QOTD 10.28.13

Hi ladies, I'm excited to be BOTW this week, thanks again Meghan for choosing me. Hopefully none of my questions are repeats.

Today I'm reflecting a little bit, 1 year ago today Hurricane Sandy hit Long Island. As a LIPA employee and Long Beach resident this was a challenging time for me, though many people had it a lot worse than I did. I couldn't have gotten through it without FH and I'm so grateful for him.

So my question today is who tends to be the stronger one in your relationship? what about during difficult situations?

I'm usually the stronger one in our relationship that can handle just about anything, FH tends to be indecisive and gets upset easily so I end up having to be the tough one. but during Sandy I was a complete mess and just couldn't deal. Thankfully FH was able to step up to the plate and take over and he pulled me through it.

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I think that FH and I are fairly equal when it comes to this. We are both really good at being strong when the other person needs us to be. We are really in tune with one another and can tell when we need to step up even when the other person doesn't ask. (I'm a cancer and def more emotional than he is- so i could say that i need him to be strong more often, but I guarantee if you ask him he would tell you how lost he'd be without me and how inspirational I am!)

Sometimes it is hard when we are BOTH in a bad place... no one can step up to be strong, so we just try to lean on each other as best as we can!

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Definitely FH. I've never seen him not take anything in stride whether its family issues, work, his other responsibilities, friends, etc. I've always admired the way he handles stressful situations and is always able to find something positive with every negative. He always tries to tell me that I over think and crazy as that makes me, he's absolutely right. Part of me knows that I inspire him to be a better person every day, and that he does need me in his life but he really has a good way of staying strong in the most stressful situations.

Its funny because yesterday he was telling me he was having the most horrible morning and it was because he didn't play well in golf. I wish those were the things I stressed over! lol.

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I think my FH and I are both equally strong in the relationship but bring different things to the table. When it comes to decision making I tend to overreact quickly where my FH is more calm. So especially with difficult situations he keeps me grounded and focused. I play my part by keeping things organized and my drive to know we can get through anything.

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I think FH is stronger than myself, but I can be strong for him when I need to be. When his mom passed away from cancer last year, it was my first time loosing anyone very close to me so of course I was so upset, but I knew I had to be there for FH and his family. He still to this day thanks me for being by his side during that whole experience.

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Him, hands down, no question. From Day 1 he always had the ability to make me feel better if I was down. Even in those rare moments he does something to really upset me, he's the one making me feel better!

Not to say I am some emotional basket case, lol, but more often than not, he's the stronger one. I do enjoy when he comes to me for advice though.

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It's me most of the time. In stressful situations FH sometimes gets overwhelmed. I deal better in those situations with making plans, dealing with people and whatever else needs to get done. Part of what I do for a living is all crisis driven so I do tend to have a lot of little mini-meltdowns. He has perfected the art of taking care of me. Its our balance system.

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my FH is definitely the stronger one in tough situations... he is not a very organized person, however, and I tend to be the more 'put together' one who is good with the bill paying, organizing, calendar planning, etc... but if something tragic were to happen, I don't handle it very well.

I am very type A, and I'm a huge planner, so if something doesn't go according to plan I am not very good at adjusting lol

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FH and I are both equally strong and we step up for each other depending on the situation. FH is my rock, and I am his go-to person when he needs to talk.

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while I think we're both good at being strong, FH is a bajillion times better at keeping his composure when things are stressful. I plan too much so if things go off the plan, i tend to freak out and get overwhelmed. He's my rock and thankfully knows how to help me out when i start to panic.

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FH is better in times of crisis. I am better at handling every day challenges and frustrations. We balance each other out I guess.

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That's a tough one. I pride myself on being tough but in times of crisis, especially during things that deal with me specifically, FH is stronger. He always remains calm and is able to calm me down (as much as possible at least). He definetly takes things day by day as I tend to look at the bigger picture and can get overwhelmed.