My fiance's father is deceased. How do I put his name in the program, Do I say 'the late Mr. Smith'? Please help
thx
In what context are you listing your fiance's Dad?
Is it, ....'Candle lighting represents the joining two families
& also In memory of..?'
or on your invitation?
Let us know cuz it makes a big difference...
I mean just listing the parents
ie
Brides Parents
Mary & Joe Smith
Grooms Parents
John & Jane Doe
Should I put The late John doe and Jane Doe?
My Husbands father is deceased, we did not mention him in the parents listing as we listed our parents under the heading of 'Bridal Party'. We listed them as follows:
Mary and Jane Doe - Brides Parents
Sue Smith - Grooms Mother, Bill Smith, Grooms Nephew (my MIL's escort).
You can remember his Dad with a in memory of section or include something in your ceremony as mentioned by phyl.
On the back of the program, the groom's father had just past and on the back of the program she put a short poem to him stating something to the effect of thanks for raising me and I know you are looking down from heaven smiling.
Then her name and father of groom. Isn't that what the back of the program is for?? where you remember those that are no longer with us???
Do people actually put the name of parents who have passed on invitations?
My father died when I was 14 -- we didnt put his name on the invite nor on the program but what we did do was during the candle lighting we had this poem read ( I wrote it) and had the mass said for him--
my MOH but her fiance/grooms mother and father in the program as Mary Smith and the late Jack Smith...
and we also mentioned him in the Prayers of the faithful..
Here is the poem
Today we pause to reflect upon those who have shaped our character, molded our spirits and touched our hearts.
May the lighting of this candle be a reminder of the memories we have shared, a representation of the everlasting impact you have made upon our lives.
The lighting of the Unity Candle symbolizes the beginning of Laura and Jeremy’s marriage relationship and commitment to each other.
The lights of the smaller candles represent the faith, wisdom, and love they have received from their parents.
Jeremy and Laura will light the center candle to symbolize the union of their lives together.
As this one light burns undivided, so shall their love be one.
May these candles burn brightly as symbols of your commitment to each other, and as a tribute to your parents' lasting and loving marriages.
Hope some of this helps
Laura
Honestly my fh isnt really looking to express any sentiment....we just want to know how to wrd his fathers name
do we put the late or the former or just the name?
My father passed away a few years ago, and I plan to have the Irish Blessing written on the program, and dedicate it to him. I don`t think I`ll list his name anywhere else - just my mom, fi`s parents and the bridal party.
There are different 'rules' on this subject...
and every rule has an exception but
Deceased family members should not be listed
on an invitation. not to be too blunt but,They cannot invite anyone
.
As far as on a program, you can list the deceased as
'the Late ...' although it may be more touching to say
'celebrating from Heaven' or 'watching from above'
Sorry if the suggestions may sound wierd
but I am not sure where and how/why you want to list them.
It is a touchy subject, I know...especailly
since both my parents are deceased.
I have never seen a name of a parent that has passed on an invitation, they usually do a dedication to the deceased parent on the back of the program, I think that is what that part of the program is called, the dedication page. Hope that answers your question
Jen that Page is titled the dedication page for those that are no longer with us, so I think to put the late or anything in reference to him being dead would be redundant, what the young lady did was put her dad's name and next to it was father of the bride
thanks I think thats what I am going to do....we are not looking to make any dedication. it wasnt that great of a relationship....just wanted to list the name
I want to 'remember' my grandmothers during my ceremony but knew that I could never just say their names or talk about them. It is just too hard for me, even though they have been gone for close to 3 years. I still miss them very much, especially now. I think I will do this to include them in my ceremony.
it was a combination of different poems I found-- my MOH and one of my bridesmaids have since used it and timed it perfectly-- it is a nice touch to a part of the ceremony that many people have gotten used to--
Ironically in the 3 weddings all of use had lost a parent but I asked my cousin to read it because her mother(my aunt) had died a few years earlier and we were really close-- so it def can apply to anyone without having to really say who
with me we didnt feel we had to mention my dad's name-- because everyone knew what we went thru-- although my mom wrote a letter that she read at the reception in place of me dancing with a 'dad' stand in !!
Laura
