***QOTD- 4/10/08****

Good Morning,

We're getting there, it's Thursday.

Hope the week is treating you well.

Ok so how about this question today?

What is the best advice you and/or FH have been given by either friends or family regarding your relationship or future marriage?

Many years ago my dad told me to make sure I was marrying my best friend and I can honestly say not only was dad right to say that but I am


A friend of mine married for almost 9 years now told me right before she got married that a piece of advice she would always try and remember was to never go to bed mad at your spouse. Maybe a little fight occurs or you are angry or he for some reason but don't take the anger to the pillows and sheets with you- try and discuss the situation and work it out before going to bed.

Have a wonderful day

hmmmm......coming from my mother

feed him and f *** him

I got the same type of advice michesq...... i was told to marry your best friend and to make sure that you enjoy having long conversations with him........and make sure he's the one you want to share everything with...
AND ITS SOOO TRUE.. he is THE ONE

I was given the same advice...never go to bed mad and FH & I make a point of always trying to fix any problems we have before going to bed or i just try and snuggle up against him in bed and it usually solves whatever problem i have caused

once my mom told me that the guy should always love the girl a little bit more

My aunt and uncle always tell Chris and I to always tell eachother that we love eachother and to never go to bed mad.

A friend of mine told me to always communicate and never keep things bottled up.

My cousin sad to make sure we have a healthy sex life.

I've gotten the same advice as you girls, never go to bed mad, make sure you can communicate to each other about everything and always tell each other that you love them

This came from my aunt after I broke up with my last ex after college who I thought I was going to marry:

'When I broke up with my college sweetheart he left me two weeks before our wedding. I was devastated and only went out with Grandma because she forced me to go places with her old lady friends. Well, one of her friends pulled me aside one day and said, 'When you meet a guy, besides all the other junk about knowing he's the one, you get a guy who loves you more than you love him. This way he will worship you and will never leave you.' I thought that was a load of sh*t, but it turned out to be true.'

Definitely true, that's what made me walk away from the ex for good and find my FH who treats me better than anyone I have ever known.

communication, communication and communication
oh also to keep it fun like we are still dating

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Posted by Ann 52409
keep it fun like we are still dating

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ditto to this one.

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Posted by Summertimegal424

hmmmm......coming from my mother

feed him and f *** him

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ha ha i like this one...

I always hear never to go to bed angry; we practice this now too. alot of people stress the importance of keeping the lines of communication open.

Always try to see things from the others perspective.

I've noticed that helps immensely. Any time I am mad about something, I notice that if I put myself in his shoes for a second, I can usually understand where he is coming from.

Also- before I open my mouth, I have to ask myself:

Is it kind? Is it necessary? Is it true?

By the time I get to 'necessary' I realize thats theres usually no point ;)

I was always told to alway find someone that can make you laugh and someone you can be silly with because laughter goes straight to the heart and can make any bad day a little better!

And I did, FH makes me laugh and smile everyday! No matter how mad I get he can always find some stupid or silly way to make me smile

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Posted by Summertimegal424

hmmmm......coming from my mother

feed him and f *** him

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blunt but prob some stellar advice!

i was told that we have to always make time for ourselves as individuals and for ourselves as a couple, even when the kids and financial responsibilities start to consume life.

It's funny because I am sitting here trying to think of good advice that we were given. Sadly, I have been given a lot of bad advice! FH and I are fairly young but have been together a long time and people always tell us that we should wait, date other people, and things of that nature. Honestly, the best advice I ever got was from FH! When we first started dating, we commented on how a lot of our friends seemed to feel the need to date a lot of people in order to find 'the one.' We were discussing how we both felt that we found 'the one' even though we hadn't dated many other people. FH said, 'When you find the one, why keep looking?' So, neither of us kept looking!

Always communicate!!!!! Treat eachother with respect, give eachother 'space'.....live, laugh and love.

This is a tough one for me - we have not gotten a lot of advice yet. I would say the only thing really would be that marriage is all about compromise.
You have to pick your battles.

Although I have to admit - I like Summertimegal's f*** him and feed him advice!