Pre Cana.......

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Posted by cedesnyc

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by cedesnyc

Ive heard different things about pre cana...some moving stories ...others were just 'glad its done.
At my precana class we were 1 of 40 couples in a room. Day one was ok. It was a young married couple talking about the best times and pitfalls in their marriage. (finance, children, communication etc). This day was not bad b/c you heard actual stories of everyday issues and it was down to earth discussions.

Day 2 was with a guy talking about sex and reciting (sp) the bible. He also mentioned the no nos about birth control, safe sex and other stuff that was waaaaaayyyyy off. - both classes were 5 hrs long...4 hours too long for me. lol

anyway...i had to get this out of the way soon

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hmmm interesting, i didnt have what you did on the 2nd day. I know MIL said they had a dr. or somebody come talk about sex and talking about religion alot and i told her we didnt do any of that. Our host couple brought this up too and said most places dont do that anymore.

The way we had it was first day which was a friday we went and they did a mass and deacon spoke to us for a little bit and we were there about an hour or an hour and a half.

2nd day-we were in an auditorium with somewhere between 30-40 couples. We had a host couple and they talked about all aspects of marriage such as kids, fights, IL's, sex, communication and so on. We also did quizzes on our own to answer to see how well we know eachother and then we would exchange the paper with eachother just to review with ourselves. The couple also spoke about sex, but i have to say not much about religion. Well i also did interfaith pre-cana so maybe thats why but all they said was as long as you believe in something dont let the differences come between eachother. I loved our couple. We also had an hour lunch break and 4 breaks but thats bc it was from 9-5 but we got out an hour early

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Hey Denise....how are ya??

see..your pre cana was different than mine. Ive heard that pre cana puts the meaning of marriage into perspective and makes you think about things in different ways. The classes are held by a couple or priest and in a way i was looking forward to it. Mine was nothing like it. Day 1 w/ the couple was not bad b/c they were not the cookie cutter couple 'were in love and happy go lucky happily ever after' they were a real couple, with normal issues, they were very much in love and talked about things they've experienced and how they dealt w/ those issues. Yes part of those sessions, we would talk amoungst ourselves about what would we do in certain situations.

Now day 2 --that was an experience. I didn't agree w/ the whole thing and it was almost brain washing you about 'what you're supposed to do AFTER you get married in the bedroom' Hello....like none of your business!!!! - At that point, i wanted to get my certificate and outta there.

I did meet a really nice couple....we had a few laughs, that was the cool part of it.

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I am good, how are you?

Ahhh yeah i wouldve felt the same way about the 2nd day if i had to do that. I was a bit afraid with pre cana beforehand since im not catholic and thought i'd have it fed down my throat or didnt want to talk about sex. So i wouldnt have liked that either and the whole sex and bible talk at the same time is weird lol. But yeah sounds alot like what MIL told me she did and I remember all her friends telling me they all did the same thing back then. They said they heard its very different now, but i guess some places stick to the old fashioned way. Sorry you had to sit through all of that.

Our couple did talk about sex but more about how they keep the passion alive, and they were the cutest couple. He even said he pinches her butt whenever she walks by to let her know he still thinks shes hott

at least you got that part over with now. Sorry you didnt have the experience you expected but at least now youre one step closer to getting married

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Posted by Kristina2009

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Posted by Espo22

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hmmm interesting, i didnt have what you did on the 2nd day. I know MIL said they had a dr. or somebody come talk about sex and talking about religion alot and i told her we didnt do any of that. Our host couple brought this up too and said most places dont do that anymore.

The way we had it was first day which was a friday we went and they did a mass and deacon spoke to us for a little bit and we were there about an hour or an hour and a half.

2nd day-we were in an auditorium with somewhere between 30-40 couples. We had a host couple and they talked about all aspects of marriage such as kids, fights, IL's, sex, communication and so on. We also did quizzes on our own to answer to see how well we know eachother and then we would exchange the paper with eachother just to review with ourselves. The couple also spoke about sex, but i have to say not much about religion. Well i also did interfaith pre-cana so maybe thats why but all they said was as long as you believe in something dont let the differences come between eachother. I loved our couple. We also had an hour lunch break and 4 breaks but thats bc it was from 9-5 but we got out an hour early

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this seems similar to what i am doing next week. was this is douglaston?

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YES it was in Douglaston. Hopefully you'll have the same host couple, they were amazing, i loved them and such an adorable couple

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Posted by Kristina2009

we have ours next fri and sat. someone i work with also went there about 2 yearsd ago and said they had a great older couple. it sounds like it is not too bad at all!

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no not at all, even dh said he actually enjoyed it and he was dreading it lol.

THey also serve you food and cake so you have an hour break. They gave us a bunch of interesting quizzes too and you'll enjoy those lol

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Posted by MirabellaNYC

We're going in March...hopefully it will fly by.
Anyone else doing March 19 & 21 through Cur of Ars in Merrick?

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We will be at that one

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Posted by MirabellaNYC

Bride2be8 and babylin-Are you doing the Pre Cana in Merrick?? Maybe we'll be in the same group?

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No... I am doing it in Flushing....I wish, that way I knew someone lol it would have been Pre Cana LIW edition lol

I have mine next saturday but so far it's going to be only the priest talking to us. I think it may be a few sessions though .

We start ours this Sat and then the following Sat...FH is dreading it because he's no longer a practicing Catholic - he keeps telling me he can't wait til he's post Cana

IF YOU CAN DO THE FRI NIGHT & SAT DAY I HIGHLY RECOMMEND IT!!!
our experience was actually HORRIBLE, however we were OUT and it was only 1 day basically. the friday night was just to go over FOCCUS and that literally took us 10 mins then we went home!