my question today is about your relationship with FH....now that you have been engaged for awhile and have gone through the planning process....what if any things have you reaized that you both (or just one of you) need to work on as a couple.. meaning...what areas in your relationship do you see needing attention....
For us...i think its really up to me. FH is so wonderful and i really dont give him what he needs all the time. He is a more sentimental senstive loving person and I am a cold hearted beatch not on purpose...I am just not as much a 'mushy' show my emotions all my time kind of person. he has mentioned to me before that he would like me to be more open and affectionate to him but it is something that i struggle with...and I am not sure why. As opposed to him...i grew up in a very loving family where the words and actions of love were used constantly...but i have a hard time being all kissy face constantyl....i promise to be more affectionate in 2009 because i know that fh likes to be shown and reminded of my love..
Nothin?....maybe i should start with the raunch....lol
JennyAPH
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I need to learn how to say I am sorry and admit I am wrong.. He needs to learn not to do everything at the last possible second or half-a$$ed.
JennyAPH
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Posted by JJC
For us...i think its really up to me. FH is so wonderful and i really dont give him what he needs all the time. He is a more sentimental senstive loving person and I am a cold hearted beatch not on purpose...I am just not as much a 'mushy' show my emotions all my time kind of person. he has mentioned to me before that he would like me to be more open and affectionate to him but it is something that i struggle with...and I am not sure why. As opposed to him...i grew up in a very loving family where the words and actions of love were used constantly...but i have a hard time being all kissy face constantyl....i promise to be more affectionate in 2009 because i know that fh likes to be shown and reminded of my love..
I am the same exact way I dont know why.. Altho somtimes I do have my mushy moments.
Dani777
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Well, for me I would have to be more concerned about his needs and wants. I seem to always just brush it off, and I know it's annoying to him. LOL
For him, he needs to learn to communicate more..LOL. He tends to keep things in and I get the wrong idea. LOL. Soo..thats that.
FutureMrsM
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Everything has pretty much been the same between us...
MrsList09
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I have the opposite problem that you do. I'm the mushy one and he's the cold hearted biotch (lol). But that's been our problem since the beginning. He's worked on it and has become more affectionate and I try not to be so sensitive and realize that's just who he is.
DinaAndRob
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We both have a hard time admitting when we are wrong.....most of the time I say I'm sorry first but it's usually late like a day later.
FutureMrsG
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We need to learn to communicate better...My FH does everything at the last second and he forgets that he has to think of me too...
MLAngelo
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Thats a tough question. I think I have a tendency of having an attitude with FH and he has a tendency of telling me what I want to hear and then doing things the way he wants. But we have always been like that, so its not something we didn't know about before.
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well its strange becuase i need to work on being more calmer..i can get heated really quickly and the sicilian inner biotch can erupt..im also wayyy to sensitive and can take everything to heart..he is the opposite..hes so clam and cool never gets upset so we do balance each other out but i need to show less emotion sometimes and he needs to say what he is feeling
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He is def. the cold one and I am more affectionate. It becomes a problem b/c I miss him doing things he used to do at the beginning of our relationship (like just kisses for no reason). Of course I get kisses hi and goodbye and ... when we are getting frisky ... but I miss the little things. Now after dating for years, those little things are missed and it bothers me. I tell him all of the time, but he'll do it for like one day and the next its back to his old ways....
Edit: I need to work on not flipping out so easily... its not just with him.... Im like that for other situations too... when I get aggrivated, I go from 0-100 LOL
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it's terrible to say but i definitely take out a lot of my frustrations on FH... this is something i def need to change because it's not fair to him...
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Posted by DinaAndRob
We both have a hard time admitting when we are wrong.....most of the time I say I'm sorry first but it's usually late like a day later.
same problem here !
VeggieBride
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we are both really stubborn and hate to admit when we are wrong. we both need to work on that.
Nuvia97
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for me at times I can be quite hard on FH, not knowing how to let the 'little things go' he is actually very good to me, my family etc...sometimes his procrastination does drive me NUTS but then I have to see the bigger picture which can be quite hard
I know in the beginning I used to be more 'sentimental, show more emotion' whereas now its more FH and I am the 'colder' one...i think its just various stresses in my life that make me take it out on the wrong person... so lesson learned for 09: learn to say im sorry esp if I am being a you know what...
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I need to learn how to say I am sorry and admit I am wrong.. He needs to learn not to do everything at the last possible second or half-a$$ed.
Ditto!
Lisa909
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We both need to learn to accept that we are wrong once in a while. It's impossible for both of us to always be right
Kristina2009
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I think we both need to work on cultivating our friendships more. We live together and sometimes i guess we just wat to be together too much.
