Re: PRETTYPRINCESS07
Since I've become a topic on the forum created by other members here you go
My name Patricia. I am engaged to be married next summer. I am in my last year of college at UPenn.
I came to this site to do 2 things: 1- Do some research for my own wedding. 2- Do research for my paper/project. The topic I chose was Communications among women in groups and Individually.
To some of you, you will be mad at this point I am sure and I apologize for that. I used the site becasue there are 2 areas in which women talk about the most. One pregnancy the other weddings. I used the forum because it is an area of constant communication. With the posts and replys I was able to observe how women communicate with one another even though they'v never met.
When I first came to the site I posted genuine questions about myself and what I was going through. Some replied and gave their honest and genuine feelings and opinons on the matter. I was not asked if I was new to the site or what I was doing. Which was fine it is a large group of people talking in an oline atmosphere. I replied to posts and nothing happened. But when I decied to ask questions, none that can be considered intrusive or controversial then the ball started rolling. The questions taken from magazines and other websites. People answered the posts and things went on from there.
What I didnt know that there was a level of heirarchy on this site. Communication failure #1- Look for the leader of group. When I failed to join a group or buddy up my name was used as a TOPIC. Only one person actually took the time to ask questions privately via email. She chose a less evasive route to get to know me. That will be the positive spin to my paper. While others, If I was a person who was easily made uncomfortable would have left the site due to peer-pressure. Some said I was asking too many questions. Funny thing I assumed that was the point and purpose of a Forum. It is a person's personal choice to answer any question they have and give their own opinion. But as always in any qroup atmosphere there are those who feel they are the unappointed leader. Case in point the remark about knowing one's place on this site ,that particular person has been here longer than the other.
I am sure some of you will be upset. Some of you may not care. On both points that is fine. My intention wasn't to cause disagreements. Though in a sense I didn't it was the sarcasitc replies that caused those. I'm not using any real names since I dont know them or your sn's just observations of that I can use in my paper/project.
I hope you all have wonderful weddings and are beautiful brides. I'll continue to use the site for my wedding but wont participate in the Forum section.Even if this wasn't for a paper this section of the site can be way more stressful than the planning aspect of my wedding.
Thank you have a good day
Patricia
My name Patricia. I am engaged to be married next summer. I am in my last year of college at UPenn.
I came to this site to do 2 things: 1- Do some research for my own wedding. 2- Do research for my paper/project. The topic I chose was Communications among women in groups and Individually.
To some of you, you will be mad at this point I am sure and I apologize for that. I used the site becasue there are 2 areas in which women talk about the most. One pregnancy the other weddings. I used the forum because it is an area of constant communication. With the posts and replys I was able to observe how women communicate with one another even though they'v never met.
When I first came to the site I posted genuine questions about myself and what I was going through. Some replied and gave their honest and genuine feelings and opinons on the matter. I was not asked if I was new to the site or what I was doing. Which was fine it is a large group of people talking in an oline atmosphere. I replied to posts and nothing happened. But when I decied to ask questions, none that can be considered intrusive or controversial then the ball started rolling. The questions taken from magazines and other websites. People answered the posts and things went on from there.
What I didnt know that there was a level of heirarchy on this site. Communication failure #1- Look for the leader of group. When I failed to join a group or buddy up my name was used as a TOPIC. Only one person actually took the time to ask questions privately via email. She chose a less evasive route to get to know me. That will be the positive spin to my paper. While others, If I was a person who was easily made uncomfortable would have left the site due to peer-pressure. Some said I was asking too many questions. Funny thing I assumed that was the point and purpose of a Forum. It is a person's personal choice to answer any question they have and give their own opinion. But as always in any qroup atmosphere there are those who feel they are the unappointed leader. Case in point the remark about knowing one's place on this site ,that particular person has been here longer than the other.
I am sure some of you will be upset. Some of you may not care. On both points that is fine. My intention wasn't to cause disagreements. Though in a sense I didn't it was the sarcasitc replies that caused those. I'm not using any real names since I dont know them or your sn's just observations of that I can use in my paper/project.
I hope you all have wonderful weddings and are beautiful brides. I'll continue to use the site for my wedding but wont participate in the Forum section.Even if this wasn't for a paper this section of the site can be way more stressful than the planning aspect of my wedding.
Thank you have a good day
Patricia
