***QOTD- 4/8/08****

Hello Ladies,

Happy Tuesday. Hope the week has started off well for all of you.

Last night FH and I were watching tv and talking about the future a bit. Things we hope to happen, be able to accomplish and even where we see ourselves retiring.

Have you and FH thought about the your future together after the wedding? If so how so much and how often and what have you discussed?

Have you spoken about or decided to have children or not?

Have you discussed or decided where you will live after the wedding?

How far have you and FH looked into the future and where do see yourselves?


We have always talked about the future- I am and always have a been a planner. Professionally I hope to be at a larger law firm in NYC on partnership track and FH hoped to move into midtown and out of office in Brooklyn.

We have always discussed children as we both share the same thoughts about family.

We live together now but really need a bigger place ( I have to much stuff ) and have been looking but will more seriously look after the wedding. Maybe one day I will get my apt in Manhattan

As far as retirement (yes we talk that far into the future as FH is older than by 8 years so he will be there sooner than I). We both definitely want to retire as early as possible and try and put as much away as we can for that day and definitely have to retire to Florida to a nice, quiet development where we can play tennis

How about all of you?

Have a terrific day

Have you spoken about or decided to have children or not?
We have spoken of this and we want them but, Im alittle afraid since I have a 13 yr old already. I'll have one going into college and another going into pre-k. I told him only 1!!!,lol.

Have you discussed or decided where you will live after the wedding?
After we are married I'd like us to stay in the apt. I am in already...2 bedrooms at aa great price plus my son want have to have too much change in his life and then after he graduates in 4 yrs buy a house. By then we'll have money saved so it'll help.

How far have you and FH looked into the future and where do see yourselves?
We havent really.... I have and I am sure he has but, not really went into details. Just thinking of the wedding, house and kid right now.

we've decided to wait like 4-5 yrs before we have kids...when im 28 and hes 29...we want to enjoy being together first b4 we have lil ones..

right after the wedding we'll probably have our own apt...but we would love to own a home..which looks pretty unlikely if we stay on LI..so there are many options out there, we'll just see which is best when the time comes.

we havent really looked that far into the future..we're just looking forward to the wedding right now

We have talked about our future from the moment we met. FH and I have known each other for 18 years.
We speak about our future after the wedding all the time atleast 3x a week. We are excited to spend the rest of our lives together, but we are planning together. We live in an apt in NYC, but our next step is to move into a bigger place, we are actually looking to buy. We speak about kids, we know we would like at least 2 kids, but we are both 2 different religions, so we speak about how we will bring them up.
we also talk about our careers, where we would like and hope to be.

this is a daily discussion in our household

Have you and FH thought about the your future together after the wedding? If so how so much and how often and what have you discussed?

We talk about the future more often than I would like. Sometimes I just want to focus on today.

Have you spoken about or decided to have children or not?

We will start trying to have children about 2-3 years after we are married. I would like to have my first one at 28-29 and then my second one at about 33. And no more than 2.

Have you discussed or decided where you will live after the wedding?

We live together now so we will continue to live in our house but after the wedding is over we are also going to buy a house in Florida. We want a getway place and we think it will be perfect.

How far have you and FH looked into the future and where do see yourselves?

We only look as far as our first child .... After that who knows LOL

We talk about the future every once in a while. Definitely not something we discuss on a daily basis. We talk about where we would like to be in 5 years in our careers.

We both want kids but definitely a few years after we get married.

We own a co-op together so we will be at our co-op for a few more years before we sell it. We do hope to own a house one day... but we just have to save save save.

Have you spoken about or decided to have children or not?
Yes, we have. When I am 30, I hope to be pregnant by then. We want 2.

Have you discussed or decided where you will live after the wedding?
Yep- we have that covered. We are living in FH's Parent's house in a really nice apartment they have. Then we are buying their house from them in 2 years.

How far have you and FH looked into the future and where do see yourselves?
We see ourselves living life to the fullest meaning having 2 vacations a year, spending quality time with the family, being very successful in our careers. I hope it goes that way!

