Pre-Cana........very disturbing.....please read

Original post by Mrs_C_in_'07

Nov 13, 2006 06:33 PM

So Nick and I had the 'Liturgy Planning' peice of pre-cana yesterday. Where you pick out your readings and music and such for the ceremony. It was about 12 engaged couples, the head priest of the church and the music director.

Anyway, the priest went on and on about how the vows are the most important part of the day. They are sacred, etc. He also said he wants us to memorize them for that day.

OK, so he asked for a volunteer couple but it seemed that no on knew what they were volunteering for so no one said anything. So he picked this random couple and made them stand up. Then he says, 'The day of your wedding will go like this....' And he literally gave the exact marriage priest speech they do, asked the 'volunteer' couple the consent questions (i.e. do you enter into this marriage freely? etc). He made both of them answer the questions. Then, and here's the real disturbing part, he made them say their vows!!!!!!! The priest even joked about how now they should kiss and congratulate each other!

I felt so horrible for them. They looked so uncomfortable. The FH even joked to the priest after it (but you could totally tell that he was half serious) 'so does this mean that we're married now and I can cancel everything else?' To which the priest looked almost like he got nervous and made up some BS about how it is a very religious thing, but there is also legal aspects to it (the license).

When we left Nick said to me that he just prayed the priest wouldn't ask us to do it b/c he would have said no and I would have agreed with him. I mean the priest made this huge deal about sacred vows, yet he seemed to just throw them around. I honestly feel like (and I'm really not that religious) this couple is now married by the eyes of God. With the exception of the exchanging of rings, they went through the whole process!!

I just had to share this with you girls. Does anyone else find this disturbing? I just can't stop thinking about how wrong it seemed!!

leshellem Posted: Nov 14, 2006 01:43 PM

Re: Pre-Cana........very disturbing.....please read

Posted by Mrs_C_in_'07

So Nick and I had the 'Liturgy Planning' peice of pre-cana yesterday. Where you pick out your readings and music and such for the ceremony. It was about 12 engaged couples, the head priest of the church and the music director.

Anyway, the priest went on and on about how the vows are the most important part of the day. They are sacred, etc. He also said he wants us to memorize them for that day.

OK, so he asked for a volunteer couple but it seemed that no on knew what they were volunteering for so no one said anything. So he picked this random couple and made them stand up. Then he says, 'The day of your wedding will go like this....' And he literally gave the exact marriage priest speech they do, asked the 'volunteer' couple the consent questions (i.e. do you enter into this marriage freely? etc). He made both of them answer the questions. Then, and here's the real disturbing part, he made them say their vows!!!!!!! The priest even joked about how now they should kiss and congratulate each other!

I felt so horrible for them. They looked so uncomfortable. The FH even joked to the priest after it (but you could totally tell that he was half serious) 'so does this mean that we're married now and I can cancel everything else?' To which the priest looked almost like he got nervous and made up some BS about how it is a very religious thing, but there is also legal aspects to it (the license).

When we left Nick said to me that he just prayed the priest wouldn't ask us to do it b/c he would have said no and I would have agreed with him. I mean the priest made this huge deal about sacred vows, yet he seemed to just throw them around. I honestly feel like (and I'm really not that religious) this couple is now married by the eyes of God. With the exception of the exchanging of rings, they went through the whole process!!

I just had to share this with you girls. Does anyone else find this disturbing? I just can't stop thinking about how wrong it seemed!!

I agree, very disturbing. Our priest told us that at the rehersal they would go over everything except our vows, because that was sacred. I wouldn't have done it if the priest called on on. Be thankful it wasn't you.