Problem: Guests who RSVP w/ an UNINVITED Guest! Help!

Okay! I need you Ladies! My fi and I are in a quandry about how to handle guests who write in an additional guest, though they were invited alone... What is the proper ettiquette? Should he or I call them and tell them, 'you were invited alone and at this time we can not accommodate your guests, but if we can we will let you know' or is it the job of my hostess (girlfriend) to call them? What is most appropriate! I need this info quickly! I just received 4 late RSVP's 3 of which added uninvited guests!!! Can you believe that? I'm mortified, personally! How do I handle it appropriately? Anyone read Martha Stewart lately:)???!!! HELP!! Thanks Ayanna

Problem: Guests who RSVP w/ an UNINVITED Guest! Help!

Completely agree--this is how we handled it-- whoevers guest it was-- happened to be my Fi co-worker(thought his whole family was invited--crazy) and his cousin Laura

Laura: UNINVITED Guest! Help!

Laura, So whomever's guest it is should call the person? So your fi called those 2 people? Is it okay to have a friend/host call, or is that somewhat embarrassing for the invited guest? Thanks Ayanna

Problem: Guests who RSVP w/ an UNINVITED Guest! Help!

It is considered rude to have a third party call. It should be the hosts, so it can be you, your fi, or your or your fi`s parents, depending upon the situation. Laura is right, if it`s your guest, you make the call. If it`s your fi`s, he makes the call, etc. But having your 'hostess' call is wrong. Yes, it`s not the easiest conversation, but a conversation YOU need to have with your guests, and not leave this conversation to the assigned hostess. Good luck.

Problem: Guests who RSVP w/ an UNINVITED Guest! Help!

The nerve. Before they put the extra guest name on the RSVP, they should have called you first and asked you if it was ok. Then it makes it alot easier for you to tell them it's not possible. Some ppl don't think, they assume that b/c there invited they can bring whoever they want. But I would follow the others suggestion, if it's your guest you call, if it's your fi guest he calls, and so on. Don't let it get to you.

Are you positive yhat you will meet your guarantee?

If not, then it will not hurt to have these uninvited guest attend. If you are at your max then call them and politily explain. Some people just have no CLUE about these things and some people have too much nerve.

Uninvited Guests

I would be careful, even if you don't have your guarantee number. Because you don't want to invite those guests and then have other friends and family wondering why they could't bring a date. It is a sticky situation, that I already ran into once, before we even sent out invites. One of my bridesmaids just assumed she could bring a date -- I had to tell her that we weren't invited dates of guests (just significant others). And you know what? She understood perfectly, and said it was wrong of her to assume that she could. Some people just don't understand, especially if they haven't been to a lot of weddings. GOOD LUCK! It will all work out.

Laura: UNINVITED Guest! Help!

I believe it should be the person who invited them-- think if you were invited to your friends wedding and did the same thing but her grnadmother called to tell you that you couldnt bring a guest--wouldnt you be annoyed at your friend for not calling? Just my opinion it is def not an easy call to make but you will feel so much better after you do

Absolutely Right!

Laura & Everyone, I agree with you but my fi didn't, until I read him your post Laura! I think that I should call my guests directly and inform them. Of course I will take into consideration my minimum, but I also need to make sure that I don't offend others who also are not able to bring guests, as another bride pointed out. At any rate, I will make the 2 that I have to tonight and my fi will make his 3 as well (it grew since yesterday--can you believe it?) Anyway, Thanks so much for all of the help!!! You confirmed my gut feelings for me! Ayanna