What are your Ex-pectations after you get married?
Do you or your FH have keepsakes of past relationships? An old boyfriend's sweater, photos, love letters, etc? Do you both plan to chuck these items when you become husband and wife? Have you done so already?
What are your reasons for chucking? What are your reasons for saving?
A year or so after I moved into my FH's place, I found his drawer of old stuff. There were birthday and holiday cards but there was also a few pictures of Exes, a valentines gift, and a cruise album with his longest ex of 3 years. I wasn't angry - after all, I have some stuff from old flames back at my parents house. But I wasn't happy to be living in the same place with his ex gfs either! I showed them to FH and he said he didn't even know they were there and he threw them away.
I was glad he did - it made me feel like these other girls didn't mean a thing.
When I talked about the incident with one of my friends, she completely disagreed! She plans to keep all her stuff from past loves - it's just memories.
What do you think?
GlitterBox24
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wow im also the opposite. I have alot of stuff and believe it or not i still havent taken old pics off my laptop, i keep trying to remember to save them on a CD. (FH and I live together)
Even though my past is my past it was still part of my life and just becuase i have a FH doesn't mean my past didnt exist. I have great memories and had great times. I dont hate any of my ex's. But i am also the type of person that likes to keep old stuff, i keep diaries since i was 12 and i love to go back and look at my stuff.
when my FH was moving out of his apt. he also had a box filled with pics and letters of ex Gf's and he accidentally left it it behind, i bugged him for a week to go back and ask the super if he kept it, and my FH didnt care about it. and I was like OMG that was your past life, dont you want memories, dont you want things to show your children...LOL
I dont have things liek teddy bears, but pics, letters, cards.. ughhhhhhhhh i would be devastated if i lost my old stuff. OMG even now thinking about my teenage years and the great times i had and my bf;s when i was 14..
smilesjc81
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i have stuff- but he doesnt know who gave them to me- I dont see a point in making a fuss- they dont mean anything to me- i keep the sweater cause it's warm LOL the necklace cause it's pretty-
Letters and stuff Ihave thrown away out of respect.
he doesn't have keepsakes lol - i wouldnt care if he did though. HIS @$$ is mine now LOL
I'm secure in my relationship
xoabxo
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I got rid of everything pretty much i gave the jewelry to my sister i think i have a small box at my parents with little things in it. i deleted most of my HS and college pics off my computer and facebook when we first started dating because i they made FH uncomfortable when i was a party girl.
FH had already gotten rid of most of his ex stuff before we started dating but once in a while in a random box or something i would find something but he would rip it up and throw it out although one of FH ex GF left her coach umbrella and now its mine she has $$ so i doubt she even knows its gone and she also got him a chain for his necklace when his broke and i have been wearing it for over a year
anszusterman
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I'm FH's first real relationship, so he has nothing.
I have a box from one ex and we have moved it with us into two different apts. I haven't opened it in years, but I find comfort in having it around. It reminds me of happier times-not because of my ex, but because I was 18 and free! I'm sure I will throw it out eventually- but there is no rush on it.
Ang9483
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I was his first real GF as for me I kept some stuff for awhile but after around the 1 year mark i got rid of everything.
Bee12
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my stuff is somewhere in the dumpster of NYC... CHUCK THAT ISHHH
but like one of the girl above said, i dont care.. he is allll mines!!
christine825
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I threw away anything I had ever had from past relationships/flings. Nothing matters expect what I share with Mike(FH). As for him, I'm not sure if he has anything... I'm not even sure if he knows if he has anything saved. Once we move in together I'm sure we'll find out though! I hope he would get rid of anything he was still holding on to.
Thats-What-She-Said
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I have my box of stuff from when I was in high school on. I don't plan on throwing it out.
