Poll: What course of action do you take if you are almost certain your friend's DH is having an affair?
Kathy116
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Poll: What course of action do you take if you are almost certain your friend's DH is having an affair?
This is happening to someone I know...her friend's DH actually made a pass at her.
I would want to tell my friend what happened, only because I would be so upset if it was my DH that was doing this cr@p, and would want to know...but at the same time, you are always told to never 'go there' and butt out of marital issues.
RedHead
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depends on how close you two are... i would tell one of my close friends IMMEDIATELY!
otherwise i would keep out of it
julz33
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I agree with Jen... if it was one of my BEST friends I would tell them immediatley but anyone else I would butt out
Moehick
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Sad thing is usually when you tell the woman they turn on you and get mad at you not their DH! I would confront him and sayou know and he should come clean
nferrandi
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If this girl isn't a close friend of yours, than you really need to mind your own business. It's one thing when people are dating, but once people are married it's a different situation. If you really can't keep this to yourself, than talk to the DH first. Let him know that you know what's he up to and he has two choices. Either he stop all the bullsh!t or he comes clean to his wife. Tell him that if you figured out what he's up to it's only a matter of time before his wife does.
JimmysBride
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'Made a pass at' and having an affair are two totally different things and I would approach them completely differently. There are certain things you just don't want get yourself involved in with a married couple. Then again, if it's a really close friend, you MIGHT be able to tell. But generally speaking, I would STAY SO FAR OUT OF IT. As a matter of fact, I've been in a very similar situation... I might start a poll of my own....
Kathy116
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I feel bad for everyone in this situation. I don't even really know her, and don't know this guy is messing around...but someone does, and I just didn't know if this someone would tell....(a mutual friend, who is much closer to the wife than I am knows the real situation with her DH).
I would never get involved in this situation, because she's not really a friend of mine, more of an aquaintance...but if this was a friend, especially someone that I go out with on a regular basis and spend time with, I'd have to tell...if I didn't, I'd feel like I was lying.
Kathy116
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Posted by JimmysBride
'Made a pass at' and having an affair are two totally different things and I would approach them completely differently. There are certain things you just don't want get yourself involved in with a married couple. Then again, if it's a really close friend, you MIGHT be able to tell. But generally speaking, I would STAY SO FAR OUT OF IT. As a matter of fact, I've been in a very similar situation... I might start a poll of my own....
You are right...but this 'pass' was an invitation to start an affair this was actually said. Also, he came clean with another person that is in our circle of friends that he is messing around.
Such a bad situation...so sad. Like I said, I don't know the girl well, but others do, and if someone is going to say something, it'll have to be the others.
violet
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It sounds clear that his making a pass was pretty serious. But I don't think you should say anything.
My husband told me one time when we went out, he thought that my friend thought he was trying to pick her up because he was saying that he needs to get her number, so he can give it to his mom because it was at a time when our moms were planning the shower. She was like 'no you don't need my number!' He didn't know til later that my mom had already gotten in touch with her. But your situation sounds pretty clear.
Kriss2c
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I agree that if you are really close then step in, otherwise just stay out of it.
Imagin916
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I wouldnt say anything, because he will deny it, or make it out like he was joking around. She will probably believe him and his lies anyway.
jenny2penny
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luvsbob4603
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I agree with jenn and jultz i wouldn't say anything unless they are a really goodfriend of mine because i wouldn't want her be kept out in the dark.
