fh's mom passed away while we were dating so I never really got to know her... he is also an only child and not close to any of his distant family b/c of things that happened while his mom was sick...
i cannot stand his father... i think he is a very selfish and childish man who doesn't know whether or not he is coming to the wedding...he told us he thinks weddings are a waste...
lucky me...
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I have basically no relationship with my FILs. I'm very happy they live in Florida! I'm not crazy about them and there have been quite a few things about the wedding that have pi$$ed me off when it comes to them. I call them nothing - we don't really speak.
I have FSIL and it's basically the same relationship, which is we don't really have one. She also lives in FL with her husband. She came up to visit her friends on Sunday and FH and I picked her up at the airport. It was the first time we saw her since we got engaged - there was no 'let me see the ring' or 'how's the wedding planning going'
They are very cold people. I could go on forever about how rude they are, but there's no point.
However, I love, love, love his aunt and uncle who live up here. I wish they were his parents. They are so warm and welcoming.
I feel the same way about his aunt and cousins, why could they be his mom and sisters, they're the best and have been super supportive!!! We're having them involved in our ceremony and it means so much to me and them!
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My FFIL is really cool--quiet, sensible. FMIL tries too, too hard to be my BFF, to the point where I purposely back away when I'm in certain situations with her. She's cried to FH about how I don't like her and how we're not bonding. . .but hello, she tries to breathe down my throat every time I'm near her!!! I don't want another BFF--she needs to just be my FMIL!!!!!!!!!!!!
FBIL kicks ***--he's the BM. He's just super cool and fun to be around.
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My FILs are very nice and we get along well. There are little things here and there that bother me, but nothing major.
Same here. I've never had a problem. They are very sweet and treat me great. I also get along with my two FBIL's..
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I have to say that I have a great relationship w/FIL's. FH has a brother and a sister. I love them both. FSIL & her Husband are the MOH & BM and they are wonderful. FSIL has helped me through so much of this wedding planning. I call her my FRONC!!!!! FMIL & FFIL are wonderful too. We had our engagement party at their house. They help out so much. I call them both by their first name, although when they take about eachother to me they say 'mom or dad' which I think is so sweet.
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How do you feel about FIL's, do you get along well, do you have FBIL'S AND FSIL's? WE GET ALONG NOW, IN THE BEGINNING IT WAS A LITTLE DIFFICULT FOR ME... I GUESS I JUST NEEDED TIME TO GET TO KNOW THEM A LITTLE BETTER! I HAVE ONE FSIL AND SHE IS LIKE A LITTLE HIPPIE- SHE IS AN ENVIRONMENTALIST AND CURRENTLY LIVING IN WA. I LOVE HER SHE'S A SWEETHEART.
What do you call FMIL and FFIL? FIRST NAME BASIS... I ONLY HAVE ONE MOM AND DAD...
Is there anything abou them that bothers you? YES, THEY ARE VERY MESSY PEOPLE. NOT DIRTY, MESSY AND IT'S ANNOYING. AND THEIR HOUSE ALWAYS SMELLS LIKE GARLIC B/C THEY LOVE TO COOK. FMIL HAS ALSO MADE COMMENTS ABOUT HOW SHE DOESN'T 'DO' WEDDINGS AS IN HELP US PAY FOR IT, RATHER SHE WANTS TO PUT OUR DOWN PAYMENT ON OUR HOUSE!
Are they part of the planning of the wedding? NOPE. FMIL LOVES TO GIVE HER OPINION, BUT I DON'T LISTEN TO HER B/C SHE IS NO HELP.
Anything in particular that you wish they would not do? NOT TELL ME THEIR OPINIONS B/C THEY DON'T HELP!!!
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kgicrls
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I will have 1 sil and 2 bil's...
I get along with them. But I can only take them in moderation... as is with everyone, even FH
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All I have to say is reading all the posts on this topic, I'm a bit jealous....
FIL's are divorced, and have been for about 20 years.
FFIL is a nice guy; I can talk to him about 'issues' but he doesn't do much about them... I can see myself calling him dad, but it will be hard because I love my own dad to pieces and calling another person dad is darn weird..lol.
FMIL...well...there is no relationship. Period. No going further on that...lol.
FSIL...well, I've posted about that 'relationship' before....it's a one-way street with her...and a backstabbing one too..the kind that will throw you under a bus to make herself look 'perfect'. But let me tell you...most fo the family sees her for what she is (not her husband or MIL...but the others).
FBIL....FMIL's number one defender, no matter how wrong she is. He's gotten on my case for things in the past he should have stayed out of.
And FMIL, FBIL and FSIL NEVER seem to apologize for anything they do. They S**t on you one day, and expect you to forget.
FH is getting the best deal...my parents treat him like a son....if he only knew how lucky he was.
Girls....I am HAPPY for all of you that have great FIL's....treasure that!!!!
