought we were still in high school!)

Several random people after seeing my ring: You are TOO young to be getting married.

My secratary at work to someone else (which i inadvertently overheard): What do you think her FH does to afford a ring like that? He looks so young...he must be a drug dealer!

A random person in the cafeteria at work: WOW...your FH must have sold your first born to afford that rock...sure hope your worth it (everytime he sees me since he calls me the rock lady)

On another note:

Ken James: Because I like you two so much i am going to give you a special deal and not charge you tax...HELLO there is no tax on music!

Hey stinker, I got that one too from my mom! 'Well you know, your shower can't be a surprise...'

Oh yeah, they were actually a few more. I at first was thinking of having my girls wear black and FMIL says to me 'Black! It's NOT a funeral!' and I also heard 'A year and a half?! You're not children.' Wow, I never realized being 28 was over-the-hill!!!

From my mom before we got engaged 'Two years??? So you can be 30 and he'll be 40? What's the point?' I'll be 29 he'll be 38 -- math just isn't her subject.

From every schmuck with $.02 and no brains 'Two years?? Why so long?'

From my uncle's wife this weekend 'I heard weddings in New York cost between 30 and 50k. So how much are you spending?'

From my uncle 'You're really going through with it? I thought when you realized what its gonna cost you'd go elope. We didn't have a fancy wedding'

Give me time, I'll remember the rest!

oh, you gotta love these...

from my boss: 'you live like you're married anyway, why have a wedding?'
(He said this in front of my entire team 15 attorneys! guess cuz we live together and own our own home - which i think is very responsible at 28, but apparently not everyone else thinks so. )

from my mom (we laugh now, but i was really hurt): when i put on the veil I thought i wanted with my dress and turned to her beaming,...'oh you're not going to wear that are you?'

from parents and close family members: 'are you really sure you want to do this?'

from every stupid schmoe who has no concept of individuality: 'oh, that's your engagement ring??!! he couldn't afford a diamond?' (it is a solitaire amethyst (purple) not a diamond!);
and
'you are NOT really going to have dogs in your wedding? where are you getting married, a farm??' (um no, try the Vanderbilt Mansion idiot!)

what is wrong with people? the worst ones were from my first cousin who has always been my closest girl friend and sister. unfortunately, her jealousy finally came between us and she really was not there for me at my wedding (even though she was one of my MOHs). but mostly, i just feel awful for her because i know how much she must be hurting to behave as badly as she did. hopefully we can move on from here.

From my mother - who I ADORE -

'Oh honey! What a beautiful dress! And so appropriate for a mature bride!' (I'm 31)

and

'I'm sorry sweetheart, I just can't spend my retirement throwing a big fat drunk (party) for a bunch of Irish cops I've never met before.' She is not paying for our wedding btw - this was in asking her to contribute, which she is.

FH's father: 'Whaddya mean you're not having a Mass? You're not having a Mass? Wait -you're not having a Mass? I don't think the church recognizes your marriage unless you have the Eucharist! Are you kids serious?' We said yes - we are having the 30 min ceremony instead of the hour long Mass and yes, the church absolutely considers the wedding valid in that case - , he said 'Well I just don't know if I can support that.'

I think he is coming around. FH basically told him support or not, that was the way it was going to be.

Some of these are HYSTERICAL !!! We should save these conversations for the GTG's so we can pee in our pants laughing !

I was more thinking anna we should all band together and write sort excerpts of our experiences - for brides to read when they get stressed out...lol -

1) why do you want to do that at your wedding?

2) you still aren't married yet?

3) you are going to be so old by the time you actually do get married

This happened 36 ago, but something you never forget. My dad developed cancer so we married within 5 weeks of our engagement. He died 8 months after my wedding and I was 6 months pregnant at the time. Someone at the funeral pointed to my belly and said, 'You still haven't had that yet?'

MOB (May, 2004)

Why bother with the big shing ding, save your money and go to city hall.

Oh I see your ring is nice, white gold or silver

yeah my mom can be a real PIA sometimes.

Keep the stories coming I love 'em