QOTD 10.26.13

Happy Saturday! Although I'm working today I know most of you ladies have off today so hope you have a great day off!

Let's be really simple today, How did you know FH was the one?

I met FH in 2010 at work. We became fast friends and I felt like I knew him my whole life. For about a year we were just that friends and coworkers (although he worked at the branch in Westchester). I always kinda knew even in that first year that we had an amazing connection. He would literally call me at night and we would be on the phone for four hours talking about nothing and everything. We would meet in the city at 11 am and not leave each other till 11pm that night. And all we did was laugh, and talk, and laugh. I think so much of why our relationship is so amazing is that we were just friends for such a long period of time. I always knew in the back of my head that I thought I wanted to be more than friends and I knew if we got together, it would be it (and it was! from our first kiss to engagement was exactly 11 months). I knew he was the one because he was my best friend, I missed him the second after I hung up the phone, he was the only person I wanted to hang out with, he took such good care of me (helped my sister move in to her apartment when we were just friends, made sure I was safely home at night etc). To me, it was a no brainer. After years and years of meeting and dating guys who fell short, I had no questions.

Have a wonderful day! Looking forward to your stories!

QOTD 10.26.13 - Long Island Weddings

FH and I knew each other from high school, but we were in different clicks in high school. We knew of each other, but we never actually hung out. Just said Hi in the halls. Years later after high school, he had messaged me on Facebook about snowboarding because he knew that I did it. I then looked at his page and saw he did a triathlon. So I messaged him back asking how he trained and if he wanted to train with me because I have always wanted to do it. So we met one day to go for a run and instead the whole time we were flirting, laughing, and joking around. Needless to say we never ended up doing that triathlon, LOL! It was history from there.
I knew he was the one because I can endlessly talk to him and he will listen and not judge me.
I had hurt my back really bad one day getting ready for work and I had called him at 5am because I needed to go to the emergency room. He came right over and spent every minute next to me, even though we only hung out a few times at that point. He is always by my side and continues to be dedicated to my needs. He is wonderful!! Ps. My parents love him too!!

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I am a 2015 but loved this question. I hope no one minds me jumping in...

I have known my FH since we were about 10 and 12. We both do German folk dance and our groups have been close for about 50 years. Growing up we have always competed against each other and knew the other one because our our reputations as strong competitors. During the years we have had numerous drunken encounters with each other that was more of getting to know you type conversations that were always forgotten about the next day.

Then on the 5 of Nov 2011 I had gone to dance (that I did not want to go to but his cousin convinced me to go bc I had not seen him in a while and he was going and wanted to chill) that he was at. That night he had asked me to dance. We danced the night away. We also sat outside in the freezing cold for 2 hours (not realizing it was that long) laid it all out on the line. Everything that we had done bad, good and in different; what we wanted to do with the rest of our lives, etc. The end of the night came and his drunken step brother was hitting on me and he thought I was into the step brother so he left with out saying goodbye.

I couldn't leave things that way after feeling the great connection that we had so the following weekend I went to the dance his club was hosting (his step brother invited me to go to) so that I can see him. That night I spent most of the time with my friends that were there but towards the end of the night he got the courage to ask me to dance, again. The connection was still there. At the end of the night we went back to a club members house feel asleep on the couch watching It's Always Sunny in Philly in each others arms. When I woke up the next morning I was still in his arms. He kissed me on my forehead pulled me close and hasn't let go since....

Sorry for the long post

QOTD 10.26.13 - Long Island Weddings

I'm not even sure where to begin at this point because I seriously came home from my first date with him and I texted my best friend and told her 'This is it. I'm marrying this guy'

We had met online and we talked via text/phone for about 6 days before our first date. We spent our first date talking at sushi and then driving out to montauk after we realized that our original plan of monster mini golf was going to be a bust because we spent too much time talking at dinner and it was going to be closed.

Our first date was actually 9 hours long. He came to the door with flowers in hand and opened the doors and treated me like a lady.

I seriously couldn't pin point it... but I just knew. I didn't want to talk to any other man anymore. He was everything I never knew I always wanted and now I get to spend the rest of my life with him <3

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Ooh, I don't have a simple answer for this one, haha.