We both don't want children, at least not in the foreseeable future. We just want about 5 dogs, depending on how much room we have in our home/yard.
We have no idea where we'll live after the wedding, since I will be going on internship and that can be anywhere in the US. We ultimately want to settle in the northeast though and want a house rather than a condo or apartment.

FH have definitely talked about having children...and we both want to have them. I am not sure when, or how many...but we both definitely want children.


Right now FH and I live in Manhattan (moving to a new apt in 2 weeks!!!) but we don't think we want to stay here after we get married. I think after the wedding we will start to look for a house on Long Island, maybe a condo or something at first.

We haven't really looked to far into the future yet...we are way to focused on the now. We have a lot going on right now - moving, wedding planning, new jobs - so the future is still a little blurry for us, but i am sure it will be great!!!!!

Have you and FH thought about the your future together after the wedding? If so how so much and how often and what have you discussed?

We talk about the future all the time, atleast a couple times a week. We talk about the future of our kids we have now alot too.

Have you spoken about or decided to have children or not?

We have 2 boys now. we have discussed having 1 more soon after the wedding...like getting preg during nxt fall. Im already 31 and he's 36. I want 2 more but he's like NOOOOO! I want a girl. I feel out numbered

Have you discussed or decided where you will live after the wedding?

We are definitely moving out of NY...after he retires in abt 6 or 7 yrs.


How far have you and FH looked into the future and where do see yourselves?

We've went farrrr...too far actually. he makes jokes about getting twin beds when we get old...so not as to wet eachother in bed !

we decided we want to have kids right away, not a honeymoon baby but maybe soon after. We've been together for almost 7 years so we talk about what our children will be like all the time, it's so cute to think about.

Professionally, he's already teaching, I'm a substitute teacher right now so I'm hoping to find something permanent so we can eventually travel in the summers.

Great question!!!

FH already have a beautiful home in a great town that we both love. We talk about maybe in the future upgrading to a bigger house, hopefully a Victorian (my favorite and he is so great about that). We love the town we live in now and the schools are really great, so we'd probably just move a little closer to the water, but stay in the same town.
As far as kids, we can't wait. We'd have them now if we could afford to get married now. We plan to start on our honeymoon. We want twins so badly, and everyone thinks we're crazy. We even planned for me to freelance from home, we are in the works of that now, so when we have our babies, I can be home to raise them. We are always thinking of the future, and he's so great at it too.

FH and I talk about the future all the time. We even started talking about the future long before we got engaged. Now that we are engaged we are starting to talk about things in more earnest (when and how many kids, the kinds of schools we want to send them to, where we want to buy a house, and how we should start saving our money for things).

It makes me really excited even though we're only making general plans.

FH and I talk about the future all the time... he is 31 and I am going to be 26 (on April 27) we would like to have our first child when Iam 28-29ish...

Our biggest concern about the future right now is FH's job..... he is a perm sub and we are waiting for him to get a full time teaching job.. which is soo hard.. so that' sour biggest and main concern right now

It's funny -- I would have answered this question so differently two years ago but after my best friend had her stroke and died at 42 and I was diagnosed with lymphoma in September, we no longer talk about the future, we just enjoy every moment and take things as it comes because we've learned it doesn't matter how much you plan, for the future, things just come up.

We pretty much have decided on staying in the Massapequa/Bethpage/Farmingdale because it's centrally located to our families and our commutes.

Unforunately, I'm 37 and the chemo has probably taken care of the children question for us, so now our big decision is what dog to get.

We discuss our future all the time. It just seems like it all happening so fast!

We def want children just not sure when. Sometimes we say we want a honeymoon baby and sometimes it's like well lets just enjoy being husband and wife for awhile. I guess we will just know when the time comes.

We want to start looking for houses in the summer. I'm so excited for that!

As for the future, we just hope to have a happy and healthy family. We are really excited to raise children together and to be a wacky family!