Poll - Calling all brides, newlyweds....

my favorite:
'don't invite me to your f*&^ing engagement party and don't invite me to your f*&^ing wedding!'

direct quote from my LOVELY fsil to my fh.

yes, she was serious, and she's been invited to both.

edited to say:
and people ask us, 'Why didn't you ask to be a bridesmaid?' You've GOT TO BE KIDDING ME!

That sounds a little like my FSIL and FBIL - No you are not allowed to invite our children to the wedding (FH's neices -one is his godchild and his nephew) b/c we want to be able to party and if they are at the wedding then we will be stuck watching them SO FSIL says you are not allowed to invite my family (her parents OR her two brothers and one of their wives) so that THEY can stay home and WATCH FBIL and FSIL's kids!!!!! and they CAN'T hire a babysitter - can you guess - why - they expect to party too hard to be able to go home that night

FH tells me they are being invited anyway b/c NO ONE tells him that he can't invite people - and does not want to alienate her family - so he feels that FSIL can tell them that they can't attend and they they have to stay home and watch the kids

although I could come up with a millions words of wisdom from FMIL, the best /or worst comes from a bridesmaid with whom I am having MAJOR problems:

It's so ****ed up that you're having a shower, I mean just because you're getting married, you get to have a party where people give you gifts???

thats just the tip of the iceberg

ok, I was in a parent-teacher conference and a parent asked me when I was getting married and I said 'Valentine's Day next year.' She replied with, 'I don't know why people get married on holidays and such because when you get a divorce you are ALWAYS reminded of it.'
Can you believe how negative that comment was!

1. Why are you waiting so long? Is it because you want to make sure he/she is the one??
NO @ss, it's because I need to graduate law school, take the Bar and get a job. Plus, we're paying for the wedding ourselves, we need to save $$

2. Already getting asked when the kids are coming? HELLLLLOOOOO...We're not even married yet. And I haven't started my career yet and am only 24 years old.

The priest asked us twice how old we are (we look so young). He didn't believe us at first!

I got the good thing you aren't living in sin anymore comment too. We'd only been living together for 3 months before the wedding b/c we bought a home.

People ask us when the kids are coming.

My best friend's mom...Well if your bridal party is going to be uneven why don't you ask X (her son in law) to be a groomsmen. Hello! Maybe because we don't really get along and don't care if our party is uneven.

My sister one of my MOH's had the nerve to suggest that my bridal party borrow the dresses from her SIL's wedding so she wouldn't have to buy another dress. And yes, she was serious!

I know there is more but I can't think.....

Where to begin????? WHERE TO BEGIN??? I could write a book! (I might, actually)

1.) Before we were officially engaged:
FstepMIL: 'Are you going to have an engagement party?'
Me: 'No, we're really trying to save for the wedding....'

She then launches into this whole thing about how FH's cousin is having an engagement brunch on a Sunday morning -- it actually sounded nice, so I said:
Me: 'Maybe we'll consider that.....'
then I say to FH: 'Let's look at some restaurants near us.... ' (we live about 45 mins from FILs)
FstepMIL: 'Well, you can't just have it near you guys, you have to make it convenient for everyone...'

Excuse me???? Most of my family, most of our wedding party, and most of his relatives live closer to us! I have bridesmaids in 2 different states! Give me a break!!!(p.s. – we didn’t have a party)

2.) In regard to the number of guests for the wedding.... (this one's my favorite):
FstepMIL: 'How many guests are you planning to have?'
Me: 'We're really trying to keep the numbers down. We have a lot of friends...'
FstepMIL: (seriously condescending tone) 'Well, family's gonna be more generous than friends....'

***?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? Is this a wedding or a charity benefit? And how does she know what kind of gifts our friends will give us? Both my FH and I would rather have close friends at the wedding, than family we never see....

3. FMIL: 'What day of the week is the wedding?'
Me: 'A Saturday.'
FMIL: 'Really?!?!?'

Yup, that's right. We're going for the big bucks!

4.) File this under 'what they DIDN'T say' : not a card (much less a gift) for our engagement from FH's two brothers (both married), and FH's numerous aunts/uncles….

5.) 'But you’re so young…' FH’s aunt to FH. (HUH?!?!? FH is 33, I’m 28. This aunt got married at 18, btw)

6.) 'Wow, aren’t you kind of rushing it?' FH’s brother, who lived with his wife for 7 years before getting married. (We were together a year and a half at time of engagement, and will know be together almost three years when we get married.)

7.) 'I’m sure Terrier’s a nice girl and all, but….' FH’s brother again. (But what, jerkwad?)

8.) 'Your brothers will be so hurt that you didn’t ask either of them to be best man' – FH’s other aunt to FH. (This one doesn’t even need an explanation…)

9.) 'You see this, this is a classy invitation. It’s plain – not with flowers and stuff…' FstepMIL, showing me an invitation for her friend’s daughter’s wedding. (She also did the same with the wedding cake – gave FH a picture from her daughter’s wedding of 'how the cake should look' Lady, you’ve already had two weddings…. You want to chose invitations and cakes, etc., have a third!!!)

