Poll - Tacky or Par for the Course

kms71705 Posted: Aug 01, 2005 02:39 PM

Poll - Tacky or Par for the Course

A friend of my DH's just got engaged and they sent the engagment party invitation with their registry information. Is this normal?

TIA,
Kelly

jes81276 Posted: Aug 01, 2005 02:40 PM

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Etiquette says not to expect gifts at an engagement party (although we all do), so to put the registry info in the invite is tacky, in my opinion.

Soon2BMrsA Posted: Aug 01, 2005 02:42 PM

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I think the only time its ok to include the registration info is with your shower invites

LFitzy79 Posted: Aug 01, 2005 02:47 PM

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IMO it's really tacky to include registry info for your engagement party-that's for the shower.

06NovBride Posted: Aug 01, 2005 02:54 PM

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I don't think it should be included with the engagement party invite.

In our case we didn't include it, but FMIL was the person everybody RSVP'd to and she told everyone we were registered (which we didn't want). Oh well.

Soccer_Girl Posted: Aug 01, 2005 02:54 PM

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Totally Tacky!

To me it's like saying... I got a ring buy me a gift.

cindyandkevin Posted: Aug 01, 2005 02:57 PM

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I don't see a problem with it. Most guests will bring a gift anyway, this will help them to pick out something the couple wants. IMO if you're having an e-party you're asking for gifts anyway.

akajt98 Posted: Aug 01, 2005 03:08 PM

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Posted by cindyandkevin

I don't see a problem with it. Most guests will bring a gift anyway, this will help them to pick out something the couple wants. IMO if you're having an e-party you're asking for gifts anyway.

I agree with this statement. Fact is if you are having an engagement party people are going to bring gifts.

Preshy7 Posted: Aug 01, 2005 03:11 PM

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maybe the couples wedding website - but thats as far as i would go with info

MissingTheBGene Posted: Aug 01, 2005 03:44 PM

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Posted by Soon2BMrsA

I think the only time its ok to include the registration info is with your shower invites

I agree. Just as it's not etiquette to put registry info with your wedding invite, I feel the same about e-parties. of course people will bring gifts, but to include the registry card is tacky, IMO.

exotica776 Posted: Aug 01, 2005 07:08 PM

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i think if they sent out their own invites its incredibly tacky, if someone is throwing the party for them, its not as bad. fbil got an eparty invite w/ registry info in it and i thought it was really tacky...jmo

marymoon Posted: Aug 01, 2005 07:30 PM

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Posted by exotica776

i think if they sent out their own invites its incredibly tacky, if someone is throwing the party for them, its not as bad. fbil got an eparty invite w/ registry info in it and i thought it was really tacky...jmo

I agree., I don't think it's so bad if soeone else is throwing the party for them

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Aug 01, 2005 07:38 PM

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Posted by coopersmom

Totally Tacky!

To me it's like saying... I got a ring buy me a gift.

I agree

beautyq115 Posted: Aug 01, 2005 07:57 PM

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Not with the engagement party invite...our parents just offered that info if people asked for it

cjb88 Posted: Aug 01, 2005 08:26 PM

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Posted by LFitzy79

IMO it's really tacky to include registry info for your engagement party-that's for the shower.

i agree...

Bella Blu Posted: Aug 01, 2005 08:36 PM

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I don't think it's appropriate....when my sister had her party, she did not include them. However, people did call the house and ask if she registered so that they could buy a gist off the registry. I won't have my registry set up by the time I send out my invites, but even if I did, I would not include that information with the invitation.

PegaLega Posted: Aug 01, 2005 08:38 PM

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I think its a little tacky. Whoever does the RSVPs should take those questions. Usually that is what they do.

Rebecca B Posted: Aug 02, 2005 07:13 PM

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I didn't think it was tacky......do what you are comfrtable with...each is a different situation...I have a lot of out of town family on both sides so this was helpful for the family...

MrsStefan Posted: Aug 02, 2005 07:24 PM

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Tacky! Its too much for people to be EXPECTED to pay for an engagement gift, shower gift, and then wedding gift. If they CHOOSE to do it, then its different. but to expect it is tacky, IMO