**QOTD: 10.10.11**

Thanks again to Lisamarie for choosing me as BOTW!

Here is my first question as BOTW:

If you could have any person in the world, alive or deceased, at your wedding who would it be?

For me it would without a doubt be my grandpa. I grew up with him being downstairs from me and didn't move out until I was 21. Needless to say, we were extremely close. Losing him was by far the most difficult thing I've ever had to deal with, and honestly I will never be over it. I would give anything to have him at my wedding.

Don't feel pressured to give a serious answer!! By all means if your choice is Michael Jackson, say so!

You're welcome :)

I would definitely have my grandfather's there. I never met either one of them and I know that my paternal grandfather was CRAZY over me and he named his 'princes' from the moment he met me at the hospital. He passed when I was 5 months old and til this dayI cry when I think of the time that has been lost and that I couldn't experience having him in my life. :(

Too emotional for me

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Posted by Michelle214

While I absolutely adored my grandfather and grandmothers who have passed, honestly, I had a very long and fulfilling relationship with them. I guess I'd have to give up my choice to FH. My choice would be FH's brother. He passed away over a decade ago, and I never got to meet him. Clearly his death was very unexpected and tragic. I wish I had gotten a chance to meet him.

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Awww that is soooo sweet of you!!! I can tell you LOVE your FH! You gave up your choice and that's exactly what marriage is all about!!!! (I'm learning this)

I would say FH Mother. She died when Fh was three. She had a heart attack during a kidney transplant (FH grandfather was the donor)

Just sadden me!! and to see his face, to have one day with her again, means the world to me

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Posted by Michelle214

While I absolutely adored my grandfather and grandmothers who have passed, honestly, I had a very long and fulfilling relationship with them. I guess I'd have to give up my choice to FH. My choice would be FH's brother. He passed away over a decade ago, and I never got to meet him. Clearly his death was very unexpected and tragic. I wish I had gotten a chance to meet him.

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omg i just got alil choked up reading this

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Posted by roblisa09

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Posted by Michelle214

While I absolutely adored my grandfather and grandmothers who have passed, honestly, I had a very long and fulfilling relationship with them. I guess I'd have to give up my choice to FH. My choice would be FH's brother. He passed away over a decade ago, and I never got to meet him. Clearly his death was very unexpected and tragic. I wish I had gotten a chance to meet him.

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Awww that is soooo sweet of you!!! I can tell you LOVE your FH! You gave up your choice and that's exactly what marriage is all about!!!! (I'm learning this)

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Thanks. I really do! I wish I would have gotten to meet his brother. To this day (like 13 years later), it hits FH in waves once in awhile. He was in a car accident on the way to school when he was in high school. FH gets really anxious whenever we pass a car accident, and clearly, has a rough time with me driving from Queens to the Bronx for work every day.

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Posted by irisheyezrsmilen

omg i dont know if its bc im super emotional right now, but reading all these is making me wanna cry alil

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I was tearing writing it

This is a really sad question!!!! Ugh...

I would have to say I would love FH's sister to be able to come. She has a brain tumor and is not doing well. We don't even know if she will still be here by the time we get married. Ugh, it really sucks. FH was closest to her out of his 6 siblings and I know whatever will happen next September, it will be a sad day without her at the wedding :(

My grandma & grandpa, I miss them so much

My brother. He was my only sibling and absolutely my best friend. He passed away in a car accident. Hoping to not get overly emotional on the day of (I'm not an emotional person). I would give anything for him to be there but I know he will be in spirit!

Although sad, this is a great question because I've been trying to think of something special (but not too in your face) to honor him. I was thinking a small toast to all those who can't be with us but are here in spirit, or I saw at one wedding a 'in lieu of favors a donation has been made to XYZ charity' and I was thinking we could do that for his memorial scholarship fund.' However, I think we are having favors so any other ideas?

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Posted by kaygrease

My brother. He was my only sibling and absolutely my best friend. He passed away in a car accident. Hoping to not get overly emotional on the day of (I'm not an emotional person). I would give anything for him to be there but I know he will be in spirit!

Although sad, this is a great question because I've been trying to think of something special (but not too in your face) to honor him. I was thinking a small toast to all those who can't be with us but are here in spirit, or I saw at one wedding a 'in lieu of favors a donation has been made to XYZ charity' and I was thinking we could do that for his memorial scholarship fund.' However, I think we are having favors so any other ideas?

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I am putting a picture of my grandfathers on my bouquet. So they can be 'close' to me the whole day.

Something like this http://becominghismrs.blogspot.com/2009/10/family-at-my-fingertips.html

I would love to have my grandmother there as she passed away when I was four. I knew her well and remember much of her today, but if I had to choose one person. I would give this honor to my FH's grandfather whom he is named after. His grandfather was the poncho of his whole family and to see both his face and his nonna's face would be worth a thousand words.

May you all rest in peace <3 we miss you all!!