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POLL: If your parents are paying for the wedding are FH's contributing?

Annieb Posted:

POLL: If your parents are paying for the wedding are FH's contributing?

and, if so, to what?

Jen_n_Dale Posted:

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We are getting their presence at the wedding. lol

holly231 Posted:

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not really sure what we are getting..I think the E-party and rehearsal dinner....trying to persuade FI in asking them to pay for the Rabbi....(sinec my family is paying for the othe officiant)

lulu Posted:

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My parents are paying for about 75% of the hall, and his are paying for band, flowers, photo/video, and our honeymoon too. We are paying for the leftover things.

They were all so generous, we were planning on paying for it on our own.
soon2bmrs2004 Posted:

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FFIL & FSMIL will pay for honeymoon and FMIL &FSFIL will be paying for flowers.

Annieb Posted:

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Jen N Dale...I literally did Laugh Out Loud when I read your post...that is too funny!
My parents are paying for the wedding and they paid for the e-party. FH's parents are paying for the HM and Rehearsal Dinner...I bet my parents wish I were a boy...they get off so easy
merf99 Posted:

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THey are paying for the invitations, personal flowers and the brunch the day after the wedding. And my FMIL bought my tiara and gave us a small amount towards the photographer.

smooch Posted:

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Nada. Zilch. Zero. Oh wait, I suppose they are doing the rehearsal dinner.

FH and I are paying for the whole thing. My parents offer what they can, but they don't have it and I won't take it.
CathyB Posted:

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FH & I, my mom, my dad and FILs have all contributed to the wedding. We didn't let anyone pay for anything in particular, it all just went into one account and is being used to pay for everything. I didn't want to get into the 'I paid for all this, you only paid for that' game.

And FH & I agreed that we wouldn't tell any of the parents what the others contributed. Just made it all easier.
Sunny Posted:

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My parents are paying, his dad and wife are paying for the favors and maybe the rehearsal dinner?

His mom is not giving anything.
spel Posted:

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my mom & stepdad, my dad, his dad & stepmom, & his mom all contributed. they gave the money directly to us so we could use it as we choose. there was really no $$ talk at all. no one is paying for a particular vendor or anything (except mom mom- she generously paid for my dress & veil!) they have all been extremely generous & we are so grateful to them!

edited to add: we are also contributing $$!
sophie78 Posted:

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They are paying for nothing!! It makes me sick and angry. They have money, but are just cheap. I really think it is outrageous considering my parents are paying for everything (including 200+ at Oheka).

I am resentful of it. At least they are not demanding in terms of what I decide.
Miro127 Posted:

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they are paying for the rehearsal dinner (speaking of which, we really need to book that..) and they arranged our honeymoon (gave us some time at their time share in aruba and used their frequent flier miles for our plane tickets).

Rob-luvs-me Posted:

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My parents are basically paying for everything that a brides parents traditionally do (except we are helping out a little with photography)

FMIL can't afford to help us as she has to take care of her father who is very elderly.

FFIL and FSMIL - hmmm well as far as FH is concerned has not contributed (unless you call them handing us an envelope at our E-party and saying this is for you to put towards the wedding - NOT- happy engagement)- so basically they are paying for nothing

FH and I are paying for the: Rehearsal dinner, honeymoon, rings, favors, tips, gifts for the BP - not sure what else
DaniRN Posted:

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His parents are contributing 5000.

butterfly20 Posted:

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my parents are paying for reception hall(about 10k)
his parents are doing the RD, and giving us a gift which will cover most of the rest!
maysie18 Posted:

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so far, FH's family isn't contributing a penny or even any offer to help. Do I sound bitter?
Rob-luvs-me Posted:

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Am470 and Maysie I think we need to start a vent about in laws board...I think that is one where most of us will have PLENTY to say.

Am470 - I hear you - they not only KNOW that my parents are paying for everything plus my law school tuition BUT they haven't offered anything at all and FSMIL even told my mother how they are building a new house, how they are buying all new furniture - we even just found out that they want to get remarried only days after our wedding. My parents are a little upset that they (FFIL) would rather see us pay (I am graduating and taking the bar in Feb 2 months before the wedding - and FH is in Law school as well) for the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon etc then give up anything for their new house. So I hear you when you say you are upset - I can't tell if people just don't think or if rather they are bitter or jealous?
NovBride Posted:

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They are actually paying for most of the reception...depedning on the number of guests. My Dad is giving as much as he can, but he was out of work for about 6 months so funds are tight. FH's parents have been awesome.

babybride Posted:

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As of right now, they offered to pay for the band. I am assuming when the time comes they will pay for the RD also.

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