SO apparently I'm starting my day early today. FH woke me up when he was gettng ready for work, and I haven't been able to fall back asleep. I have nowhere to be until 1:00PM, so I should totally still be sleeping!
Anyway, maybe this question is a bit of a spinoff of the relgiion, but I think think it's quite different so maybe it's not a spinoff! I don't know lol:
Do you think fate played a role in bringing you & FH together? If not, do you think that you completely brought yourselves together? If fate isn't the driving force, do you think if you wouldn't have found each other, you would've found someone else equally as lovable? What do you think FH thinks?
I'm pretty sure Eric thinks that fate brought us together. I don't believe in magic or luck, and I don't REALLY believe in fate (in the way that it's most defined at least...)
I think that everyone has something or someone that they are meant to be with/meant to do. But I think the purpose is self created. If you want to be a great lover, you can achieve that. If you want to be a great writer, you can achieve that.
However, like I said earlier in the week, I am spiritual and I believe in a sort of 'spirital guide' AKA gut feelings. I don't think those just come from nowhere, because everytime I 'follow my gut', very good things happen.
Ex: I went to the University of Scranton for freshmen year of college, and 3 weeks into my sophomore. After that, I just didn't like it. I knew if I left then and there, I wouldn't be able to start up at a new college right away, and that I'd have to wait for Spring Semester. I'm a bit 'Type A' so this was a problem for me! But I listened to my gut, my spirit guide, and did it anyway.
When I left I said, 'One day I'll know why I left.' If I wouldn't have left, I would most likely NOT have met FH, and I ABSOLUTELY would never have gotten to know him as well as I did. So ultimately, in this case- as in all others, I believe that people make their own decisions, but that we all have this spiritual connection- call it spiritual guide, guaradian angel, the little psychic in all of us, gut feelings- that helps us make decisions. But we are free, at any time, to ignore these warnings.
I FIRMLY believe that there are some things that you can just know about yourself. And I KNOW Eric is the right person for me, for always & forever- fate or no fate.
italgal
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We are not religous at all. However, I strongly belive fate had alot to do with us getting together. There is no doubt we were ment for eachother. We have been together 13 years living together for 11 of those years & it gets better everyday!
paprika023
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i asked my FH this question.. he said, and i quote 'nope it was jaeger and bud light' ..
..which is pretty much true.. but i guess it's sorta fate we saw each other again after like 5 years.
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Definitely. There's been way too many coincidences in our relationship that it had to have been destined by a greater force
I feel the exact same way...
lilpiggy742
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My cousin was hosting a halloween party and I was supposed to go with my friends...they ended up blowing it off and my cousin was really pressuring me to come and i eventually gave in and went. Guess who i met there......turns out my fh was friends with my cousin. OH and even stranger..i hadnt talked to that cousin since we were little. My parents lost our house when i was going into 10th grade so i basically had to pack up my life and move in with my aunt and change schools...well my cousin went to my new school...so if my parents never lost the house, i would have never moved, never talked to my 'long lost' cousin, never went to the halloween party in which i met fh.
fate......quite possibly.
mbscheer
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Yes! My BF got a membership to Match.com. She started dating a guy. She wanted everyone to meet him on her birthday. My ex fiance and I had just broken up and I really did not want to go but she used the guilt. I went and her guy told me he had a man for me. I was like no thanks. But i went on a date with him and the rest is history! BTW her and the guy broke up!
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since FH and I have mutual aquitences you'd think we would have met that way...nope...id even seen his band play and we never met... i met online on match... we both just canceled our subscriptions and then he found me...i think thats fate...he wouldn't call if that...but i think it is
deanna225
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i don't know if it was faith, i say we were in the right place at the right time.
GR2010
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I do think it played a part!! Randy and I only met because the woman he sat next to at work got sick and couldn't come down to the blood drive I organized for work. There were a few people that called saying they were sick but she was the only one I jokingly asked to send down someone in her place and she sent Randy. He was consulting for my company and we never include consultants in stuff like that so he never would have known otherwise!! I don't know what made me ask her to send someone and no one else but I am glad I did!!
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I definitely think fate played a roll. FH and I have so many friends in common and have crossed paths so many times. We've probably met a few times before too (but neither of us can remember). So, he was quiet, reserved and nerdy in HS and most of college. I was a drinking/clubbing/hooking up machine in college. If we would've met then, we would have HATED each other. (We always talk about how the old me and old him would have never gotten together). Anyway, then I started grad school and calmed down a lot and he started going out a little more and being social...His gf (who I used to work with when I was 16) broke up with him and he started hanging out with his HS friends more (I knew them all through a guy I met in grad school who I had just started talking to again a week before) and they were coming to my house for a little party thing. Well, he had another party to go to, but it was too cold and the other party was outdoors, so he tagged along with his friends. We met at the perfect time in our lives...any shorter and we wouldn't have liked each other and any longer and who knows...
FallBride2010
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I do think fate played a part. I met FH a few months after I moved back to NY. I was miserable here and so ready to move back to CA...until I met him. And the night we met...I was also really miserable and didnt want to go out. I had no voice and felt terrible...but my friend convinced me to go out...and I met FH.
One other thing...I am so convinced that I cant have kids (dont know why...just a feeling i have). I think God brought me FH b/c he already has two kids...and it would prevent me from wanting more. LOL
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I do believe fate had some play in us getting together. There are tons of things that I can argue as to why... but
1) I flipped a coin to see which college I would go to (no I cannot make major decisions myself). If I had got tails, I would never have met him!
2) College was closed due to sept 11 attacks so I was visiting my b/f at the time instead and broke my knee... This was the excuse for Russ to carry my books between classes for the entire semester while I was on crutches. This is how we really got to know each other. I don't think I would have let him get to know me as well if this didn't happen.
3) I always called him evil, and on 6/6/06 he and I actually started talking again after a year or two with no contact.. all on a gut feeling he had to call me that day... luckily I all ready had made plans to go out after work which I didn't want to do, so I now had an easy excuse to see him instead.
If we never met, I think my entire life would be 100% different.... especially if that coin flip went the other way....
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I absolutely believe in fate! I met FH at a Deli he owned next to the hair salon i had been going to for like 6 years. I jsut happened to be hungry one day ( this was 6 weeks after my father passed who i am SURE put FH in my path) i couldve cancelled my appt, not been hungry, gone on a different day - but this particular day after being there for 6 years i decided to go in. FH always puts in special cards.... what would our lives be like if you wanted chinese food and not a chicken sandwhich LOL i actually wanted to have a gourmet chicken sandwhich as one of my entree choices but then thought nah!
