QOTD 11.6.13

what's been the most stressful part of wedding planning?

for me it's been the final guest list! my mom keeps trying to add people, along with FMIL and my grandma. we already cut a lot out after our guest list was over 300! our room only fits 216. I've spent nights sitting up counting people and trying to see who we could cut. calling my mom to ask who exactly is this person & this person. no one seems to understand that we can't fit anymore people.

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Oh man I don't wanna think about the stress that might come when it's that close. Nothing has been extremely stressful yet, thanks to much help from family and friends. Our parents have been wonderful in helping financially and in other ways. There are plenty we are taking care of though so, putting the numbers of everything that is owed between now and October almost sent me falling off my seat but I know it will all work out.

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Getting everyone to be excited with me. Our families love us, but after 6 years together and living together for 3, its hardly a big change. So I think to everyone it is just a big party- a big expensive party. No one in our families has money right now. My sister is pregnant with her first baby so her life is focused on that, my parents have to throw 2 showers, a wedding, and have their first grandchild in one year. FH's dad has 3 kids in college, soon to be 4 and his mom is single living in a very large house that has outgrown her. Sigh, it just doesnt seem like a good time for anyone and that is very frustrating/stressful for me.

QOTD 11.6.13 - Long Island Weddings

The guest list and all the guest lists for the bridal shower, engagement party, rehearsal dinner, etc. I don't know what it is but my Mom and FMIL want to give me a hard time about who is invited! Not fun

QOTD 11.6.13 - Long Island Weddings

Money is for sure the most stressful part. FH and I have been together for 11+ years, lived together for 7, have a 6 year old daughter, own a house together... No one else is paying for this wedding. lol. So, doing a budget and trying not to over spend is hard. Especially when it's SO easy to go over budget on some things.

That, and my sister. I have three, all are in my bridal party. But one in particular is one of those people who makes EVERYTHING about her. She's stressed me out a lot already/ The day we got engaged, her only response was, oh it looks just like my ring. WHO SAYS THAT?! She's just one of those people...

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Posted by melhunny46

The guest list and all the guest lists for the bridal shower, engagement party, rehearsal dinner, etc. I don't know what it is but my Mom and FMIL want to give me a hard time about who is invited! Not fun

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fmil who isn't even paying for rehearsal dinner yet acts like she is. has argued nonstop about who to invite. that we should invite fh's best man & his wife because she's friends with his wife. but then tell my moh that her husband can't come. and basically that no one else can bring dates...... I was like you can't do that! lol like pick just the people you like.

then she kept saying to not really invite anyone besides my parents. finally I was like Novita has a 30 person minimum so if we invite people or not we are paying for 30 people..... so far its shut her up lol.

QOTD 11.6.13 - Long Island Weddings

There's not much for me to really stress yet, but my mind takes me so far into the future that I start to over analyze every single detail. Trying to just relax and live in the moment of this whole experience will probably be the biggest challenge :P

QOTD 11.6.13 - Long Island Weddings

Definitely the last minute adds to the guest list have been driving me up a wall. Especially considering we're paying for everything ourselves it's really quite infuriating when I get an email with a new address.

QOTD 11.6.13 - Long Island Weddings

With 4 and a hlaf months to go it is finalizing everything and making sure eveything gets booked and ordered.. and the guestlist.. How many do I invite from the b list as an alister since I should expect 20% no's?? OMG I cant I stress everyday on how many invites to order since I am ordering next Friday!

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Posted by Alyssa M

Definitely the last minute adds to the guest list have been driving me up a wall. Especially considering we're paying for everything ourselves it's really quite infuriating when I get an email with a new address.

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my mom was doing that daily. finally I was like who is this person? she was adding family she found on FB but never met!!!! I was like if all these other people say no we can invite them last minute lol...... I hope half her people say no like her other family I haven't seen since I was 4. or some I don't even think I ever met. my grandma's cousins.. I'm like why do all these strangers have to be invited? because they are family? so what lol.

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See i told Fh mom and my mom. if i never met them or FH never met them they are not really family and are not invited to teh wedding it is not a meet and greet at our ages!

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Posted by Terriechick

See i told Fh mom and my mom. if i never met them or FH never met them they are not really family and are not invited to teh wedding it is not a meet and greet at our ages!

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my mom thinks my wedding should be a family reunion. I made her cut so many people. I was like you don't go by FB on who likes your status and comments the most lol.

QOTD 11.6.13 - Long Island Weddings

The guest list conversation was probably the most stressful. But the further I get into planning the more I get stressed out about day of details, what will go wrong, what can/can't I control? Obviously, we all want our wedding day to be perfect and I'm just trying to accept that something will go amiss, but it will be ok because in the end I get to marry my best friend.

QOTD 11.6.13 - Long Island Weddings

Same guest list has been the most stressful. Figuring out who to invite the people with family drama picking a side or trying to keep them separated, inviting family for the sake of you don't want to hear it if they are not invited bs. Hate it....hate everything about guest lists lol.

QOTD 11.6.13 - Long Island Weddings

I would say the most stressful part of wedding planning so far has been the finances. My FH and I are paying for the wedding ourselves, so sticking to a budget has been very stressful.

QOTD 11.6.13 - Long Island Weddings

So far it's been getting FFIL to book the freakin rehearsal dinner. He's cheap as hell! It took me 3 months to finally find somewhere that would fit his budget and accomidate the amount of people we were having. He has the money - he would just rather spend it on his new girlfriend.

QOTD 11.6.13 - Long Island Weddings

Ugh my FILs have been horrible ..then finances.

QOTD 11.6.13 - Long Island Weddings

even though FH and I are paying for our wedding ourselves, logistics have me more stressed than finances. My head is spinning trying to figure out details like where FMIL can get her hair and makeup done or if she'll come to my house with all the BMs or how many shuttles we'll need to get all our guests from their hotels to the church and the church to the reception hall and back to the hotel. I can't wait to get my bonus from work so I can hire a coordinator to figure all these things out. My brain feels like mush just typing this

QOTD 11.6.13 - Long Island Weddings

so far the most stressful part besides finances is figuring out all the little things and little details.. the list goes on and on of what i'm worrying about, but the little things to me are important!

QOTD 11.6.13 - Long Island Weddings

I am having the most stress from the small details too. I had no problem committing to the big vendors, but I have been driving myself insane with things I thought I didn't really care as much about...flowers, invites, jewelry.