I met him in early February of 2008, through two mutual friends. In fact, I knew his best friend, his best man, for YEARS before ever meeting him that night! I always say I wish they had brought him out sooner! We got to talking again shortly after meeting and agreed we should hang out. On March 7 of that year, we had our first date (or hangout, as I called it back then). It became apparent pretty soon that this guy had feelings for me and he told me so only a month later, in April. I was honest and said I wasn't sure if I felt the same. He appreciated that but we agreed to let it see where it would go.

It was a crazy year. We never stopped hanging out, even when I started to date someone else that summer. I put him through so much but he never stopped letting me know how he felt and for some reason that I was too blind to see then, I couldn't not stop hanging out with FH. Now in hindsight, I chalk it up to youth. I was 22 turning 23 that year and I didn't know what I wanted. I thought I was just having fun. Now in hindsight, I realize I was wasting my time. Luckily, it only lasted 3 months with that other guy. FH was a saint throughout the whole thing.

I remember my mom telling me she felt like I had two boyfriends. And so one night, I still remember the date, August 24th, 2008, I realize I loved this guy (FH) but it still took some time. We didn't become exclusive until February of 2009.

But to wrap this mini novel up, I think I knew all along but I was too stubborn/scared because I knew if we got together, it would be the real deal and I had never had that before. I just remember in the early days, I always felt so comfortable around him. There were so many turning points in our relationship in the early days. God bless this guy for putting up with me then!!

QOTD 10.26.13 - Long Island Weddings

FH and I were together after high school for about 2 years and then broke up. We were struggling with being long distance and it was heart breaking when things didn't work out. We stayed friends, despite the reservations of the other people we were dating over the next few years. When both found ourselves single a the same time FH called me when he was in NY for his sisters communion to meet up. He met me and my roommate (BM) at our favorite bar and we were back together since that night. I felt happy and relieved when I saw him that night and we both wanted to try to make things work again. When we both wanted to make that decision I knew that was it!

QOTD 10.26.13 - Long Island Weddings

Its hard to pinpoint, but I will have to go with FH's answer. He says he knew after our first summer apart. We were 18 and had only been dating for 3 months. We met in college, and our homes were 5 hours apart. It was a tough summer but we got really dedicated to each other. I did not get a job, but rather stuck to some local babysitting, that way we were able to see each other every 2 weeks. We both pretty much gave up drinking (because we all know alcohol and long distance relationships don't usually fair well) and just made each other our number one priority. We talked--A LOT. We hashed out a lot of insecurities and shed a lot of tears during deep talks. But every time we got together, it was like the best day of my life all over again.
We did this for the next three summers and finally moved in together after graduation when we got engaged :)

So maybe this was a cop out, but its very difficult for me to remember a time when I didn't think of FH as the one. I had a huuuuge crush on him before we started dating, and I swore he was the one back then lol

QOTD 10.26.13 - Long Island Weddings

I knew after about a year of us dating Summer (2009).. I just had this feeling in the pit of my stomach that he was my match.. we were best firends and I felt so comfortable sharing everything with him.. The draw back was he never watend to get married, ever.. so I never ever dared to bring it up knowing his stance on marriage. I was honestly ok with my life adn very happy and content. I worked all week and on most weekends I would go to his place adn hang out. sometimes during the week if we had an event we would stay at eachothers apts as well and it was great.. We had broken up January/February 2011 when he went through a mini depression period. I was honestly devasted but I would not show him!! LOL.He wanted to reamin freinds but said we needed a break frist.. well he never followed his own advice. Kept texting and calling and two weeks later he had to see me.. We needless to say just started dating again but I was cold and reserved this time around not wanting to get hurt.. then that July when he asked me to marry him I was like what?!?! He was like I almost lost you and I cant make that mistake again and I know I said I would never get married but I cannot picture my life without and and you are my best friend. And then I asked him how drunk he was..LOL.. but he was serious and we are now living together for almost two years.. We actually should have been married over a month now but postoned it til next year after all of the groomsmen had damage to their homes after Sandy.. I am happy he came to his senses and realized we were meant to be married LOL