10.) 'I’m so hurt you’re not having children at the wedding…. I was going to buy dresses for the girls. Are you SURE you won’t have kids at the wedding?' FstepMIL. (We ain’t having kids at the wedding…. GET OVER IT!!!!)

11.) 'But you hardly know him – I mean, who is this guy?' former co-worker/boss. (again – HUH?!?!?! How long do I know YOU? Four
months? He’s been fired anyway….good riddance!)

and last but not least....

12.) 'I’ll give you the china for your first anniversary – if your marriage lasts that long…' FFIL, regarding my FH’s dead mother’s china, which he had already promised us…. Guess what? I DON’T WANT THE CHINA!!!!)

There’s more…. I just can’t think of it now….

Well it's about time, I never thought you would get married.

My FMIL - Ha-ha it looks like its going to rain on Friday the day of your wedding.

My FMIL - I don't need to wear a dress, I AM NOT the Mother of the Bride

My FMIL - What do you mean your parents aren't paying for the wedding. We paid for X and X.

MY FMIL - Well if you would have gotten married in your 20's we would have paid for the wedding

My FMIL - I never said I was giving you our dining room set, unless you moved next door to us.

My FMIL - Why do they have more people on THEIR side then our side? BECAUSE I AM FOOTING THE BILL B*TCH!

My FSIL - This entire wedding is costing me $3,000

For the money you spent on this wedding you could have bought a house

The money you are spending in rent, you should be buying a house -- OK WITH WHAT MONEY!

SHALL I GO ON?!

Hmmm let's see

MIL- what do you think of this dress for me for your wedding * it was a F-ING wedding gown *

SIL- it's because of her isn't it? (this was used for anything that was bothering her at the time)

and this one is after the wedding
Your how many months pregnant? And how long have you been married?

ok here I GO...

a so called friend said if I am not your MOH don't even bother to invite me to the wedding(ok , we won't you B****) BTW she is NOT my MOH

My dad-why don't you just take the money and buy a house.
My Dad again-We can have it here at the house and I'll make all the food.
Dad's girlfriend-Oh, now I see why the guest list is so big, you invited all of your mother's side. ( she negelcted to see that I invited her whole family as well)
Everyone-When are the kids coming!

And my favorite:
Why are you waiting two years?
BECAUSE THIS WHOLE WEDDING THING IS EXPENSIVE.
DUH
Truly I could go on and on and on and......

I have so many I have to spread them out or it will drive me crazy.

Ok FFIL and FSMIL - 'oh are you having a formal black tie event?' Yes' Oh well I don't want to wear a tux, and I don't want to wear a dress I will just wear a casual pant suit'

FFIL and FSMIL- Oh you are having children at the wedding - hmmm the only ones you should have are FH's neices and nephew - and they must be IN the wedding b/c that is the only way you can control them. If they are not the center of attention they are uncontrollable and the only one who can control them is their Father - (our BM) so if they are not up in the front with him then there will be real problems - oh and if there are any of the other children at the wedding it will be completely ruined. (never mind the fact that that the kids in my family are 1) very well behaved and 2) we will lose half my family if people can't bring their kids (my family is all out of state in Washington state, california, Virgina, and Texas.

FSMIL to my mother - oh will there be children at the e-party - my mother - No it is an adult restaurant and the kids won't have anywhere to run so they really won't have a good time. FSMIL - Oh that is the best decision we have heard about the wedding so far.

'why are you waiting so long to get married?'

'so how long are you going to wait after you're married to have kids'

my cousin & BM:
'how do you plan on paying for your wedding?'
'dying shoes to match the BM dress is so 80's'
'so are you getting stressed yet'
'so are you getting stressed yet'
'so are you getting stressed yet'
(not a typo, she keeps asking)

my aunt 'I'll come see you in the morning at your house and just jump in the limo with the BMs to the church'

Hair Salon (not my hairdresser though) 'why do you girls get married so freaking early! (my wedding is at 11am)

Everytime I mention a new idea of what I want to my mom or my FMIL I tend to get the response 'Really honey, I hope your not serious.' or 'I guess its not my wedding and I really don't have much say, do I?' Way to make a bride feel special.

A few friends said this after finding we got engaged - you know, since we've been together for 6 years: 'It's about time!'

From one of FHs employees: 'The wife wants me to look at your ring so I can tell her what it looks like. Holy sh!t - that thing's a rock!'

And the icing on the cake:

From same employee later that week: 'What I want to know, is how he's able to pay for that car AND that rock.'

WOW some people are BALLSY !!!!

This is when you need to open your mouth and just answer some of these people right back !

None of you should have to be put in such awkward positions !!!



The nerve !!

I haven't had any really rude comments about the wedding and how much my ring cost or how much the wedding will cost, but I did have two rather presumptuous questions

From my boss: So will my daughter be invited? (she is 11 years old and I have met her twice)

From one of my friends: So will my sister and her two year old daughter be invited? (I don't see her sister on a regular basis, have never been close to her and don't want children under 12 at the wedding)